When you fall in love with someone and be with someone, you want to be able to stay together for a lifetime and join hands until you grow old. However, many things in this world are unattainable, and the same is true for feelings.
You think you can grow old hand in hand with someone, but in the end, you are only together for a while, and then you become two people who are not related to each other, as if you never knew each other, as if you were together with someone else, not you.
But not everyone can completely let go of the breakup and start a new life alone, many people will fall into the pain of a breakup and can't get out for a long time. They have countless thoughts in their minds that the other person should not leave them, and they think that they should be sad, and they don't even think that they should be too sad, and they all take it for granted.
It's really sad to be separated from someone you like, but if you know why someone separates from you, especially if he knows that you still love him, then I guess you won't be so sad.
You think it's because he has changed his mind, he doesn't love you anymore, so he left you, so you are sad, in fact, no matter what the reason is, the reason why a person will leave you is because he thinks he will live better without you.
If he thinks it's better to be with you, he won't leave you at all.
In Zhang Ailing's short story "Red Rose and White Rose", Tong Zhenbao illustrates this point very well.
In the eyes of outsiders, Tong Zhenbao is an out-and-out good person, diligent and motivated, with a diploma, a good job, filial piety to his parents, helping his younger brother, etc., however, such a good person, in terms of feelings, is really selfish to the extreme.
Tong Zhenbao has had several girlfriends, but those girlfriends are just girlfriends, and some are not even girlfriends, such as Wang Jiarui, at best, she is a woman who he thinks can be together without being responsible. He took this into account, and that's why he was with her.
But Wang Jiarui really fell in love with him and wanted to marry him, at this time Tong Zhenbao was afraid, he knew that he would not marry such a woman, so he knew that he would bring pain to Wang Jiarui, but he still separated from her. Because he knows very well in his heart that the woman he wants to marry must be the right person for him and a good match. Only in this way can he continue to maintain his image as a good person, and he can live a better life.
As for Wang Jiarui, at best, it is just her own temporary pleasure, although her love is real, but this is not important to Tong Zhenbao at all, for a person like him who has worked hard by himself, it is the most important thing for him to maintain his status.
So he married another woman, a woman who seemed to him to be a good match. Although he didn't love that woman, and his married life was unhappy, and even worsened, he still maintained this marriage and continued to be a good person.
Therefore, you think that the other party has something unspeakable, you think that there is some misunderstanding between you, but in fact, there is none, the reason why a person leaves you is because he thinks that he will live better without you.
For example, Xu Zhimo, knowing that Zhang Youyi was pregnant, but he still had to divorce her, because at that time, Lin Huiyin was the most important thing for him, and he wanted to restore his freedom, so that he could be qualified to be with Lin Huiyin, in his heart, Lin Huiyin was his ideal wife, who could bring him happiness and joy, so he could be so ruthless to Zhang Youyi, completely ignoring her being pregnant.
But Lin Huiyin, she didn't think that she would be happy with Xu Zhimo, she had her own considerations, so she chose to take the initiative to leave, and finally chose to be with Liang Sicheng, because in her opinion, Liang Sicheng is the person who is suitable for herself, and she is the person who can spend her life with her.
In the final analysis, everyone has their own considerations, a person loves you very much and wants to be with you, because he thinks that he will be happy and live well with you, so leaving you is also the same reason, it is just to make his life better.
Of course, everyone's considerations are different, some people think that love is more important, and being with the person they truly love is called a good life, while some people will regard other practical factors as more important, thinking that only those things can make their life better.
But no matter what the reason is, in the end, it is for the sake of a better life.
Therefore, why continue to be in deep pain, you bless the person who leaves you, and at the same time believe that a person who leaves you is not the right person for you at all, what you need is someone who is willing to be with you at all times.
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