The most difficult thing for married people to accept is that the "pillow person" is unreliable.
This means that all my years of hard work have been in vain. The forbearance in marriage is also in vain.
Do you say wronged?
Yes, everyone starts a family, after all, for the sake of having a teammate behind you who can be relied on.
How painful it would be if one day, he/she was proven to be untrustworthy?!
Between the ages of 45 and 55, if the person next to the pillow has 3 actions, it often means that it is unreliable!
01 When you are sick, the other party is ruthless and unjust
In reality, when people are in trouble, it is easiest to see whether the other party is sincere or not.
This is something that cannot be replaced by any amount of commitment in ordinary times.
Suppose we are sick and uncomfortable, and the person next to us looks at us and does nothing. It's like looking at a stranger.
They ate and slept in the same way, and they were not in a hurry at all. Not even willing to take the time to take care of us.
That is enough to show that this person is unreliable.
It's sad, but it's true.
For example, if a friend falls ill at home and has a high fever, he needs someone next to him to serve tea and water and serve the meal.
Then help watch the medicine treatment. And rightfully so?
But some pillow people can ignore it, play games as usual, and still don't do any housework.
Is it worth relying on if you are so cold?
Whether a person is worthy of dependence depends only on how he behaves in times of trouble.
For example, when giving birth to a child, whether the other party is reliable. What is the attitude of the other party when you are sick and weak?
These things are better than thousands of promises. You tell me?
02 Not doing business
In reality, between the ages of 45 and 55, people's views on feelings will be more realistic.
Need each other and be able to take on enough family responsibilities.
This is more important than any sweet words.
Suppose your pillow person, at this age, is still not doing a good job and lacks a stable source of income.
It is very likely that he is not worthy of your reliance in terms of mental strength and economy.
I know two friends, their husbands, who both say they are in business, but they haven't seen any profits for many years.
So they are all responsible for the expenses in the family. It's been more than a decade.
If you tell you the truth, do you feel materially dependent when you live with someone like this?
Apparently not.
A pillow person who has been "not doing business" for a long time and cannot provide a stable income will not only fail to be your support, but also become an economic drag.
If you relent, you will have to endure this drag if you continue to live with him.
In addition, the burden of planning for the future of your children falls on you alone. Can you afford it?
03 The pillow man who has long been centrifuged
In reality, the centrifugation of pillow people is a phenomenon that exists in many families.
Some families are just making do with life and maintaining a kind of appearance.
If you have lost trust with the person next to you, it is enough to show that he/she can no longer be relied on.
For example, some couples barely maintain a relationship for the sake of their children.
But in fact, both men and women have other beauties outside.
Even the usual communication can be saved, and at most a message can be sent.
You say that this kind of pillow person, can you rely on it? Obviously not.
Many people want to rely on marriage and partners.
It's just that in this world, there are too many regrets.
Some feelings are destined not to reach the end. Some people can't be relied on after all.
We can only be practical about this.
Planning for yourself early is the right way. You tell me?