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My name is Qin Wan, a 40-year-old woman who was once smoothed out by life and woken up by fate. After 3 years of marriage, I quit my job and became a full-time housewife.
In those days, I circled around my husband and children all day long, and slowly, I forgot to dress up and alienated myself from my former friends and social circle.
I thought that this was the stability and happiness that marriage brought me, until that stormy night, when my husband came home and filed for divorce from me.
I asked him why he wanted to divorce me, and he said to me unabashedly: "I'm in love with another woman, as long as you agree to the divorce, I will give you some compensation." ”
At that moment, I seemed to wake up from a dream, the original stable life may not necessarily be happy to the end, and the original sweet love will slowly disappear with the ordinary life.
After the divorce, I looked at the bloated woman in the mirror with empty eyes, and my heart was sour, is the woman in the mirror me?
How did I become like this? I questioned myself, and I hated the man who had betrayed me so much that he had said he would love me all his life.
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During that time, I fell into a deep despair. I used to think that marriage was all I had, but now I am a stupid woman who is good for nothing. I don't know how to face the future, and I don't know how to find myself again.
Later, my best friend told me that life doesn't stop because of your decadence, and you can't just sink like that. He betrayed you, and you have to let him know that without him, you can live just like a child.
After listening to my best friend's advice, I decided to live my life again. From that day on, I started practicing yoga every day to get back to the slim figure I was before I got married.
Later, I re-established my social circle and gathered with my friends every week to share the details of my life.
During this period, I also used my spare time to write a novel about my marriage and post it on the website. Unexpectedly, my story resonated with many people, and my novel became famous in one fell swoop.
What I didn't expect was that a few months later, a director approached me and said that he wanted to make my novel into a TV series and was willing to pay for the rights to the novel.
In this way, I earned the first pot of gold in my life by writing online novels, and my life with my son also went up a notch.
All these changes have made me regain my enthusiasm and confidence in life.
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This painful experience also made me understand that after a woman gets married, she must engrave the word "self" in her heart. We can't lose ourselves because of marriage and family, and we can't forget to grow up because of comfort. Otherwise, when the storm of fate comes, we are destined to have a "bleak evening".
Now, I not only have independent financial ability, but also have inner firmness and self-confidence. I know that no matter what difficulties and challenges I encounter in the future, I have the ability to face and overcome them.
I also learned that marriage is just a part of life, and it should never be an excuse for us to give up on ourselves and stop growing.
Finally, I would like to tell all women in marriage not to forget themselves. We must not only be a good wife and mother, but also ourselves.
Now I am no longer the Qin Wan who was defeated by life, but an independent, confident and pursuing woman.
I hope that my story can bring some inspiration and encouragement to all women who are lost and struggling in their marriages. Let's work together to engrave the word "self" in our hearts and live our own wonderful life!
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We often say that life is like a gamble, and the outcome depends entirely on what you bet on.
And if a woman bets on the man she wants to rely on, then the reality will definitely give you a heavy slap, just like Qin Wan in the article, because she was overly dependent on her husband and lost herself, she was betrayed and divorced.
It is impossible to rely on others, you may be able to rely on it for a while, but it will definitely not be a lifetime, so if you have the time and energy, you must spend more time to improve yourself, only in this way can you ensure the happiness of your life.