Author丨Camellia Poetry Flower Reading丨Bamboo
来源丨安般兰若(ID:anbanlr)
True maturity: half pursuit of beauty, half tolerance of incompleteness, Zen tea taste, 13 minutes
On the road of life, we will slowly grow up and slowly become mature.
Maturity has nothing to do with age, but is a kind of experience and mentality.
Yu Qiuyu said:
"Maturity is a bright but not dazzling brilliance, a mellow but not tired sound, a kind of calmness that no longer needs to be observed by others, a kind of atmosphere that finally stops complaining to the surroundings,
A smile that ignores the commotion, a kind of indifference that washes away the extreme, a thickness that does not need to be spoken, a height that can be seen far but not steep. ”
Maturity is the calmness of smiling and watching the flowers bloom and look at the flowers. Maturity is a humble and gentle attitude. Maturity is a confident and peaceful state of mind.
A mature person always gives people a down-to-earth feeling, like a spring breeze. No need to swagger, become a scenery of your own.
True maturity means the pursuit and yearning for beauty, as well as the acceptance and tolerance of the disabled.
Knowing the world but not the world is the kindest maturity
It has been said that life is like a pencil. In the beginning, it was always sharpened and sharpened.
Just as when we were young, we were strong and high-spirited, and we couldn't wait to see all the Chang'an flowers one day.
Dealing with the world, he doesn't know how to be restrained and rampage.
On the way to growth, there were bumps and stumbles.
Inadvertently, the years have gradually smoothed out our edges and corners, not becoming smoother, but being carved by time to become more and more rounded and transparent.
A person, as he matures, will find that there are fewer and fewer grievances to be able to speak of, and there are fewer and fewer things to show off.
The whole person will become more and more low-key, more and more calm, and more and more peaceful.
Maturity is not to become weak, not to become sophisticated, but to learn to restrain one's edge, learn to let go of unworthy feelings, learn to forget unhappy things, learn to forgive the past, and learn to cherish the present.
In the face of pointing and discussing, in the face of pain and injury, we will not compromise easily, nor will we blindly argue, and know how to be silent at the right time. Use a slight smile instead of crying and making trouble.
After thousands of sails, it is not stained with the dust of the years. Knowing the world but not the world is the kindest maturity.
Look down on the vicissitudes of the world, and your heart is safe and sound
Bi Shumin wrote in "May You Embrace the Warmth of the World": The maturity of any soul must go through the baptism of loneliness and the tempering of loneliness.
Many of the joys, sorrows, and sorrows of human beings are not common, and there is not so much empathy. Everyone, in their own world, breathes silently.
Therefore, mature people no longer look outward for comfort, but return to the heart to find strength.
Maturity is no longer complaining, and not running away. Know exactly what you want, know exactly what you can do. No longer be ambitious, but down-to-earth, learn to accumulate strength in loneliness.
When you fall, you get up, pat the dust off your body, and move on.
Don't be presumptuous, and don't pretend to be high.
On the road of life, there are gains and losses. On the red dust, there are gatherings and scattering.
Some people, who say that they will live a good life, walk and walk but scatter. Some people, who say that the future will be long, but they have changed as they walk.
Those things you have experienced, those people you care about, those feelings you have touched, are gradually drifting away and disappearing. And we always have to go through some pain before we can learn to grow and become mature.
Maturity is to have a normal heart, in order to resist the impermanence of the world. Everything is downplayed, everything is fate.
I can afford it, I can put it down, I look down on the vicissitudes of the world, and my heart is safe and sound.
After years of ups and downs, I still love life
Life is always full of ups and downs. There will be sunshine and joy, but there will also be suffering and hardship.
Some people, after experiencing a low point in life, will collapse and no longer believe in others, life, and themselves.
And some people, even though their lives are full of holes, still hold on to hope in their hearts.
It's like surviving in a desperate situation and blooming a simple flower. It's not public, it's not noisy, but it's still secretly fragrant.
The highest level of maturity is to go through the ups and downs of the years, and still love life.
Maturity is not the heart getting old, but the calmness after prosperity, the calmness after the tribulation, and the quiet and elegance of the worldly and independent.
Maturity is the kindness of sincerity after thousands of sails, knowing the world but not the world, and being sleek and naïve.
Maturity is inner self-confidence and certainty. After ups and downs, the clouds are still light and the wind is light.
Maturity is a kind of open-mindedness and tolerance, no longer calculating, knowing how to forgive and let go.
Maturity is a kind of wisdom, just like ripe rice, hanging down the ears of rice, not bowing to reality, but in a humble attitude, grateful for the nurturing of the land, grateful for the gift of nature.
Be a mature person, half yearn for beauty, half tolerate the disabled.
Like a flowering tree, half rooted in the soil, half swaying in the wind.
Grow up in the wind and rain, and shine in the sun.
*Author: Camellia Shihua, a quiet writer, a practitioner in words. He is a member of the Henan Writers Association and a member of the Chinese Prose Literature Association. Many articles have been reprinted by tens of millions of large numbers such as "People's Daily", "Xinhua News Agency", "Insights" and "Ten O'clock Reading". He has published a collection of American essays "Meeting in the Deepest Red Dust". The new book "Time is Like Zen" has been published, and Jingdong and Dangdang are selling well. Official account: Tea Poetry Flower