What is more outrageous than early marriage may only be the second marriage of young age.
After many years, I saw Brother Dayi's son Zhu Danwei on the hot search again, a 21-year-old boy who was married for the second time.
The video footage exposed on the Internet shows that in Brother Dayi's hometown, a photo studio broadcast a couple taking wedding photos, and it was Zhu Danwei and his current fiancée Chen Meng in the picture.
For the success of his son's second marriage, Brother Dayi spent a lot of money.
First of all, I bought a new wedding room of more than 200 square meters, the decoration is luxurious, jubilant, not only the red lantern is hung high, but also the wedding bed and wedding quilt have been prepared, only the newlyweds can take the bag to move in.
On the day of the engagement, Brother Dayi waved his hand and directly gave a BMW as an engagement gift.
In the video of the engagement scene, Chen Meng, the daughter-in-law who was about to pass through the door, smiled and called "Dad" sweetly while handing tea to Brother Coat.
Brother Dayi also said with satisfaction in the interview: The girl gave me tea at the engagement ceremony, and called me dad affectionately in public, I was very happy to hear such a title.
Brother Dayi's relatives who watched the ceremony together at the scene revealed the inside story: Chen Meng is a teacher, and he doesn't play the Internet, and his parents are also rural people who do their duty, which makes Brother Dayi and his wife very satisfied.
However, within a few days, Chen Meng's family background was picked up by netizens.
Although Chen Meng has a career, the environment of the Chen family is very shabby, he doesn't look like a rich man, and his family background is far from that of Brother Dayi...
As a result, a large number of netizens began to suspect that Chen Meng "fell in love" with Zhu Danwei, but he actually came for money.
Although it sounds "full of malice", netizens have praised and agreed, after all, the same plot has been staged in more than 2020...
Zhu Danwei, who was hollowed out, and Chen Yanan, who was scolded
At that time, 19-year-old Zhu Danwei encountered the first marriage in his life. The subject's name is Chen Yanan, who is also a serious nurse, sweet-looking, docile and can take care of people.
But looking back, the marriage didn't seem so reliable from the start.
The first is sloppiness. The two met through a blind date, and then they fell in love and got married, not to mention any emotional foundation, let alone friction in life and run-in in personality.
The second is child's play. Zhu Danwei was 19 years old at the time, and Chen Yanan was only 22 years old, and the two could not get a certificate when they got married, that is, they did not have the name of husband and wife, and they could not get legal protection;
An unreliable start brings an unreliable process.
After getting married, Chen Yanan first quit his job as a nurse and gnawed at home with Zhu Danwei, and then began to shoot videos for live broadcasts.
After his and Zhu Danwei's lives were exposed, they only briefly appeared on the hot search, and did not get too many people's continuous attention, so Chen Yanan began to rub the traffic and fame of Brother Coat intentionally or unintentionally.
First of all, he invited Brother Dayi to interact with each other, earn his own popularity and exposure, and increase the traffic in the live broadcast room.
Then he surrounded Brother Dayi's family, filming jokes, recording videos, recording daily life, and exposing Brother Dayi's work scenes.
With the popularity of Brother Dayi, Chen Yanan's personal account has increased in popularity, and it didn't take long for him to become a million-level Internet celebrity in the middle of the country.
After the account traffic began to take shape, Chen Yanan went live to bring goods, relying on Brother Dayi's singing interaction and trust endorsement from time to time, plus Zhu Danwei's family as a background board, her live broadcast sales have reached new highs.
In the end, she opened a company and transformed from an ordinary nurse to a female president.
Seeing that her life is getting better and better, and her business is getting better and better, Chen Yanan and Zhu Danwei's marriage relationship has also appeared more and more cracks, until the marriage change broke out...
When asked about it in the live broadcast room, Chen Yanan didn't have to shy away from it, and directly announced: Xiaowei and I are temporarily separated, and I will be alone in the live broadcast in the future.
At that time, it was only more than a year since the two got married...
After this series of operations, fans who came to Brother Coat said they didn't buy it.
Netizens carefully smoothed out all the operations before and after Chen Yanan and Zhu Danwei got married, and found that the consequences at this time were doomed before they got married...
So, everyone ran to Chen Yanan's live broadcast room, scolded her, and even cursed her...
Chen Yanan was also unwilling to endure it, and fought back, trying to prove his innocence. She has published three long articles, which are carefully prepared.
In Chen Yanan's description, she was actually very aggrieved, saying that she was incompatible with Zhu Danwei's personality and that her married life was very unhappy;
Even in a long article, I hope that Brother Dayi will stand up and help her clarify the facts.
She used very heavy words, first to cause negative impact and harm to the family, to make a potential threat to the fish, and then to "I will kowtow to your second elder to apologize", playing the posture of a weak person, trying to arouse everyone's pity.
But in the end, she didn't wait for any response from Brother Dayi.
On December 3, 2021, Chen Yanan announced his divorce and returned the bride price.
And along with this news, there is also a long article.
In the long article, she begged everyone to treat Zhu Danwei well, showing her innocence, generosity and maturity, while lamenting her misfortune in life between the lines, and made a gesture...
Of course, Brother Coat, who was already reasonable, did not sit still.
He did not personally tear each other up with his juniors, so as not to lose his identity, but used his company account to post an article "If I were Brother Dayi, I would ask Chen Yanan seven times: Why did I sell my wedding house after less than half a year of marriage".
The content of the article is detailed and substantial, not only listing Chen Yanan's crimes, but also viewed dialectically from an outsider's point of view, which is very convincing.
In the face of this long article, Chen Yanan, who knew that he was wrong, had no power to fight back, so he could only admit defeat.
After the end of this incident, a statement suspected of Zhu Danwei spread all over the Internet, which listed in detail what Zhu Danwei and Chen Yanan pointed out when they got married:
1. The bride price is 200,000 yuan
2. A Mercedes Benz car
3. All kinds of gold jewelry
The total value is more than 5 million, not including the newly built two-story wedding house.
In the face of the hammer, Chen Yanan did not pretend.
She said frankly: Some women marry people who value him or fancy his family background, I just chose his family background, which one is not like this in reality?
For the sake of fame and profit, this is the truth, and the beginning of marriage is a game.
But Chen Yanan may be immoral, but is Zhu Danwei completely innocent?
You can't think so.
Marriage is maintained by both parties, when one of the parties grows and evolves rapidly, but the other party does not want to make progress and chooses to lie down, it is destined that the conflict and contradiction between values will intensify day by day, until it is out of control.
In the Internet celebrity era of Douyin Kuaishou, backed by Brother Dayi's huge popularity and traffic, the people in Brother Dayi's village all have the mentality of "eating big households", and use various means to photograph the life of Brother Dayi's family openly and secretly to get traffic, and ask the closest daughter-in-law to back to Jinshan but turn a blind eye and be indifferent, it is unlikely.
As the son of Brother Dayi, Zhu Danwei is close to the water and the first to get the moon, he can follow Chen Yanan to do it, and even become the leader of the "Internet celebrity career" himself.
But in the more than a year of getting along, I haven't seen any loving interaction between him and Chen Yanan, nor have I seen him show his passion in the Internet celebrity and live broadcast career.
The object came on a blind date with his parents' wealth, the marriage was led by his parents, and the career after marriage relied on Chen Yanan bit by bit...
From beginning to end, Zhu Danwei is like a numb puppet who can only gnaw at the old...
How Zhu Zhiwen stepped into the mud pit step by step
So no matter from what point of view, the failure of Zhu Danwei's first marriage is not an accident, and this is inseparable from the pampering of the coat brother Zhu Zhiwen.
In 2011, Zhu Zhiwen became popular overnight with the song "Rolling Yangtze River East Passing Water", and countless media flocked to him, and he gained fame and fortune for a while, becoming a well-known grassroots star, and leaping to the peak of his life.
But the "happy" life has not passed for a few years, and Brother Dayi has complained bitterly in various interviews, harassment from the villagers, money borrowing from the villagers, and misunderstandings of gossip... He was troubled.
However, the most painful thing for him is the education of his children.
Before Brother Dayi became famous, Zhu Danwei had a well-behaved personality, read and write, and honored his parents.
After Brother Dayi became famous, Zhu Danwei's temperament changed greatly, he dropped out of school at home and became addicted to games.
At that time, he was only 14 years old... Talking to people, talking excessively, the slightest carelessness, slamming the door out.
Zhu Zhiwen watched his son slide into the abyss step by step, but helplessly stood by.
He was busy with business performances, entertainment and orders, and he couldn't go home every day, and he even had to take time to eat a reunion dinner during the Spring Festival.
The coat sister-in-law is a typical rural woman, who can't even write her own name, how to guide her children to learn and relieve the various psychological problems encountered by their children?
Faced with this problem, Brother Dayi was also anxious, and even asked the guests for their opinions at the show site.
The guests at that time did give Brother Dayi an idea: to move.
The idea is not unreasonable. The hearts and behaviors of ordinary people are basically determined by the surrounding environment and the people they make friends with, so there is the story of "Meng's mother three migrations", not to mention Zhu Danwei, who is still a giant baby with a heart and lacks a family education.
And the ancients also had a saying: people who are poor do not go to their relatives, and those who are rich do not return to their hometowns.
Things are gathered by like, and people are grouped. The root of some people's inferiority is that they can't see that the people around them are better off than themselves, and the so-called envy, jealousy and hatred all kinds of disasters come from this.
Brother Dayi became famous overnight, earning 10 million a year, and he has long been not from the same class as the peasants struggling at the poverty line; in terms of education, he has the ability and obligation to provide a better environment for Zhu Danwei.
But in the face of this pertinent opinion, Brother Dayi waved his hand and refused.
He stubbornly believes that his son Zhu Danwei was not a poor person before, and he will not "rely on his father" because he is popular.
But are objective reality and subjective speculation really consistent?
As a father, Brother Dayi obviously overestimates the minds and cognitions of his children.
Over the years, Brother Dayi first became famous overnight, became popular all over the country, gained fame and fortune, but encountered misunderstandings and attacks for building bridges and roads for his hometown.
After the rise of short videos, his house has become the traffic password in the village again, countless people chase and intercept, climb over the wall and jump out of the window, and the family lives under the camera day and night.
There are even fans who kick the door directly when the door is closed in order to gain traffic and hype the heat.
The most terrible thing is the gossip of the villagers.
Brother Dayi said that after he had money, the villagers came to borrow money one after another, ranging from tens of thousands of yuan to hundreds of thousands, and it was called borrowing money, but in fact, there was no repayment. And because he didn't lend money to someone, he was regarded as an enemy by that person's entire family.
not only spoke coldly about their family, but also often spread rumors to maliciously slander.
As an adult, Brother Coat is overwhelmed and upset, not to mention Zhu Danwei, who is still in junior high school?
Back then, Zhu Danwei, who was originally studious and motivated, suddenly dropped out of school and was reluctant to return to school.
The entertainment media have speculated that Brother Dayi became rich overnight, Zhu Danwei has no ambitions, he just wants to rely on his father to gnaw at the old, and he is unwilling to work hard.
But if you think about it carefully, Brother Dayi himself has been subjected to all kinds of insults and attacks, both openly and covertly, and his son is likely to be insulted and even violently attacked in a local school full of villagers.
However, no one asked, and Zhu Danwei didn't want to explain, but in the voice of outsiders ridiculing him for not seeking progress, he gradually degenerated, became addicted to games, and quickly gained weight...
In order to compensate for the lack of father's love, Brother Dayi is obedient and doting on Zhu Danwei, and Zhu Danwei is also in such an environment, and his mind is forever stopped at the age of 14...
Even when I am an adult, when I go out to buy clothes and get a haircut, I have to be accompanied by my father.
And he was like a child, standing aside, silently waiting for his father to bargain and pay.
After Zhu Danwei became an adult, Brother Dayi gradually gave up teaching, but pinned his son's happiness on others.
In the interview, Brother Dayi made it clear that it is okay for him (his son) to farm at home, find a reasonable (daughter-in-law), and live this life.
So, Zhu Danwei was only 19 years old, and Brother Dayi arranged a marriage for him.
Trust the relationship, find a matchmaker, high-priced dowry, send a house and a car.
With thousands of family fortunes and huge traffic, there are not a few people who don't care about Zhu Danwei's appearance, figure, personality and even character.
Before marrying Chen Yanan, there were a lot, and after divorcing Chen Yanan, it will not decrease.
What kind of family background and personality you have, what kind of people you naturally attract.
A person who wants to change his life through marriage, if he wants to find prey, then a person like Zhu Danwei, who has a lot of money but is insensitive, rich in food and clothing but lacks wisdom, is not the best hunting target?
This hunter can be called Chen Yanan or Chen Meng.
Chen Yanan, who lacks an emotional foundation and has a different personality, lasted for a year, and quickly withdrew after achieving his goal; although he was hacked and scolded, his fans, traffic and income are real.
Chen Meng, who was praised by the Zhu family for "not playing the Internet and not shooting videos", also opened a certain audio account after the engagement and official announcement.
She has posted a lot of videos, basically revolving around "luxury cars, wedding rooms, wedding books, engagements" and so on.
Although all the videos were deleted after the controversy, without posting videos or starting live broadcasts, in just 4 months, there were 48,000 fans.
In the future, she will resist the temptation of Brother Coat's traffic and popularity, keep her "heart" unchanged, guard the unenterprising Zhu Danwei, and be a reasonable daughter-in-law who teaches her husband and children;
But one thing is certain: even if she leaves, there will be many girls, from the subway and the sea of people, lining up, holding the number plate of love.
In these marriages, whether Zhu Danwei will be happy or not, and whether he can receive wholehearted love and respect is his own business, and it has nothing to do with the marriage partner or others.
What is the basis for happiness in life?
Speaking of which, I remembered a story I had read in a book.
In 1951, the day before the death of Du Yuesheng, a Shanghai magnat, he called all 11 children to his bedside and asked them to open his safe.
The wives and children have mixed feelings, after all, Du Yuesheng's economic conditions in his later years are not as good as before, and as soon as he dies, the family must be even more stretched, and it is the time for lack of money. In the safe, there may be a few priceless treasures to be distributed to them.
The safe opened, revealing a thick stack of IOUs. The minimum is 5,000 US dollars, and there are even 500 gold bars owed, which together may exceed 100 million.
But Du Yuesheng waved his hand and ordered: All burned.
The wives and children were puzzled and aggrieved.
Du Yuesheng said calmly: Keep these IOUs, after I die, you will rely on accounts to live, you will give up your efforts and lose the fighting spirit of life. Moreover, if there are ungrateful people, who are as great as enemies, and you have an IOU in your hand, you may even lead to death.
Leave no huge amount of money, put an end to the extravagance and mediocrity of children and grandchildren, and leave no hidden dangers, so as to prevent children and grandchildren from incurring misfortune.
This is Du Yuesheng's cleverness.
Wealth hurts the son of man.
As a parent, you and your generosity must learn to withdraw from the child's world at the right time.
Your children will not live under your protection forever, they will one day be someone else's husband or wife, someone else's father or mother, and one day you will grow old and leave, and they will eventually become adults who can only be relied on and not depended on others.
At that time, for a giant baby with no long skills, habitual dependence and demand, living happily is a distant luxury.
Instead of using material things to accumulate a child who lacks spiritual world, it is better to teach children the ability to enrich themselves. Let TA run hard in the rain without an umbrella, let TA have survival skills and independent thoughts, and let TA use his "golden spoon" to drink the most beautiful soup in the world.
This is what parents give to their children, a wealth that no one can snatch.
What do you think of Zhu Zhiwen and Zhu Danwei?