There are more and more singles in China, and the remaining men and women are difficult to digest each other, what is the essential reason?
Two days ago, I went to a blind date with my cousin who was a matchmaker, I haven't been to this kind of occasion, there are still a lot of people in the place, like a job fair, I walked around, the men and women on the scene are in good shape, many boys and girls look very matched, and they are all quite young. However, many girls are not young, many of them are almost 30 years old, but some girls have a good education, a good job, and they are all very stable. Most of the boys are also working at the normal wage level, and many of them have houses, but they all have loans, and my cousin said, you see these people are very good, right, and the salary level of the work is about the same. But these girls just don't look down on these boys. They feel that men are the breadwinners of the family, and if they can't support the family with such a salary, they should earn more than women. Moreover, some girls have a bachelor's degree, so they don't look down on men's college degrees. So looking at so many single men and women, this matchmaker just can't match.
My cousin asked my cousin if these girls were so demanding now, and what kind of boys were they looking for? My cousin said that they were looking for handsome men who had a house and a car, had the ability to earn money, had a high income, and had better come from a good family background and had no car loan and housing loan. Can a man with this condition take a fancy to these girls, marriage is still about the right family. There are still those people in this world who have good family backgrounds.
So, my cousin said that there are only so many older leftover women in society now, and they come on blind dates again and again, and they don't get along again and again, they don't look down on these ordinary men, and those high-quality men don't look down on them. At the end of the blind date, the girl complained about the quality of the man, and the man went back and said that the current women are too demanding, and they don't look down on me, and I don't deserve it. Therefore, many men now choose to lie flat, live by themselves if they can't find it, and be free, which has led to the declining marriage rate.
Now you know why there are more and more singles in society. Why are there leftover men and women of the same age, but they just can't walk together?
We have a relative in my hometown, who is 35 years old this year, but he is still single. In the past few years, I worked in the city, and I went back to my hometown during the Spring Festival and had a few kisses, but it was not possible for various reasons, some rural girls also worked in the city when they were young, and in the face of the colorful world outside, and various temptations in the city, their vision gradually became higher and higher, and they also longed to stay in the city and be city people, so the rural hometown was introduced, and they couldn't look at it. As a result, they are almost 30, and some are in their 30s, but they still haven't been found, and they have been single so far. And those single women who are already in the city, most of them are single because of their own personality and concepts.
And now there are many male singles, most of them are from rural areas, they have no houses or cars, and some of them have more brothers and sisters, and the family burden is heavy. In fact, many rural girls want to stay in the city, as long as the requirements are not too excessive, and they are more down-to-earth, it is not difficult to find one in the city and stay in the city. But men from the same rural area are completely different, they want to put down roots in the city, they have to put in a lot of effort, first of all, just buy a house has to bear a lot of financial pressure. Otherwise, it will be more difficult to find the other half. So now, many rural men have been in the city for a few years, and they are not young, and finally return to their rural hometowns.
My cousin said that according to her experience in being a matchmaker over the years, it is still the same old saying, marriage pays attention to the right family, how do you pick and choose before marriage, ordinary people in society will eventually marry ordinary people, it is a good thing to have dreams, but to be realistic and realistic. The rich and handsome you are looking for also depends on whether you are a match.
Women still have to take advantage of their young age, according to their own situation, to formulate reasonable mate selection criteria, then maybe you can still find a good boy to marry, otherwise, youth is only a few years, once you miss it, then you don't look down on those men who marry for the second time. Don't think that's a bad thing, that's the hard truth. Fantasizing about life in a big city, with a house and a car, trying to change yourself and your family through marriage, is difficult to realize.
Do you think it makes sense, do you think that the remaining men and women in society have been single for these reasons? You can leave a message or add in the comment area, and see you next time.