(This article is the author's original first release in Toutiao, and it has been opened to protect rights on the whole network, please do not carry it)
"I wish to win the heart of one person, and the white head will not be separated", I think many people envy such a loyal and unswerving love.
It is also said that "young couples come to be companions in old age", truly loving couples, laughing and playing when they are young, and supporting each other through life when they are old.
This kind of love is the envy of many people, but there are very few such loves.
Many times love is sweet, but marriage is bitter and difficult. The party who was wronged in the marriage chose not to divorce and endured everything silently, sometimes out of many considerations, and had no choice but to do so.
The reason why the older generation has such a strong marriage is largely because of their patience. When encountering violence and cold violence in marriage, they are all in tears, chew, chew, chew, swallow. So in a marriage, when the stronger partner leaves. For the other party, it cannot but be said to be a relief.
"To be honest, I didn't shed a single tear when he left. I'm so tired of serving him for so many years. ”
This is what an old lady in her 80s said when she talked about her wife who had passed away for a few years, facing the camera and not shying away from it.
What exactly happened to them? Let's take a look at the video.
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According to the old lady, she is 80 years old this year, a native of Suzhou, and is engaged in financial work.
When she was young, she didn't want to get married for various reasons, and she became an old girl in her 30s. At this time, the old mother persuaded her: When you are young, you think that you are nothing, but when you are old, what should you do?
So under her mother's arrangement, she married her current wife.
From the old lady's narration in the video, I know that her wife is the only son in the family and has three older sisters, and she has always been the object of doting at home, and she has also developed a self-respecting character.
originally thought that as a teacher, he should be reasonable, so at that time, the subject's salary was not as high as herself, and she didn't care about it.
I didn't expect to know that it was a wrong marriage after I got married. The husband has a withdrawn personality, often gets angry at every turn, and asks to listen to him for everything. can't communicate, and has been cold and violent to his wife for a long time. The longest time the two had spoken, they hadn't spoken for a year.
I haven't said it for a year? It's incredible. As the saying goes: husband and wife quarrel at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed. If it weren't for the matter of principle, there would be basically no overnight feud. If you don't speak for a year, proper cold violence can suffocate people to death.
So the old lady said that she was very dissatisfied with her wife, and she swallowed her anger for the rest of her life. In the next few years, the old man was sick, but the old lady was still serving alone. She confessed that she was too tired.
So when the reporter asked her, were you very sad when your wife left? Facing the camera, she bravely said: I was not too sad, but I felt relieved. He didn't shed a single tear when he left.
The reporter asked her again: He has been gone for so long, do you still miss him?
The old lady resolutely said, "No!" But since we are not divorced, it is still my responsibility to take care of him through life. If you change someone, who cares about him?
From the old lady's words, we can see that this old man really broke the old lady's heart for a lifetime, and he didn't let go of it in the end.
Some netizens said that she was laughing on the surface, but she was crying inside, crying that no one knew about the grievances of her life.
Some netizens said that cold and violent people look honest on the outside, and in the eyes of outsiders, he is a good person, but in fact, he will hurt you to the point of doubting life.
Some netizens said that people with rebuttal personality and cold and violent personality can't be found.
Some netizens said: Don't talk about the elderly, the same is true for many young people. There is an old one on the top, and a small one on the bottom. is afraid that the divorce will cause harm to the family, so I can only make do.
Some people say that this old lady's wife may have done too many good things in her previous life to meet such a kind and responsible woman.
It seems that there are many women who are physically and mentally exhausted like this in life.
Perhaps this is one of the reasons why young people are afraid of marriage.
Isn't this a bit extreme? This should only be for people who are unhappy in their marriages.
The marriages of the older generation are more or less like this. endure humiliation and seek perfection, sad and bitter, only you know the taste.
Some people say that the same is true of their parents' marriages in their own families. Fortunately, after my father left, my mother became more and more sunny.
People of the older generation think of what their grievances are, as long as the family is complete and the children are happy.
Grandpa's departure was a relief for grandma. It is also to congratulate myself on my rebirth.
Many netizens found their own shadow in their grandmother's body.
In order to maintain the integrity of the family.
It seems that there are quite a few people of the older generation who have suffered like this.
If the identities are reversed, grandpa will definitely not take care of grandma.
This netizen is also right, women must have the ability to make themselves happy.
It is not difficult for us to find that many times, it is the woman who is hurt in the marriage. No wonder some people ridiculed: As soon as a man leaves, a happy life has just begun.
Speaking of which, I remembered the conversation between two old ladies in the elevator.
A: It's a good thing for you, the old man left so early.
B: Listen to my advice, don't worry about him so much. Don't stop him from doing whatever he wants, and soon he'll be tossing himself away.
So you say that such a marriage, what is the point of insistence?
Write at the end:
I advise all the parties who have encountered cold violence in their marriage, and never think that your various forbearances can influence him. Don't try to wake up the person who is pretending to be asleep, every compromise and tolerance you make will only be exchanged for his increased disdain. There is no equal and respectful marriage, we must withdraw decisively and stop losses in time.
Because the person who solves the problem with cold violence in an intimate relationship actually doesn't love you at all, don't doubt it.
Is that right?