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Yu Juan, a woman who pursues excellence, has been expected and valued by her family since she was a child. She is humble and courteous, but she is also diligent and strong, and she has won many good results on the road to learning.
In the year of the college entrance examination, with excellent results, Yu Juan was hugged tightly by the gate of Shanghai Jiao Tong University as she wished. During college, she met her favorite partner Zhao Binyuan, and the two fell in love with each other, snuggling up to each other for warmth in the years of struggle in the snail's house.
After graduation, Yu Juan resolutely chose to continue her studies with fiery ideals. With the full support of Zhao Binyuan, she started a difficult but tenacious journey.
With work and studies going hand in hand, Yu Juan looks a little exhausted, but she secretly prays that as long as she can get a degree, she can bring sunshine to her family.
Sure enough, after two years of hard work, Yu Juan got her wish and obtained the master's and doctoral qualifications of the School of Sociology of Fudan University. In the year she graduated from her bachelor's degree, she won a national scholarship and went to Norway to study for two years.
After returning, Yu Juan, who holds a double degree, is destined to be a shining star in the future in the academic world. She soon got her wish and entered Fudan University to teach, starting a new journey in life.
Soon, 32-year-old Yu Juan was exceptionally promoted to associate professor, and her life and career were both fruitful, and her future was bright.
Who would have thought that at this glorious peak, a sudden nightmare would be dragged into the abyss by Juan Juan. In the autumn of 2009, Yu Juan was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer, and her bone marrow was almost engulfed by cancer cells.
This bad news is tantamount to a thunderbolt from the blue, and it hit the originally happy family of three.
For his wife's treatment, Zhao Binyuan made a desperate effort to sell the house loan, and Yu Juan's parents also came from thousands of miles away, and the whole family worked together to fight against cancer. All of a sudden, the cozy nest fell into the quagmire of the economy.
Survive tenaciously
In the face of this bad news, Yu Juan did not collapse. In order to deal with death, she embarked on a long and arduous road to fight cancer.
During this period, the selfless support and companionship of her family has become Yu Juan's greatest spiritual strength. Whenever the illness tortured her almost unbearable, as long as she saw Zhao Binyuan diligently wiping the dirty sheets and changing her dirty clothes; saw my mother silently bring the pot of fragrant Chinese medicine decoction; Hearing her son "Potato" singing a warm nursery rhyme in a childish voice beside the sickbed, Yu Juan seemed to have gained infinite courage and strength to insist on living.
At the same time, Yu Juan also had to endure unimaginable pain. In order to facilitate the doctor's bone marrow aspiration, it often takes up to two hours to complete the transfer and adjustment of her body.
Even the slightest touch would cause her to suffer severe pain and faint in pain. On one occasion, one of the people in charge even knelt on the ground and waited patiently for more than two hours, just to reduce the movement of Juan's body as much as possible and prevent her from suffering more.
The side effects of chemotherapy on Yu Juan are indescribable. She had to experience dozens of violent vomiting and stomach cramps every day, and the vomit was like a flood of predators, staining the entire hospital room.
Whenever her lover wiped her dirty sheets and pillows, her whole body would tremble uncontrollably and violently.
Just when Juan thought that nothing could be worse, a scam that was enough to destroy her appeared. Online, a self-proclaimed "miracle doctor" claimed that he had created a "starvation cure" that could be cured simply by following and taking his "miracle medicine."
Yu Juan's family, eager to survive, moved their family to a remote mountain village in Anhui Province, cut off all nutrition, and wholeheartedly obeyed the treatment plan of the "divine doctor".
However, when a patient on the same road died violently and the scam surfaced, Yu Juan fell into a desperate situation again and was forced to return to Shanghai to continue her Western medical treatment. In the face of her capricious illness, Yu Juan's heart was shaken for a while, but the support and encouragement of her family allowed her to regain her confidence and continue her desperate fight against cancer.
The last words were published
In the early morning of April 2011, after more than two years of tenacious struggle, Yu Juan finally couldn't hold on any longer, and she left this world forever at the age of 33.
Needless to say, the loss and endless sorrow of the loved ones. However, the anti-cancer years written by Yu Juan before her death have become eternal and precious memories. Two weeks after Yu Juan's death, her husband, Zhao Binyuan, compiled and published his blog diary, a 60,000-word work titled "Unfinished in This Life."
This posthumous work, which witnessed Yu Juan's arduous struggle for life, not only records her mental journey against cancer, but also embodies her extreme desire and attachment to life.
The last words confided by Yu Juan before her death have also been eternally turned into words and passed down to the world.
The true meaning of life
In the face of the cruel test of life, Yu Juan realized the two most precious things in life in the midst of illness: loving herself and caring for her family.
In those days of fighting to the death with illness, Yu Juan had nothing else to ask for but life itself. The career achievements and financial status that she fought for in the past have all lost their luster and meaning in the face of the judgment of death.
Only the desire for life and the deep attachment to relatives and friends made her feel the preciousness of self-protection and family care.
Looking back, Yu Juan is full of regret and remorse. In the past, she devoted all her energy to her work and career, but neglected to take care of her physical and mental health.
She reflected painfully during her illness, and if she could do it all over again, she would spend all her time with her relatives and take good care of her life, instead of desperately overdrawing her body until she collapsed.
Life was so ruthless that Yu Juan taught a lesson. In the face of illness, she realized the value of health and the importance of her family. Money and status are all nothing, only living and cherishing the present is the greatest happiness in life.
Yu Juan sincerely hopes that everyone can learn from her experience, love themselves, care for relatives and friends, and stay away from her overdrawn lifestyle.
Endless regrets
At the peak of her life, Yu Juan was a well-deserved career strong woman and academic star. Yu Juan, who has admired her parents since she was a child and has high hopes for her family, obviously cherishes her learning opportunities very much, and during her time in school, her grades are among the best, which can be described as the best among students.
After graduating from university, with an excellent academic background, Yu Juan entered her dream school, Fudan University, to teach. Soon, she met Zhao Binyuan, who she had loved for a long time, and the two fell in love with each other, and the small family was happy after tying the knot.
At the age of 32, Yu Juan was promoted to associate professor, with a bumper harvest in life and career, and a bright future.
Who would have thought that at this glorious moment when his career took off, a sudden nightmare would be dragged into the abyss by Juan Juan. In the autumn of 2009, Yu Juan was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer, and the cancer cells had spread to the bone marrow of the whole body.
Faced with his wife's desperate situation, Zhao Binyuan made a desperate bet and sold his property in the center of Shanghai to take out a loan to treat his wife. Yu Juan's parents also came from thousands of miles to share the responsibility of taking care of Yu Juan with relatives and friends.
For a time, the originally warm and happy small home fell into the quagmire of the economy.
In the desperate battle with cancer, Yu Juan had to reflect on her past life and work style. In order to realize the ideal in her heart, she worked and studied day and night, spending all her energy on her career, and neglecting the care of life itself.
It wasn't until her life was dying that Yu Juan realized that she had already been in the purgatory of illness. She regrets and chagrins that if she could do it all over again, she would spend more time with her family instead of wasting her life on endless work.
The price of losing one's life at the cost of a successful career is too heavy.
Ambition is unpaid
Yu Juan's death undoubtedly plunged the whole family into endless grief, but the anti-cancer years she wrote before her death have become eternal and precious memories and legacy.
Two weeks after Yu Juan's death, her husband, Zhao Binyuan, compiled and published his blog diary, a 60,000-word masterpiece titled "Unfinished in This Life."
This posthumous work, which witnessed Yu Juan's arduous struggle for life, recorded her mental journey against cancer, and her extreme desire and attachment to life.
In the book, Yu Juan honestly confessed her weaknesses and mistakes. In the past, for the sake of her career ideals, she was like a spinning top that never stopped spinning, working and studying hard day after day, spending all her energy on the workplace, and neglecting the maintenance of physical and mental health.
It wasn't until the advent of cancer that Yu Juan realized that she had already been in the purgatory of illness.
In "Unfinished in This Life", Yu Juan has a deep reflection on her life habits. For example, long-term night owl routine, overeating and other unhealthy lifestyles are the triggers of her illness.
Yu Juan listed these potential risk factors one by one, hoping to set an example and warn more people to value life and stay away from the lifestyle of overdrawing their bodies.
In this posthumous work, we can still see Yu Juan's persistent and positive heart. Despite the relentless torture of her illness, she never gave up her desire for life.
When her family supported and encouraged Yu Juan, she seemed to gain infinite courage and strength to persist in living.
It's a pity that at the end of "Unfinished in This Life", Yu Juan still had no choice but to stay away from all her relatives and friends. At the age of 33, she passed away forever.
But her last words and works will remain forever, becoming an eternal subject for people to reflect on the meaning of life.