Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01. Introduction
Living together is a process of running in with each other and getting closer to each other.
If a person's personality is too strong, he has to decide everything by himself, completely ignoring his partner's feelings and wishes, and will only push him further and further.
Women want men to care more about themselves, and in the same way, men want women to give him more respect and understanding. In this way, friction will be reduced and the relationship will be more stable.
The following ways will make your husband "obedient" and treat you affectionately for a long time.
02. Understanding is the key to pry open a man's heart
I have a client, Lin Yue, and her husband and she have been financially strapped lately.
My mother-in-law was also in urgent need of a sum of money for the operation, and they had little spare savings left.
At this time, my husband's computer was lost. He was eating in a small restaurant, and when he turned around to answer the phone, the laptop bag that had been placed on his seat was gone.
Back at home, her husband told Lin Yue uneasily that he was ready to be complained about by Lin Yue.
Who knew that Lin Yue's first concern was whether her husband ate dinner, so she immediately went to the kitchen to prepare a bowl of egg noodles for him and urged him to eat it while it was hot.
She knew that a lot of things had happened at home recently, and he had been working on both sides of the hospital, not having a good rest, and losing his belongings, so he must have felt very uncomfortable.
Lin Yue accompanied her husband to eat noodles while comforting him, saying that if the computer could not be recovered, forget it.
When the husband heard this, he had mixed feelings in his heart, felt that he was lucky to have such an understanding wife, and was determined to take good care of her.
An empathetic woman is more likely to make a man open up and reveal his thoughts and thoughts.
When a man is understood by a woman, he will feel that she is the only one in this world who really understands him and supports him.
Women should make good use of their understanding, empathize with men, and enter his world. Men will also love women more and "listen" to her more because they understand.
Romain Rolland said: "Careful observation is necessary for the sake of understanding, and efforts should be made to understand for the sake of action." ”
A woman's understanding can relieve the pressure and scruples in a man's heart and bring each other's hearts closer.
03. There is a lot of discussion, which can make men feel cherished
In a family, it is not who has the final say, but both people need to be involved.
Discussing with each other, always standing together in case of trouble, and maintaining progress and retreat together, can make men feel cherished.
To be one husband and wife is to share happiness and happiness together, and to share pressure and responsibilities together.
Women, when they encounter anything, always treat men as a whole. Learning to consider a man's opinion and care about his thoughts and feelings is more conducive to the management of feelings.
For example, take the initiative to ask for a man's opinion and listen to his ideas. When encountering big and small things, be discussable.
A man can feel the cherishment and respect of a woman, which gives him a great sense of satisfaction and inspires more motivation and enthusiasm.
If you want men to be obedient, women don't use commanding force, don't say anything. It's about learning to be negotiable and give men enough respect.
In doing so, the man will also give you more maintenance and kindness, making the relationship more stable.
04. Protect him properly and give him the feeling of spoiling him
In "Thirty Only", Zhong Xiaoqin and Chen Yu went through the divorce turmoil, and both parties got to know each other again. Decided to give each other another chance to run a marriage.
Zhong Xiaoqin used the money from selling the copyright of the novel to buy Chen Yu a massage chair of more than 30,000 yuan, so that he could relax after being tired from work.
She also spent a lot of money to buy the homestay run by her mother-in-law, so that her mother-in-law's life in her later years was more secure.
Zhong Xiaoqin also tried her best to defend Chen Yu in front of her parents, saying that as a wife, she should understand Chen Yu's scruples and worries and strive to share them for him.
When Chen Yu heard everything Zhong Xiaoqin had done for herself, he felt warm in his heart, and his eyes were full of love and gratitude.
In intimate relationships, men and women are not opposites. Between two people, it is not the one who has the upper hand, who is the final winner.
Manage your marriage well, manage your relationship well, and each other is the winner.
Women should properly maintain the man, give him the feeling of spoiling him, and let him know that you value each other's feelings.
A woman who properly maintains a man in life will give him a feeling of "it's good to have you".
He will cherish the time when you are by his side, and try to make you feel his love and care.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
Women who are too strong tend to push men away and can hinder the establishment and maintenance of their feelings for each other.
If you want a man to be obedient, you must first understand him, understand him, respect his wishes, and make him feel your maintenance.
A little bit of his inner world, he will regard you as the most precious treasure, and devote all his energy to managing each other's feelings.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.