There is nothing more difficult in this world than to accept reality, to accept that something has happened, to accept that something has been so, to accept that something is irreversible, to accept that something has settled. More often than not, however, we can't learn to accept it, and as a result, suffering manifests itself in a variety of forms. Pain cannot change reality, so there will be many people who find comfort in many forms, but everything cannot be reversed.
The film recommended to you today is a story about how to accept it. "Flower God Cafe" is about a wife who loses her husband and arranges a reasonable ending for herself in a conjecture form. A loving family of four, especially between husband and wife, but an accident befell the family on an ordinary day. The husband's plane on a business trip exploded, and the husband's bones were gone, and the wife couldn't accept this reality, so she conceived a story in her head.
The wife imagines herself as a mother, and the husband is an intellectually deficient child, the mother and the child depend on each other, but one day, the child is attracted to another little girl, and the wife cannot retrieve her child no matter what way she does, so in desperation, the wife can only take the child to the little girl, but on the way there is a car accident. This is the story conceived by the wife, and this story diverges into reality in this film, and the wife is facing the reality of her husband's cheating, and it seems that only this reality can make the wife come out of her grief. Because the wife is not willing to accept the grief itself.
"Cafe of Flowers" seems to be a boring story, but when you see the end, you will be impressed by the creator's creative ability. These are not two unrelated stories, single mothers caring for disabled children, divorced women re-accepting their husbands to start a new family, and so on. This seemingly unrelated story is actually just a big story as a whole, and behind this big story, there is a fact that makes the audience suddenly realize that the husband is dead. That's where the creator comes in.
In reality, people can't accept sudden suffering, but after diverting attention, it seems to be much easier. We can't accept our loss, but if we add a definite term to it, it doesn't seem so easy to understand.
A wife's love for her husband is deep and cannot be taken away, but love cannot be taken away, and life can be lost in an accident, and if the two are combined, it will be a trade-off for the wife. The wife cannot take her husband back from death, but the wife can construct a dream for herself, in which she can relieve the pain of losing her husband in other ways.
This dream is cheating, maybe in the eyes of many women, cheating or infidelity in marriage is indeed a more terrible thing than death, physical loss is loss, and it will not have much meaning, but for psychological loss, it can be decorated into a more plastic story, which is enough for the wife, enough to use these "decorations" to cover up the sadness in their hearts.
This film is constantly interspersed with three stories, one is about a single mother taking care of a mentally disabled child, another is about a husband cheating on his lover and divorcing his wife, and the third story is a reality that the wife must face, that is, to get rid of the incident of her husband's death. If we delve into these three stories at the beginning, it is not difficult for us to find that the three stories themselves are not directly related, but when the film is about to end, the plane overhead crosses the arc, and it turns out that these three stories are nothing more than an imagination, a kind of solace that people who are unwilling to accept the show. At this time, the audience had to praise the creator.
Accepting reality is often not easy, so we have to delay this pain with more things that comfort our souls. Divert attention or package loss as something irreversible, such as putting one's most tired image on the loss. But even so, his wife is still difficult to hide the emperor in her heart.
In the face of his most beloved child and other girls to establish an intimate relationship, in the face of his husband and his lover became a couple, the wife still can't accept this reality, still can't admit such a connection. Even if she portrays her husband as a person who misbehaves in marriage or family affection, at this time, the wife is still unwilling to let go of her husband. This is the magic of loving someone deeply, and this is also the problem of the wife's inability to accept reality.
However, the reality does not hesitate in the slightest because of such attachment, so the wife has to accept some things that must be accepted in reality, and the husband has indeed passed away. He is indeed irretrievable, so there is the scene at the end of this film, the wife witnessed the wedding of her husband and lover, and hugged the two deeply, and the mother who loved her son deeply also made up her mind to take her son to see his girl, all this seemingly happy ending also indicates that the wife has begun to face reality at this time. So, the cold reality began, and we, as the audience, suddenly realized. It turns out that accepting reality means such a big effort.
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