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"The old have support, the old have something to rely on" is the pursuit of many people in their later life. After working hard all my life, it is undoubtedly the greatest luck to be able to spend a happy and stable old age when I am old.
But in reality, this seemingly simple requirement is simply too difficult to achieve.
When people get old, they will inevitably have difficulty moving, and they need someone to take care of them.
However, whether it is children, nannies or nursing homes, these pension methods cannot guarantee that the elderly will have a happy and decent life in their old age.
When children are inevitably unable to take care of the elderly, there will be all kinds of "shady scenes" for the elderly. Especially in nursing homes, the "unspoken rules" are even more varied.
The "shady" of the nanny industry
It is said that raising children to prevent old age, but modern life is stressful, and although many children intend to honor the elderly, they have more than enough energy to do so.
Therefore, many people will hire nannies to take care of their parents, but they will not think that the shady scenes in the nanny industry may bring great harm to the elderly.
Babysitters take care of the elderly
In 2014, Ms. Liang's mother-in-law had just been discharged from the hospital. Since her body had not yet recovered and her mobility was difficult, Ms. Liang wanted to hire a nanny to take care of her mother-in-law.
At a nanny agency, Ms. Liang hand-picked a nanny. She thinks that this nanny is simple and down-to-earth, and looking at her resume, she has a lot of experience as a nanny before.
Ms. Liang was satisfied and took the nanny home. But just a few days after the new nanny came to the door, Ms. Liang's mother-in-law suddenly died violently.
Ms. Liang immediately suspected that her mother-in-law's death had something to do with the nanny.
Because the nanny repeatedly stressed to Ms. Liang on the first day of work that if the old man died halfway, even if she worked for less than a month, Ms. Liang would pay her according to one month's salary.
Ms. Leung suspected that the nanny had murdered the elderly man in order to get her wages quickly.
Later, after a police investigation, the nanny surnamed He first fed the old man broth containing pesticides and sleeping pills, and then injected poison into the old man's body.
Finally, when he saw that the old man had not died after two hours, he strangled the old man to death with a rope.
The scene of the trial of the drug nanny He
And this is not the first time she has committed a crime.
In the 13 to 14 years and a half, the nanny was employed by 10 families, eight of which died shortly after the nanny took up the job.
According to the nanny's confession, the death of these old people was also due to her.
Coincidentally, in 2020, an online video made countless people shudder. In the video, a middle-aged woman first puts a towel over the face of an incapacitated elderly man, and then sits on the old man's chest until the old man stops breathing.
It turned out that the woman was also a nanny. The old man died mysteriously 8 days after she took up the job, and the children at home found out about this horrific scene only after looking through the surveillance.
As a child, you would never think that the nanny you hired at a high price not only failed to make your parents happy, but would cause your parents to die early.
The nanny towel smothered the old man
Although this is only a rare phenomenon, no one can guarantee that they will hire a dedicated nanny for their parents. Once the nanny has any crooked thoughts, there is a high possibility that the elderly will be hurt.
The "three, six, nine, etc." of nursing homes
Hiring a nanny may be a safety hazard, so if you put it in a nursing home with more people, will the care of the elderly be guaranteed?
Even in the same nursing home, the elderly in it are divided into "three, six, nine and so on".
On the surface, if the elderly pay the same money and live in the same nursing home, the nursing home caregivers should definitely treat everyone equally.
But in fact, according to the different conditions of the elderly, nursing homes will naturally "treat them differently" when taking care of the elderly.
The highest-ranking elderly in nursing homes are those who are often visited by their children.
Children visit the elderly in nursing homes
In the final analysis, nursing homes are also a service industry, and they should also pay attention to their reputation. No matter what you do in private, you still have to fight not to make mistakes on the surface, and you want to win a good reputation.
And those elderly people who often have children to visit show that their children are very attentive and concerned about the elderly. If the nursing home does not take good care of this kind of elderly, then the children will find trouble in the nursing home.
For this kind of elderly, no matter what the family conditions of them and their children are, nursing homes will never dare to slack off.
Middle-class seniors in nursing homes are those who are socially powerful before retirement, or whose children are powerful.
This part of the people has a lot of energy and influence in society. Even if the children do not come to visit often, the nursing home does not dare to neglect these people.
Otherwise, once this part of the elderly is dissatisfied with the nursing home, the adverse impact they can bring to the nursing home is huge.
Nursing home life
The lowest ranking of seniors in nursing homes are those who have no children, or whose children rarely visit.
There are hardly any people who come to visit them, and no one cares about their lives, and even if they have any grievances, there is no one to confide in. Therefore, in the case of insufficient manpower in nursing homes, or limited conditions, this part of the elderly has become the first victim.
Nursing homes will sacrifice their interests and prioritize the upper two classes of seniors.
Lack of good care is secondary, and some more black-hearted nursing homes will even use the method of increasing the "turnover rate" and "eating out of households" to hurt the elderly in order to increase their own profits.
The "turnover rate" is the rate at which new beds are freed up to accommodate new seniors.
In order to increase the "bed turnover rate", nursing homes not only do not take care of the elderly, but will start with daily medication, diet, etc., artificially increasing the mortality rate of the elderly.
Nursing home life
In order to occupy this part of the elderly's estate, nursing homes will delay or conceal the news of the death of the elderly after their death.
Elder abuse can also occur in order to achieve this goal.
How to retire safely?
The elderly are a vulnerable group in society, and it seems that various ways of providing for the elderly cannot ensure that the elderly can spend a happy old age. But everyone will grow old one day, and how can we protect our old age?
In fact, although the shady curtain of pension exists, it is a small phenomenon after all. As long as you do your homework in advance, retirement is not as scary as you think.
First of all, you must prepare enough pension funds for yourself. It is said that there is no filial son in front of the bed of a long illness, but sometimes it is not that the children are unfilial, but that the children also have to have their own lives.
If children are unable to work to take care of their parents for long periods of time, who will cover their living and family expenses?
The juniors visit the elderly
Therefore, only when you have enough pension money when you are young, you can enjoy better care when you are old, whether it is to take care of your children, or to hire a nanny or go to a nursing home.
Secondly, pension also needs to have a good kinship. Whether it is your own children or the relatives of juniors, maintaining a good relationship and connection with them can not only relieve emotional loneliness, but also become your own dependence.
Whether it is to hire a nanny or go to a nursing home, as long as there is the attention of relatives, the elderly will not be neglected or even harmed.
In addition, there are now many new situations of pension.
For example, housing for the elderly, community pension, etc. I believe that with the development of the country and society, our pension system will become more and more perfect, and these undesirable phenomena in the pension will eventually disappear.