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I proposed to get married, and my girlfriend asked me to promise six things, I was stunned, these six can also be said?
That day, the sun was just right and the breeze was not dry, so I mustered up the courage to propose the idea of marriage to my girlfriend Xiao Yun. We've known each other for many years and have a stable relationship, and I always felt like it was time to take that step. However, what I didn't expect was that after hearing my proposal, Xiao Yun was not as excited and happy as I imagined, but put forward six conditions.
"Applejack, have you really figured it out? Marriage is not child's play. Xiao Yun's tone was a little serious, which made me a little confused.
"Of course I thought about it, Xiao Yun, I love you, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I looked at her steadfastly, hoping to convey my determination with my eyes.
However, Xiao Yun did not respond to me immediately, but was silent for a while, and then slowly said her conditions.
"Applejack, if you really want to marry me, then you must promise me six things. ”
When I heard this, I was a little stunned, these six conditions can also be said, but I still tried to stay calm and asked, "Which six things?"
Xiao Yun took a deep breath and began to list her conditions one by one. The first condition concerns the management of household finances. She hopes that we can work together to create a financial plan that clarifies everyone's income and expenses, as well as the family's spending and savings plan. I think this condition is quite reasonable, after all, economic management after marriage is a very important part.
The second condition relates to the maintenance of both parents. Xiao Yun hopes that we can share the responsibility of supporting both parents, and give them enough care and support, both financially and spiritually. I can accept this condition, after all, it is our obligation to support our parents.
However, the next conditions made me feel a little uneasy. The third condition is about planning for the future life. Xiao Yun hopes that we can work together to set a clear goal in life, including career development, family building, and children's education. She believes that only with clear goals can we work better together to achieve our dreams. It sounded great, but I felt a little pressured because no one could predict what the future would bring.
The fourth condition is respect for personal space and privacy. Xiao Yun hopes that we can respect each other's personal space and privacy, and not interfere too much in each other's lives and work. She believes that everyone has their own independence and freedom, and marriage should not be a shackle that binds each other. I can understand this condition, but I am also a little worried, after all, marriage needs mutual support and care, if too much emphasis on personal space and privacy, will it lead to emotional estrangement?
The fifth condition is about the harmony of living habits. Xiao Yun hopes that we can tolerate and understand each other's living habits, and don't quarrel over some small things. She believes that marriage requires both parties to work together to operate and maintain, and only mutual respect and understanding can go further. I also agree with this condition, after all, differences in living habits are an inevitable problem in marriage.
The last condition is about emotional communication and the establishment of trust. Xiao Yun hopes that we can be honest with each other and build a deep foundation of trust and emotion. She believes that only true communication and trust can take us further in our marriage. This condition may seem simple, but it is the most difficult to achieve. After all, the human heart is unpredictable, and it takes time and effort to build trust and affection.
After listening to Xiao Yun's six conditions, I felt a little frustrated and confused. I don't know if these conditions are reasonable, and I don't know if I can agree to them all. I'm starting to wonder if our relationship is really strong enough to withstand these conditions.
"Applejack, what's wrong with you? Don't you think these conditions are too harsh?" Xiao Yun asked softly, seeing my hesitation and confusion.
I sighed and expressed my thoughts frankly: "Xiao Yun, I don't think these conditions are harsh, but I'm a little worried about whether we can do it. After all, marriage is a common thing for two people, and it requires the efforts and dedication of both parties. I am worried that these conditions will bring us unnecessary stress and contradictions. ”
Xiao Yun listened to my words, was silent for a while, and then gently held my hand and said, "Ajie, I know your worries. In fact, these conditions are not that I deliberately embarrass you, but I hope that we can face marriage more maturely and rationally. I believe that as long as we truly love each other and work together, these conditions will not become an obstacle for us. Instead, they will become the cornerstone of our marriage, allowing us to cherish and love each other more. ”
After listening to Xiao Yun's words, I began to reflect on my thoughts. Maybe I was too worried and anxious, ignoring Xiao Yun's original intention and intention of putting forward these conditions. I began to try to understand her thoughts and feelings, to imagine the future of our married life.
In the following days, we had an in-depth exchange and communication. We explored the specifics of each condition and how to achieve it one by one, and gradually found a balance that was acceptable to both parties. Together, we worked out a financial plan and life goals, and discussed how to better coordinate lifestyle habits and emotional communication. In the process, we have gained a deeper understanding of each other's thoughts and expectations, and we have strengthened our determination to move forward into the future together.
In the end, we reached a consensus and decided to enter the palace of marriage together. We understand that marriage is not a smooth journey, but as long as we truly love each other, support each other, and work together, we will be able to overcome all difficulties and create happiness and beauty that belongs to us.
Looking back now, I am deeply grateful to Xiao Yun for those conditions. Not only do they make us more mature and rational about marriage, but they also make us cherish and love each other more. I understand that love needs tolerance and understanding, and it requires both parties to work together to operate and maintain. And those seemingly harsh conditions are actually our expectations and commitments for our future married life, and the embodiment of our deep love for each other.
In the days to come, I will keep these conditions in mind and try to do a good job
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