As a boy in his thirties, I have experienced a tremendous change in the contemporary concept of marriage and love. In the process of finding a significant other, I gradually found that more and more boys, like me, gradually began to be more pragmatic in choosing a partner, and those traits that were once considered attractive, such as playing the piano, drinking coffee, and baking skills, became reasons for rejection.
My name is Li Yang, I am 34 years old, I come from an ordinary family, and I am currently working in an IT company. Although my life is not too ordinary, I have always believed that true love will come to everyone who has the courage to pursue it. However, as time went on, I came to understand that the concept of marriage and love was changing drastically.
There was once a girl, her name was Xiaoting, and on the first day we met, I was attracted to her elegant piano playing. We started dating frequently, and every time we met, she would play for me. Music connected our hearts and minds, and I thought it was the beginning of a beautiful relationship.
However, when I expressed my hopes for the future to Xiaoting, she turned me down lightly. She said: "Li Yang, you are a good person, but I can't give up my career. You know, I'm a barista, and it's my quest to make coffee an art. In the future, I hope to be able to open my own café, which requires a lot of time and effort. I feel like we don't have the same goals in life. ”
In the process of trying to find my other half, I met another girl who caught my heart, her name is Xiaoyu. We all love baking, and every time we meet, we make delicious cakes and breads together. Gradually, I came to see Xiaoyu as my favorite object.
However, when I plucked up the courage to confess to Xiaoyu, she ruthlessly rejected me. She said: "Li Yang, you are a very considerate man, but I can't give up my baking dream. I hope to have the opportunity to become a great pastry chef, which requires me to study and practice for a long time. I don't think our lifestyles are quite compatible. ”
I began to wonder why more and more boys are becoming so pragmatic in their pursuit of a partner, perhaps because getting older has made us more focused on planning and achieving for the future. We started looking at whether two people could agree between their careers, families, and hobbies.
Perhaps in marriage and love, we should face our choices more rationally. Love and passion are important, but for realists, the stability of life and future development are more attractive.
Over time, I have come to understand that for guys, finding a significant other is a journey to fit into each other's lives. We need to find someone who can progress with us and support each other. Hobbies and interests are only superficial things, and what is more important is whether two people have similar values and attitudes towards life.
Nowadays, boys are becoming more and more pragmatic when choosing their other half, and no longer simply pursue the advantages of appearance and appearance. We began to pay more attention to each other's inner world, life philosophy, and whether the two of us can face the challenges of the future together.