Whether extramarital affairs can be prevented mainly depends on the following points:
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And most importantly, what is the man's character? How does he view marriage, how does he see the boundary with the opposite sex?
These are questions that you must know before you get married.
For example, if you have been in a relationship with a man for three or four years, and when you are in love, he keeps chatting, and when you get angry, he says that you are making a big fuss, and he thinks that he is not actually cheating, why are you so angry? You are just vexatious.
If you meet this kind of man, do you think that he may not be able to sit still after you marry him? From the moment you are ready to marry him, do you already have a premonition that he is having an extramarital affair?
So we used to joke that a man who can cheat will cheat, and a man who can't cheat will not cheat.
Therefore, pre-marital screening is more useful than post-marital remodeling.
But this point is not absolute, it can only be said that the probability of staying loyal is slightly higher for the people you have screened.
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According to the results of sociologists' experiments, it is more difficult for people who have had the experience of cheating during their relationship to remain faithful after marriage.
For example, your boyfriend didn't split his legs when he was with you, but he had the experience of betraying his partner when he was in a relationship before. Then the probability of him cheating after marriage may be slightly greater. Of course, this is also a relative data, and it cannot be used as a standard to measure everyone.
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Don't expect a person who frequently cheats on his legs to become faithful after entering marriage.
I know that when many girls read novels, they especially like the kind of science fiction story in which Aquaman becomes a loyal dog for true love. But you can just look at this kind of story, and you must not believe it.
From a psychological point of view, if a person only splits his leg once, then he may feel guilty about his partner, but when he splits his leg frequently, his guilt will disappear, and the splitting will gradually become a way for him to deal with relationship problems.
For example, if he quarrels with you, you misunderstand him, or if you have something that makes him unhappy, it will become a reason for him to split his legs.
When a person is in love, it is impossible for anyone not to make mistakes at all, but if you make him feel dissatisfied a little, he will split his legs. So what's the point of talking about this relationship?
The above 3 points are from the level of mate selection, how to prevent the husband from having extramarital affairs after marriage.
If I want to summarize, it is to pay attention to screening, pay attention to the other party's three views, pay attention to the other party's bottom line for the opposite sex, and also pay attention to how the other party's past emotional experience ends. After all, the beginning of love is beautiful, but only the end can make you see a lot of things.
If you've done all this screening and you're getting married, how do you prevent an affair from happening? Your first choice is to focus on managing your marriage.
If I have to pick the key points, it is four points: emotional value, cooperative spirit, ability to deal with problems, and rewards and punishments.
I can give you a rough explanation of these points:
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Emotional value is full
Usually praise each other more, but don't praise the other person, pay attention to the other person's emotional changes, and respond positively.
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A spirit of cooperation
To establish a tacit understanding, two people should stand in one camp and deal with problems together, rather than picking on each other. If there is no such spirit of cooperation, if we must tear each other down, the marriage will definitely not be sustainable.
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Ability to deal with problems
Many young couples have a problem, that is, when the relationship between two people is good, sweet and sweet can do anything, once they quarrel and have negative emotions, both parties are at a loss and don't know how to deal with it.
It's either avoiding the problem or quarreling, or it's hysterical, two people are as sweet as honey when they are good, and they can't wait to eat each other when they are bad. This is the consequence of a lack of ability to deal with problems.
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Being nice to your partner is a must, but you can't forget yourself
In a good marriage, two people have their own good, neither party is uncomfortable because of compromise, and no one party is proud of being pampered. The balance between pampering each other and personal scale is a permanent subject of marriage.