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My name is Chen Xiaoming, I am 28 years old this year, and I am an ordinary office worker. My younger brother Chen Xiaohua is 25 years old this year and is about to enter the palace of marriage. Our family was very happy about this, thinking that it would be an ordinary and festive wedding, but we didn't expect it to happen.
"1.6 million?!" My mother's eyes widened in disbelief.
"Yes, mother-in-law. My brother's fiancée, Cai Jiayin, said with a straight face, "My parents' request is 1.6 million, and I won't marry any less." "
I looked at Cai Jiayin's expression, she seemed to be very confident in this number, and her eyes revealed a sense of arrogance. My mother's face turned white, and she patted her chest and said loudly: "Your sister-in-law just got married, and she asked for so much dowry, can you handle it?"
"Xiaohua, are you crazy? Can you take out 1.6 million?" My dad also said in disbelief.
"Dad, I also think it's a bit much, but Jiayin's mother said that she must give enough bride price, otherwise she won't want to marry her daughter. My brother explained in embarrassment.
"Oh, that's right!" My mother glared at Cai Jiayin, "Are you kidding? How can you ask for so many bride prices now? It's just showing off your wealth!"
"Mother-in-law, don't say that. Cai Jiayin said expressionlessly, "My family is indeed very rich, so I want this amount." If you can't get it, don't talk about it. "
"Why do you love money so much at such a young age?" My mother said angrily, "Xiaohua really likes you, how can you embarrass him like this?"
"Mom, don't be angry. I hurriedly dissuaded, "Let's calm down and discuss it first." "
"What are we talking about? My dad shook his head, his face full of disappointment, "We can't afford to insist on so much bride price." "
"Then don't marry!" My mother said angrily, "Xiaohua, we are poor families, how can we have so much money for them? "
"Xiaohua, are you giving up on me like this? I know that my family wants too much bride price, but I can't help it. If you really love me, you should find a way to come up with this money. "
Cai Jiayin's words made me even more disgusted with her. I looked at her, and she did look beautiful, fashionably dressed, with a precious diamond ring on her hand, and she looked like a pampered rich daughter.
Later, I learned that Cai Jiayin was the only daughter of the richest real estate developer in our small town, and she was spoiled since she was a child. Her parents put all their hopes in her alone and gave her the best of everything. It may be precisely because of this that she has developed a vain and materialistic personality since she was a child.
I looked at my mom, the anger on her face still hadn't completely dissipated. As a rural daughter-in-law who used to be very poor, her biggest pursuit in life was to save money to bring up my brother and me, and finally let us live the life of a city person.
For her, the old custom of bride price is a burden on the poor. She had suffered poverty and white eyes in her in-law's family, and hated the rich the most for showing off their wealth and oppressing the poor. Seeing that her daughter-in-law asked for so many bride prices, she couldn't accept it.
"Jiayin, what's wrong with you?" My sister-in-law was the first to speak, "Your family is rich, but you Xiaohua and they can't take out a penny." Isn't it too embarrassing for you to ask for so many bride prices?"
"Sister-in-law, don't persuade me. My brother shook his head, "Jiayin, she is this kind of character, you can't persuade her." "
"And what do you want to do?" I asked, "Are you really going to give her up just like that?"
"Of course I don't want to. The younger brother sighed, "But Jiayin is like this, you have also seen it, I can't persuade her." "
"Then you're going to come up with a 1.6 million bride price?" I asked.
"How can I have so much money?" The younger brother said helplessly, "The savings I have saved for ten years plus the ones given by my parents are only hundreds of thousands, how can I get so much money?"
"Alright, don't dwell on this anymore. Cai Jiayin suddenly spoke, her tone was very impatient, "Either you give 1.6 million dowry, or don't do this family business, it's a very simple thing." "
"Your little girl is quite arrogant!" My mother was completely enraged, "What do you think of my son? Do you think you can do whatever you want if you have money?"
"Mom, don't be angry. I hurriedly grabbed her, "Jiayin is talking about her family's request, and we can't blame her." "
"Is it to blame her? She asked for so much bride price, didn't she agree to it?" My mother glared at Cai Jiayin angrily, "You are so materialistic at a young age, and you will pay it back in the future?" My son is so looked down upon by your family, and he wants 1.6 million bride price as a favor!"
"Mother-in-law, don't say that. Cai Jiayin's face was expressionless, "My family is indeed very rich, so I made this request." If you can't come up with the money, then let's not continue this family business, so why bother with it?"
"Okay, let's not talk about it then!" My mother slapped the table hard, "You rich people are domineering, and you look down on us poor! Xiaohua, let's stop here, they don't look down on you, and you don't devalue yourself!"
I looked at my mom, and there was a look of determination in her eyes. Yes, she is a traditional rural daughter-in-law, and she has taken "face" and "face" very seriously since she was a child. was put on the table like this, and she couldn't accept it.
What's more, her biggest pursuit in life is to bring up my brother and me and watch us live a good life. Now that her younger brother is finally getting married, of course she hopes that her younger brother will marry a virtuous and capable daughter-in-law, not a rich daughter who is mercenary and empty-eyed.
I can understand my mother's feelings. In her view, marriage is a union of two people who truly love each other, not a transaction measured by money. Cai Jiayin is so vexatious, she can't accept it.
I watched my mother clench her fists tightly, staring at Cai Jiayin with her eyes firmly in her eyes, as if she was swearing something with her eyes. I knew she was determined to stand up for her brother.
In this tense atmosphere, to everyone's surprise, my sister-in-law actually spoke.
"Jiayin, don't be too embarrassed about Xiaohua and them. The sister-in-law said earnestly, "Do you know that your mother-in-law was not easy when she was young." "
"What do you mean?" Cai Jiayin was a little puzzled.
"Your mother-in-law was poor when she was a child, her parents died, and she grew up eating idle meals at relatives' houses since she was a child. The sister-in-law said, "Later, when I married into our family, I didn't have any bride price, but I was looked down upon and bullied by my mother-in-law's family." "
"Really?" Cai Jiayin seemed to be a little moved, "Then why is the mother-in-law still so traditional and asking for a bride price?"
That's because she thinks that her daughter's family must give enough bride price in order to gain a foothold in her in-law's family and not be looked down upon. The sister-in-law explained, "But your family is so rich, how could she have thought that this would happen?"
"I—I didn't mean that. Cai Jiayin's face was a little ugly, "I'm just following my parents' requests, not looking down on you." "
"Then you should have a good talk with your parents and lower this request. The sister-in-law persuaded, "Your family is so rich, what's the point of giving 1.6 million dowry?"
Cai Jiayin was silent, she lowered her head, and seemed to be thinking deeply. I looked at her and felt a little sympathy for her. Although she is material, she is just doing what her parents want, not out of her own will.
"I'm sorry, good news. After a while, my mom spoke, "I was too impulsive and said something nasty to you. "
"Mother-in-law, I should apologize to you even more. Cai Jiayin raised her head, her eyes were a little moist, "I don't know about those things when you were young, I should think more about it for you." "
"It's okay, it's all old. My mother waved her hand, "I was so excited, after all, your family has such a high bride price demand, we really can't come up with so much money." "
"It's me who is too headstrong, and my parents have spoiled me since I was a child. Cai Jiayin lowered her head, revealing a look of embarrassment, "I should have a good talk with them and settle the bride price matter." "
"That would be great. My mother finally had a smile on her face, "You young people, the days will be long in the future, so don't worry too much about the bride price." "
I watched the scene finally calm down, and I breathed a sigh of relief. For a moment, everyone was silent, as if they were feeling guilty and reflecting on their words and deeds.
This incident made me deeply reflect on the impact of money on human nature. The reason why Cai Jiayin made such excessive demands was entirely because her family was too rich. She has been spoiled since she was a child, and everything is the best, so she values money even more than affection.
But we, ordinary families, can't come up with a 1.6 million dowry. We rely on the income of hard work, and not a penny is hard to come by. For us, the bride price is just a formality, and the important thing is that two people truly love each other.
The gap between the rich and the poor brings not only a gap in living standards, but also a difference in values and life pursuits. Rich people often value money so much that they lose their appreciation for humanity and feelings. The poor, on the other hand, value the sincere feelings between people.
This incident made me realize that money is important, but if you pursue money too much and deviate from human nature, it will not be worth the loss. I hope that my younger brother will marry a good girl who values feelings and respects human nature in the future.
The reason why my mother insisted so much on the traditional concept of bride price back then was also out of the importance of the family. In her upbringing, if a daughter does not give enough bride price, it will be difficult for her to gain a foothold in her in-law's family, and she will be looked down upon. She hopes that her brother's daughter-in-law can be respected enough and will not suffer as much as she did when she was young.
Family is essential for everyone. It is not only the foundation of our survival, but also the greatest sustenance and pursuit of life. A happy family requires mutual respect and consideration from all family members.
We should inherit the traditional virtues of the family, but at the same time, we should keep pace with the times and embrace new family values. Only by resolving differences with love and understanding can families live in harmony. I hope that my younger brother will be able to build a loving and inclusive family in the future.
At this time, Cai Jiayin's mobile phone rang. She picked it up, her face turning a little ugly.
"What's wrong?" I asked.
"My parents were very angry when they found out what had happened today. Cai Jiayin frowned and said, "They asked me to go back immediately, otherwise I won't want to get married." "
"And what do you do?" My brother hurriedly asked, "Are you still marrying me?"
Cai Jiayin was silent for a while before she spoke: "Xiaohua, I know that there are too many differences and estrangements between us. You are ordinary people, and we are rich people, and we think differently about many things. "
"But I really love you. My brother said eagerly, "Aren't these differences unsolvable, as long as we are considerate and understand each other." "
"You're right. Cai Jiayin nodded, and finally showed a smile on her face, "There are indeed too many barriers between us, but as long as we resolve them with love, we will definitely be able to overcome them." "
As she spoke, she turned to my mother: "Mother-in-law, I know that you are so angry for the good of Xiaohua." I should reflect on what I have done, and I should also have a good talk with my parents to solve the bride price matter. "
"That would be great. My mother nodded, and a smile finally bloomed on her face, "You young people, as long as you love each other sincerely, there is nothing you can't get over." Marriage is about two people tolerating and understanding each other, not measuring it by money. "
"yes, good news. My sister-in-law also spoke, "You will love each other and grow old together in the future, how can you let this little thing be mixed up? You can talk to your parents and settle the bride price matter, and then you can live a good life." "
Cai Jiayin nodded, her eyes firm: "Okay, I will definitely talk to my parents well, I believe they will understand me." Xiaohua, you have to work hard, we must overcome many difficulties and go to the end. "
"Yes! I will!" My brother held Cai Jiayin's hand tightly, and the two of them looked at each other and smiled, determined to face the challenges of the future together.
In this way, after some tossing, our family finally reached an understanding with Cai Jiayin's family. Although there are big differences in values between the two sides, as long as they are resolved with love and understanding, they will definitely be able to overcome them.
A few months later, Cai Jiayin and my brother got married. Her parents finally agreed to only pay a bride price of 200,000 yuan, which is still a lot of money for our family, but it is finally within our means.
On the day of the wedding, I watched Cai Jiayin wearing a snow-white wedding dress with a happy smile on her face, and I was sincerely happy for them. After that quarrel, Cai Jiayin seems to have become more mature and steady, she no longer loves vanity as before, but has learned to be considerate and tolerant.
My brother was even more excited and burst into tears, he hugged Cai Jiayin tightly and said something in her ear. I believe that after that quarrel and tribulation, they will cherish each other more, love each other, and work together to create a happy family life.
The whole family was so happy together, even my mom couldn't stop smiling. Seeing my mother's happy appearance, I secretly decided that I must give her more filial piety in the future and repay her for her nurturing kindness.
Life is like this, and it is often after quarrels and disagreements that we can truly appreciate the importance of each other. The disagreement between Cai Jiayin and my brother made them cherish each other even more; The disputes between our family members have also made us more aware of the preciousness of family.
It is because of these disagreements and tribulations that we can truly grow and understand the true meaning of life. I believe that after this ordeal, my brother will be able to love Cai Jiayin and work together to build a happy family in the future. And our big family will also be more united, to cherish each other, support each other, and move towards a better future together.