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My name is Zhang Wei, I am 36 years old, and I work as a marketing manager in a foreign company. Since the death of my parents, I have become the pillar of the family, taking care of my younger brother Zhang Hao and sister Zhang Mei, who are 8 years younger than me. Although the three of us have a good relationship, my younger brother and sister's attitude to life has always been a headache for me.
Zhang Hao is 28 years old this year, and has not had a stable job after graduating from university, living a life of part-time work and leisure. He has a casual personality and lacks money planning, often scraping together to get by. Zhang Mei is two years younger than him, has never officially worked, and spends her days at home doing nothing. She dislikes ordinary work as too tiring and hard, and she has no plan for her future. As the eldest son, I had to worry about the two of them from time to time. I have advised them many times to plan their lives, but they have always ignored them. Sometimes I also envy their carefree life, but more often than not, I just feel that they are too unmotivated.
"Hey, brother, I have something I want to discuss with you. "One Sunday morning, as soon as I finished washing, my brother Zhang Hao called.
"What's wrong?" I was a little uneasy in my heart, and my brother rarely took the initiative to discuss things with me.
"I've been really short of money lately, and I can't even pay my mortgage. Brother, can you lend me some money?"
I was silent for a few seconds, my younger brother has always had a loose life, and a few years ago he took out a loan to buy a small house with the financial support of his parents. But his job has been precarious, his income is meager, and I have always been worried that sooner or later he will not be able to pay off the mortgage.
"How much money are you missing? Didn't you get a new job last month?" I tried to find out.
"I've quit that job, the pay is too low, and the boss is harsh. Brother, I can't afford to pay the mortgage of 3,000 yuan this month, can you lend me this money first?" The younger brother's tone was a little anxious.
"Wait, is Mei Mei here? let me say a few words to her. "I decided to hear my sister's thoughts first.
Zhang Mei took the phone, and her tone was a little impatient: "Brother, what's wrong?"
"Meimei, do you know your brother's recent financial situation? He said that the mortgage is almost impossible to pay, should I lend him some money?"
"Brother, you just leave him alone. The sister's tone was a little stiff, "He spent the money indiscriminately, and now he regrets borrowing money from you, and once you borrow it, he will never end." "
"But if you don't pay the mortgage, the house will be repossessed by the bank. "I tried to say a few nice words for my brother.
"Then let the bank take it back, just to teach him this lesson. The sister's tone was very resolute, "He spends all his money on eating, drinking, and having fun, and never plans for the future, so don't pity him." "
I could hear some resentment and indignation in my sister's words, and it seemed that her brother's lifestyle also disappointed her. I was silent for a while, and then I said to my brother, "Okay, I'll lend it to you, but you have to make sure that you save money in the future and spend it on business." "
"Thank you so much, brother, I will definitely live a good life!" There was joy in his brother's voice.
After hanging up, I sat on the couch and fell into deep thought. Younger brother Zhang Hao has indeed lived a very casual life, after graduating from university, he fished for three days and dried nets for two days, and his work never lasted for a year. He usually runs out of money very quickly, and then he comes to borrow money from me.
I know that he bought the house with a good mindset and wanted to put down roots in the city as soon as possible and live and work in peace. But the good times didn't last long, and he soon indulged his style of life. He often spends time in nightclubs and bars, and his money is quickly lost like quicksand in his hands. In order to pay off the mortgage, he also worked as a temporary worker, but the income was so meager that he could not support his expenses at all.
Speaking of my sister Zhang Mei, her living situation also gives me a lot of headaches. She was spoiled by her parents since she was a child, and when she grew up to this age, she still had no formal job and had nothing to do all day. She scoffed at ordinary work, feeling too tired and too hard to match her. She often complains that real life is too boring and boring, and fantasizes all day long that she can marry into a wealthy family in the future and live a rich and luxurious life.
I tried to persuade her countless times to keep her feet on the ground, but she always retorted to me with the audacity that I was "too worldly". She felt that I was dragging her down to pursue her dreams, and she was very confident in her future, but she had not yet found the right opportunity.
Once, she told me that she was learning about entrepreneurship and was planning to open her own small store in the future. But this dream also died later, and she was troubled and quickly gave up. I knew she was just making a muddy excuse for her own escapism.
I'm really worried about my younger siblings. It's sad that they live like this, and they don't have the slightest motivation for life. Sometimes I envy their carefree life, but more often than not, I just feel that they are too lacking in planning and purpose.
I really hope that lending my brother this money will remind them both of them to reflect on their attitude towards life. But then again, I have a lot of doubts about that.
A week later, I transferred the mortgage of 3,000 yuan to my brother as agreed. But within a few days, my sister Zhang Mei came to me for a theory.
"Brother, why did you lend money to Hao Hao again? You just indulged him too much!" As soon as she entered the door, her sister went straight to the point.
"He can't afford to pay off the mortgage, and if he doesn't lend it to him, the house will be repossessed by the bank. "And he promised to live a good life in the future." "
"Hmph, can he change it?" My sister's face was full of disapproval, "Have you forgotten that he promised you many times before, but in the end it is not the same?"
"I really hope that he will change his ways. I sighed, "After all, he is 28 years old, and if he continues like this, he will really achieve nothing in the future." "
"Brother, you're just too simple!" My sister's tone became a little excited, "Hao Hao, he is just an idle person, if you indulge him like this, he will only become more and more lawless!"
"Then what do we say?" I was a little helpless, "After all, he is also our own brother, and we can't completely ignore him." "
"Then you can kick him out and rent a house!" My sister said, "Let him experience the hardships of life for himself, and maybe he will change his life." "
"But...... "I wanted to say something more, but my sister had already given me an ultimatum."
"Brother, if you get used to him again, I'm going to move out and cut off relations with you!"
My sister slammed the door and left, leaving me alone in deep thought. I know that my sister has some truth in what she said, and I am indeed too indulgent to my brother. However, it would have been too cruel for him to kick him out to live.
I was deeply troubled. As the eldest son in the family, I should have been strict with my younger brother to reform his ways, rather than indulging in his idleness all the time. However, my brother is also our own brother after all, and I can't bear to ignore him completely and let him wander outside.
I weighed the pros and cons repeatedly, and I was caught in a dilemma several times. On the one hand, I had to restrain my brother with harsh means to make him know the hardships of life; On the other hand, I was afraid that I would hurt our brotherhood and let him leave us completely.
The struggle lasted for almost a week, and I tossed and turned, unable to sleep at night. I began to reflect on whether I had indulged my brother too much, and whether I should have disciplined him in a more severe way. But the thought of kicking him out of the house made my heart ache again.
Just as I was struggling with this contradiction, an unexpected event completely changed my perspective on the matter.
It was a sunny weekend and I was tending to the garden at home. Suddenly, I was startled by the rush of the doorbell. I hurriedly went to open the door, but saw my younger brother Zhang Hao standing at the door with his head covered in blood, looking in a trance.
"Haohao, what's wrong with you?" I was terrified and hurried to hold him. I saw a long knife on his forehead, and blood flowed.
I carefully reflected on my brother's performance in the past few months, and although I lent him a 3,000 yuan mortgage, his lifestyle did not seem to have changed much. Perhaps, he has only temporarily restrained himself and made some reassuring promises on the surface, but deep down, he still enjoys the idle lifestyle.
I couldn't help but start to reflect on myself, had I been too indulgent and shielded my brother? Should I discipline him in a more severe way, so that he could truly appreciate the hardships of life? My sister's previous suggestion to kick him out of the house kept echoing in my mind at the moment.
However, when I saw my brother's scarred appearance, I hesitated a little. If we really drove him out, wouldn't it have caused him to leave us completely? Will he wander like this, or even embark on the road of crime? I can't imagine such an outcome.
Just when I was struggling with this contradiction, my sister Zhang Mei also came back. Seeing her younger brother covered in scars, her expression was stunned at first, and then she burst into flames.
"Brother, look at it, this is what you will do if you connive at him!" The younger sister pointed at her younger brother and said in a fierce voice, "He looks like this, do you still want to discipline him?"
I sighed, my sister was right. I indulged my brother too much, causing him to have no rules and goals in life, and he spent his days idle, drinking and causing trouble. However, when I saw him covered in bruises, my heart was filled with infinite pity and reluctance.
"Brother, I'm really fed up with him like this!" The younger sister continued, "If you get used to him any longer, I'm really going to move out and cut ties with you!"
I looked at my sister's indignant expression, and then at my brother's lifeless appearance, and suddenly, I seemed to understand something.
Family affection is such a bond that we can never truly and completely abandon our family. No matter how excessive the behavior of my brother is, no matter how idle he is, we will still treat him with the greatest tolerance and tolerance. Because he is our own brother.
We are all a family, and we have a family relationship that is thicker than water. Even if there are occasional contradictions and disagreements, as long as our family relationship still exists, we will definitely be able to resolve all disputes.
I looked at my sister firmly and said, "Meimei, no matter what Haohao does, he is our own brother." We can't just abandon him. "
"I'll admit that I'm really too indulgent of Hao Hao. But even if we're mad at him, we can't really kick him out. I continued, "We are a family, and we should use family affection to resolve each other's conflicts, rather than blindly hurting each other. "
My sister and I were blown away by his words. I saw that my brother's eyes were full of tears, and his face was full of guilt and self-blame.
"But just now, as I was lying on the ground, covered in bruises, I suddenly realized that if I continued like this, sooner or later I would have nothing left. The younger brother burst into tears, "I realized that I was already 28 years old, and if I didn't reflect on it, I really wouldn't be able to achieve anything in the future." "
My sister and I were deeply touched by my brother's words. Seeing that he changed his ways, the mustard in our hearts gradually dissipated.
"Brother, Meimei, I really want to change my ways. The younger brother said sincerely, "Please give me a chance to regain my energy and plan my life well." "
I looked at my sister, and she motioned for me to call the shots. So I said, "Haohao, you're right, people still have to take responsibility for their own lives. However, you must also know that turning over a new leaf is not an overnight thing, but requires perseverance and perseverance. "
"I know, brother. The younger brother nodded, "I will definitely prove myself with my actions." "
"Okay, let's start now. I patted my brother on the shoulder, "But don't let me down again." "