Can you still be friends after a breakup?
There has always been controversy about this issue, and some people say that the best thing to do after a breakup is to treat the other party as if they were dead, and never get along. Some people also say that you can be friends after a breakup, and there are multiple ways to have multiple friends.
In fact, if two people no longer have feelings for each other, it is very good to be friends, after all, everyone does not have that kind of expectation, and it is more natural to get along.
However, there are some parties who still have feelings, but the other party no longer loves, for the one who still has feelings, of course, it is difficult to get along again, and there is no way to be friends, because as long as there are expectations for him, then there is no way to get along like friends.
The one who still loves, even if she has broken up, is reluctant to delete the other party, and will always leave a place for the other party in her heart, in fact, she is also waiting for the other party to delete herself, and feels that as long as the other party deletes it, she can turn the page.
A person is no longer in love, but he has not deleted the other party, his intention is actually very obvious.
1. Leave yourself a way back
He knows very well in his heart that this person still loves himself very much, as long as he is unwilling to let go, then she will definitely leave a place for herself in her heart.
However, for him, he was not satisfied with continuing to be with her, he wanted to meet something better, so he kept her in his friend list.
Because he himself is not 100% sure that he can meet a better one without her, he is also worried that if he doesn't meet her, what if the bamboo basket fetches water at that time.
Therefore, he kept her as a way back for himself.
If in the future he eats a closed door with another woman, or is abandoned by another woman, or after playing a circle and finds that she is still the best, then he can be followed.
There is no doubt that anyone who knows that the other party still loves him, but he no longer loves the other party at all, but is reluctant to delete the other party, is leaving a way back for himself.
From time to time, he will give her a thumbs up to her circle of friends and holiday greetings to create a feeling that he still has her in his heart. The other party can't let it go.
2. Continue to occupy a place in your heart
To be honest, this kind of man is really selfish.
He doesn't love you at all, he knows that you still love him, and he knows that only if he lets go, you can turn the page and start your new life again, but he doesn't do it.
He just wants to keep you in the friends list, just to dangle in front of your eyes, just to let you see how he's doing, and let you know his life.
He is very confident in himself and knows that you will not let go of him, as long as he does not delete you.
He is occupying the position in your heart, just not letting you release him from the position in your heart, which is the most selfish place for him.
In fact, no one loves you anymore, but he doesn't delete you, the reason is nothing more than these two, really scummy and bad.
He clearly knows your feelings for him and knows his place in your heart, but he occupies your heart like this, treating you as a spare tire, and as a pick-up man who will have a bad time in the future.
When he's good, he doesn't think of you. He's having a bad day, and he'll think of you.
When you meet this kind of man, the best thing to do is, of course, to delete him, don't wait for him to delete you, it's best to block him completely, so that he can never find you.
Then he will never be able to hurt you, and you will not waste your precious youth on him.
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Illustration of the article|Stills from "Adele's Life".