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My name is Li Xue and I am 32 years old. Five years ago, my husband Zhang Ming and I got married. Life after marriage was not very smooth, and we have always maintained the system. I give my mother 30,000 yuan every month, which makes my husband very unhappy.
"You give your mother 30,000 yuan every month, this money is enough for us for a month!" Once, Zhang Ming couldn't help but get angry.
"However, my mother is old and not very well-off. I want to do my part to help her. I explained.
"Do you put your mother and daughter ahead of our family? Do you know how much we have to live on?" Zhang Ming's tone was full of dissatisfaction.
"You earn so much every month, can't you give a little bit to help my mother? "I tried to communicate with him.
"In the future? Don't you know how stressful our lives are now? You give your mother 30,000 yuan a month, and our own living expenses are not enough. Zhang Ming's voice grew louder and louder.
"However, my mother is old and not in good health. I want to take care of her more. I whispered.
"Do you think that as long as you earn money, you can do whatever you want? Do you think it's fair that you take my money to help your mother?" Zhang Ming's face became more and more gloomy.
"I know you're also worried about the family's expenses, but I really want to help my mom. Can you understand my feelings?" I lowered my head and whispered.
"I can understand your feelings, but why do you always put your mother's interests ahead of our family? I would also like to give my parents some help, but we don't have enough money to live on. Zhang Ming's tone softened a little.
"I know, I just want to do my part to help my mom. I'm not intentionally ignoring our own lives. I raised my head and looked into Zhang Ming's eyes and said.
"I understand what you're thinking, but we also need to think about our own lives. Our monthly expenses are so high, you can pay 30,000 yuan alone, and our own living expenses are not enough. Zhang Ming sighed.
"I'll try to minimize the amount of money I give to my mother, but can you please understand my situation?" I looked at Zhang Ming, hoping to get his understanding.
"Well, I'll try to understand your thoughts. But in the future, can you give your mother less money? Our own lives are also very important. Zhang Ming reluctantly agreed.
"Well, I'll take control of it. Thank you for your understanding. I nodded, feeling that things had finally turned around.
Since that controversy, I have really relented and reduced the amount of money I give to my mom from $30,000 to $20,000 a month. Husband Zhang Ming also gradually accepted the situation and no longer lost his temper as before. However, I could feel that he was still a little dissatisfied in his heart.
Once, when we were having dinner, Zhang Ming suddenly said, "Honey, I've been thinking about one thing all this time. "
"What's the matter? I put down my chopsticks and looked at him with all my heart.
"You give your mother 20,000 yuan a month, which is still a lot of money for our family's expenses. Zhang Ming paused and continued, "I'm wondering if we should simply bring your mother to our house, so that you don't have to send her so much money every month." "
I was stunned for a moment, I didn't expect Zhang Ming to make such a suggestion. We've been married for six years and he never offered to pick up my mom to our house, which surprised me a bit.
"Are you serious, bring my mother to our house?" I couldn't help but ask.
"Yes, it will not only take care of your mother, but also reduce the pressure on our monthly expenses. I think that's a good suggestion. Zhang Ming looked serious.
I hesitated for a moment, then said, "But do you know how annoying my mother's personality is? "
"It doesn't matter, as long as we communicate well, I believe everything will be fine. After all, your mother is old, and it is our responsibility to take care of her. Zhang Ming reached out and shook my hand, his eyes full of encouragement.
Hearing Zhang Ming say this, my heart also softened a lot. After all, he was able to take the initiative to make such a suggestion, which can be regarded as giving me a face. I hesitated, but finally nodded, "Okay, so be it." I'll talk to my mom about it. "
"Great! I believe that as long as everyone understands each other, everything will be fine. Zhang Ming smiled happily.
And just like that, we decided to pick up my mom and come to our house and live with us. When I told my mom the news, she was ecstatic. She couldn't wait to pack her bags and move to our house.
In the first days, it was indeed a little uncomfortable. My mother always likes to point fingers and take care of things, which makes Zhang Ming and me a little annoyed. However, under Zhang Ming's patient persuasion, my mother gradually became easier to speak.
One day, I was cooking alone in the kitchen, and Zhang Ming suddenly hugged me from behind: "Honey, your mother's temper has been much better recently, and I think we made the right decision." "
"yes, but sometimes she's annoying. But fortunately, you can communicate with her patiently, and I appreciate you. I leaned into Zhang Ming's arms and sincerely thanked him for his tolerance.
"I know it must be going to be tough for you. However, we are now a family of three, and everyone must understand each other, and getting along well is the most important thing. Zhang Ming kissed me on the cheek.
"Well, I'll try. Thank you for your continued support. I turned around and threw myself into Zhang Ming's arms.
In this way, our family gradually adapted to this lifestyle. My mom has also become more considerate and less nagging like she used to. My relationship with Zhang Ming has also become more harmonious because of this. Together, we take care of each other, help each other, and live a simple and happy life.
Just as our family was getting used to this lifestyle, the unexpected happened. One day, Zhang Ming suddenly told me that the company was going to carry out a large-scale layoff, and he would probably be laid off.
"What? What about layoffs? What about your job?" I asked in a panic.
"I'm not sure either, the company said it would give us a severance package, but the exact amount is not clear. Zhang Ming's face was full of worry.
"But now that we're spending so much every month, what are we going to do if you lose your job?" I asked anxiously.
"I'm also thinking of ways to maybe find a part-time job to support my family. However, we still have to look at the company's final layoff plan first. Zhang Ming comforted.
When I heard the news, my heart sank. We have just adapted to this way of life, and now that Zhang Ming's job is threatened, it is undoubtedly worse. I couldn't help but worry about my mother's living expenses.
"Honey, what do we do now?" I couldn't hold back my tears.
"I will find a new job as soon as possible, and I will definitely not let this family lose its support. Zhang Ming hugged me tightly.
However, as the days passed, Zhang Ming was never able to find a suitable job. Our savings are running out. In order to support the family, I had to increase my monthly living expenses for my mother from 20,000 to 30,000 yuan again.
When Zhang Ming saw this scene, his face suddenly became gloomy. "Why are you increasing your mother's money again? We can't maintain ourselves now, and you still have to give her so much money!"
"But my mother is now dependent on us for her livelihood, and I can't leave her alone. We'll get through it. I explained carefully.
"Do you think we're having a better time now? You're throwing out the money we earn every month, and our own living expenses are not enough!" Zhang Ming's anger exploded all of a sudden.
"I know you're angry right now, but my mom really needs our help. We'll find a way. "I tried to calm his emotions.
"Find a way? Do you think we have any other way now? You take the money we earn every month to take care of your mother, have you ever thought about living our own life?" Zhang Ming's voice grew louder and louder.
"I'm sorry, I didn't mean to. I just wanted to do my part to help my mom. We're going to get through it. "I felt so sad that tears flowed involuntarily.
"Survive this? You're dreaming! If you continue like this, we won't be able to survive ourselves!" Zhang Ming angrily left the room and slammed the door.
I stood there in a daze, my heart desolate. I know we're in a really tough situation right now, but it's really hard for me to let go of my responsibilities to my mom. I felt like I was caught in a dilemma, and no matter what I chose, I would hurt the people around me.
Just then, my mom came out of the kitchen, "I heard you and Ming Ming arguing, what happened?"
I hesitated, but told her the truth about our current predicament. After hearing this, my mother was silent for a long time, and then said, "Otherwise, I will move out by myself, so that I will not add to the burden on you." "
When I heard my mother's proposal, I was stunned. "Mom, how can you say that? You can't go anywhere, you just live here. "
"However, I can see that you and Ming Ming are having a hard time right now. I don't want to be a burden on your life. Why don't I find a place to live by myself, and you can make it easier. My mom said with a serious face.
"Mom, how can you think that? Our current difficulties are only temporary, and they will be solved. We have to discuss well as a family and get through the difficulties together. I hurriedly explained.
At this moment, Zhang Ming walked in from outside. Seeing the two of us standing in the living room, he asked with some confusion, "What are you two talking about?"
I hesitated, but told Zhang Ming what had just happened. After Zhang Ming listened, he was silent for a while, and then said, "Mom, I understand your thoughts, but you should continue to live here." I will find a job as soon as possible and I am sure that our family will be able to get through this difficult time. "
My mother looked at Zhang Ming and nodded with satisfaction: "Okay, then listen to you." I'll try to keep my expenses to a minimum. "
After repeated persuasion from Zhang Ming and me, my mother finally agreed to continue living in our house. But I could feel that she was still a little worried.
In the days that followed, our family was tense and had a very difficult life. Zhang Ming searched everywhere every day for work, but to no avail. My mom also tried to reduce her expenses as much as possible, but the monthly living expenses were still a heavy burden.
One day, we were having dinner together, and Zhang Ming suddenly said, "Honey, I have an idea, I don't know what you think." "
"What do you think? I looked up at Zhang Ming, full of anticipation.
"I was thinking, should we sell this house and move to a smaller house? Zhang Ming said seriously.
"Sell the house? But this is the house we bought when we got married. If we sell it, what will we do?" I asked, a little worried.
"I knew the house made a lot of sense to us, but right now we're really stretched. Changing to a smaller house can not only reduce expenses, but also facilitate management in the future. Zhang Ming explained.
"However, we have invested a lot of money to buy this house. If we sell it, what will we do in the future?" I hesitated.
"We are in a situation where we have to make difficult choices. I believe that as long as we work together, we will get through the difficulties. Zhang Ming took my hand, his eyes full of determination.
Hearing Zhang Ming say this, my heart couldn't help but waver. I am well aware that we are in a difficult situation at the moment.
At this point, my mother said, "If you decide to sell your house, I can rent another house for myself." In this way, you will be relieved of your burden. "
"Mom, how can you say that? We're going to get through this together as a family. You just stay here and we'll figure it out together. I hurriedly dissuaded.
"However, your current situation is indeed not optimistic. I don't want to be a burden to you. Why don't I find a small house to live in, and you will have an easier time. "My mom stuck to her point.
Zhang Ming pondered for a while, and then said, "Mom, we have already discussed, you can continue to live here." I will definitely find a job as soon as possible and we will get through this as a family. "
"Well, then listen to you. I'm going to try to keep my expenses to a minimum and try not to cause you any trouble. "My mom said that, but I could feel that she was still worried.
And just like that, our family dragged on for a few more months. During this period, I watched Zhang Ming running around and experienced disappointment again and again. My mom also tries to control her expenses, and life becomes easier and simpler. Our family is working hard to get through this difficult time.