Premarital check-ups should be a beautiful time for newlywed couples to confirm their physical and mental health status and build a happy family together. However, recently, a woman's "crying and leaving" marriage inspection experience has attracted widespread attention, and people can't help but explore, why does the marriage inspection make women feel so painful?
The diagnostic process of a hospital marriage examination should not have been a "long humiliation". However, in reality, many women feel the pain of shame, offense and even belittlement during the marriage examination.
A couple who are about to enter the marriage hall should be cared for thoughtfully and meticulously. But the reality is often the opposite, and the long and tedious examination process makes women feel tormented.
Taking a tertiary hospital in a big city as an example, a woman's marriage examination needs to go through nearly 20 steps, including physical examination, gynecological examination, breast examination, psychological counseling, etc., and the whole process takes 3-4 hours. At the same time, marriage check-ups are often scheduled during working hours on weekdays, which means that women need to take time off work to participate.
Prolonged delays in work have a negative impact on women's career development and household expenditures. This, combined with the need for multiple intimate encounters with medical staff, undoubtedly makes the already nervous woman even more uneasy.
Physical examinations are important, but women often feel that their privacy has been seriously violated during marriage examinations.
In this regard, many women said that the marriage examination should respect personal wishes and allow women to choose the examination items that need to be done independently. After all, when you are about to enter into marriage, both parties should trust each other and treat each other as equals.
As a medical examination involving privacy, the marriage examination should be carried out by professional and meticulous medical personnel. However, in reality, many women report that doctors and nurses are indifferent and lack patience and empathy.
Some women said that during the gynecological examination, the doctor would even insert the examiner roughly, causing them severe pain. Some nurses are also a little stiff when helping women change their clothes, making it difficult for women to relax.
The establishment of a marital relationship is not only related to the physical health of two people, but also directly affects the mental health of both parties. However, the current marriage inspection model obviously ignores the psychological needs of women.
Many women report that the marriage examination only stays at the level of physiological examination, and lacks professional psychological counseling and emotional counseling.
To sum up, there are many flaws in the design of the marriage inspection system, which has led to a general feeling of injury among women. As newlyweds who are about to enter the palace of marriage, they deserve thoughtful and meticulous care and respect.
Specifically, you can start from the following aspects:
Only in this way can the special physical examination item of marriage examination truly become the beginning of a happy marriage for the newlyweds, rather than a "long humiliation". Let's work together so that every couple can feel respected and cared for in this ceremony.