Writer Junichi Watanabe has this sentence that describes the psychology of men:
"Men are like explorers, they always have a strong desire for the unknown, they are always driven by novelty. ”
But it turns out that the vast majority of men who parted ways with their wives and were with a third party felt regret and pain.
Men who can't stand the blandness and put freshness above their sense of responsibility will comfort themselves at first:
"Not willing to be ordinary is the right attitude to life. ”
However, when the freshness fades away, what returns to view is the cycle of mundane triviality, and they regret it and speak their hearts.
Treat his wife badly, and everything will not go well
The scumbag behavior of the character Lin Hao in the TV series "Shining Her" made the audience scream.
His relationship with Chen Xuanxuan lasted for six or seven years, and during this time, he was careful and every step of the way, and he always regarded the other party as a tool man who was "stupid and has a lot of money".
Before achieving his goal, he showed favor to Chen Xuanxuan in every possible way, and he took care of all the cooking and housework.
When there is a conflict between the two, he will take the initiative to bow his head and apologize, and create a self-motivated, hard-working, down-to-earth and capable "good husband" and "potential stock" character.
However, after successfully sitting in the position of deputy director by relying on his father-in-law's relationship, his true nature was immediately exposed and he began to dislike his wife in every way.
He not only betrayed his wife and cheated arrogantly, but also tried to squeeze every cent of his wife's value, without a bottom line.
not only let the woman buy a house and a car, but also help her relatives calculate the property.
After the incident was exposed, Chen Xuanxuan quickly drew a line with him and let him leave the house.
At this point, he fell from the position of deputy director, and Xiao San naturally disdained him, and ended up losing his personal wealth and going to prison.
If the marriage relationship is not sincere, do not disturb it.
Everything has a cause and effect, and some men are selfish, treat their wives badly, take others for granted, and have no gratitude.
And an unequal relationship without gratitude and full of calculation will eventually wither and break.
If there is discord in the family, everything will fail.
Those who lose their wives will lose all their wealth and everything will not go well.
Only when husband and wife respect each other can they work together and manage their marriage together.
In the midst of happiness and romance, we can support each other and nourish each other, so that we can gather good luck and create a happy future.
The more capable you are, the more you have to be good to your wife
An emotional counseling expert who shared a client's case.
When the client was poor and white, he met his ex-wife, who had a better family background and was better than him in all aspects.
In order to support him, his wife took the initiative to take on the work of housework, picking up and dropping off children, and taking care of the elderly, just so that he could go all out in the workplace and have less worries.
A few years have passed, and he has gradually improved in his career and successfully sat in a small leadership position.
However, as he rose through the ranks, he also began to be dissatisfied with his wife:
"She didn't want to buy her clothes, and every time she said that she would delay taking care of the elderly. ”
"Sometimes she has to socialize, but now she's like an old woman, she can't take it out. ”
"It's just a mess of chicken feathers when I go home, and I don't have anything in common, so I really don't want to go home. ”
Later, due to work reasons, he had more contact with a female colleague with excellent appearance conditions.
Compared with the original partner who is "no longer worthy of himself", he has repeatedly talked happily with this new love.
Not only did they have many common topics, but the admiration and adoration that was about to overflow in the eyes of his female colleagues also happened to satisfy his vanity.
Eyebrows and eyes intersect, come and go.
On one side is the original partner who has long been tired of it, and on the other side is a young woman full of freshness, and he gradually crosses the red line and falls deeper and deeper.
However, it wasn't until they married their new wife that the client discovered that the new wife was not as good as they had imagined.
She maintained illicit relationships with several men before and after her marriage, and no matter how much her clients talked about it or persuaded her, the current one always showed an indifferent attitude.
As a result, the customer is deeply distressed and ashamed, but there is no power to change it, after all, it is completely self-inflicted.
Director Ang Lee once said:
"The love of husband and wife means that there is love first.
Only when you are grateful for each other's goodness will you love each other more. ”
The more incompetent a man is, the more he is self-confident and looks down on a dull life.
As everyone knows, it was his wife who bought him a "unrestrained" life at the price of becoming more and more emaciated.
And a man who has the ability to have his own sense of morality and responsibility, can see and recognize the other party's contribution, and will naturally cherish and treat his wife well.
Husbands and wives who know how to respect, praise and be grateful can create a good relationship and write a happy married life together.
An important investment in life: Be kind to your wife
A netizen once posted online about his uncle's experience.
His uncle is an out-and-out scumbag:
betrayed his wife, domestic violence, and a slight dissatisfaction at work, so he vented his anger at home and wantonly beat and scolded.
His family and marriage have become fragmented because of him, and his wife can only live in her parents' house permanently.
What's even more infuriating is that he is generous to his extramarital affair partner, and he is not stingy in buying a house, car, or bag, but he is very critical of his wife.
His wife couldn't bear it anymore and finally divorced him.
He had a serious car accident this year, and after being sent to the hospital, his relatives did not want to save him, and his children did not want to see him, and only his ex-wife rushed to the hospital overnight.
But the ex-wife is not a virgin, she just wants to see the scumbag in the hospital eat the consequences.
As for the object of his extramarital affair - after answering the phone, he hung up in a hurry, did not show up in the hospital, and even suggested that he give up directly by extubation in order to avoid trouble.
Not all people who are married are the right people.
Having a marriage and family does not mean that you have a sense of belonging and security.
Venus once said:
"A woman is like water, and when she sees me at 0 degrees, I immediately become ice;
Love me with 100 degrees, and I will immediately boil;
If you use 50 degrees on me, then I will be lukewarm. ”
How you manage your marriage, how your marriage responds to you.
Treating your wife well and respecting her is accumulating blessings and good luck for yourself, which is an important investment in life.
Life is full of all kinds of accidents, but the solid strength behind the family is the iron wall against all misfortunes.
No matter how hard life is, there will be people who will spend it together, and no matter how difficult life is, there will always be a light for you.
Write at the end
A marriage relationship is essentially a solemn and sacred contract.
Once you can't keep the bottom line, deviate without authorization, and choose to betray and flee, then you should bear the consequences of self-destructing your oath.
In the dull life of a marriage, many people often misunderstand the true meaning of novelty.
The novelty in marriage is not about pursuing different partners, but about doing different things with the same people.
In fact, what threatens the marriage relationship is never the triviality and dullness of life, but the distorted view of marriage, the sense of morality in absence, and the attitude of evading responsibility of the cheater.
True love is loyalty and restraint, a lifetime of not crossing the thunder pool, mutual respect and mutual understanding.
In that marriage of two people in a house, three meals and four seasons, being able to cherish the person in front of you and have the courage to take responsibility is the most precious and sweet happiness in life.
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