The dramatic increase in social pressure has made it extremely difficult for students to find employment. Once a student may have had many great hopes for their future career, today, there are few paths to choose from.
Civil servants are the most ideal choice in the minds of most parents.
Faced with this reality, many students choose to trust their parents' opinions and devote themselves to the army of preparing for the civil service exam, studying hard day after day. They thought that such efforts would be richly rewarded, but only after they went ashore did they realize that some units did not fit in after they went in.
Some students become "civil servants" only to find it difficult to fit in and want to quit.
Many times, we are driven by inertia and do not hesitate to believe lies that do not stand up to scrutiny. Just as before we took the university entrance examination, we believed that entering the university was equivalent to once and for all, before the civil service examination, we also believed that entering the system means the long-term stability of the career.
Everything is constantly changing and evolving, and each stage of life requires our own efforts and careful management. Just as you need to build knowledge for employment in college, working within the system requires careful management of interpersonal relationships.
If you dig deeper, you will find that the work itself is not difficult, but the real difficulty is that the work is highly related and requires frequent coordination among various departments. Therefore, whether or not we can achieve good development within the system depends mainly on knowing how to deal with interpersonal relationships.
Primary 5 students are well aware of this truth, so after stepping into the system, they actively interact with their colleagues. I thought that although my positive behavior would not make excellent seniors, at least I could get along with my colleagues at the same time. However, the development of events was beyond Xiao Wu's expectations.
The Primary 5 students found themselves isolated. Although they can get a response when they usually say hello, no one invites Xiao Wu during meals, and when they need to work together, colleagues often avoid Xiao Wu and lack a cooperative attitude towards their work.
Two recent events have made Primary 5 students feel particularly isolated. One is that the sister of a colleague on the first floor got married, and the whole building participated, and the junior five students didn't learn the news until Monday. Another time was a dinner party one night, but my colleagues did not inform the junior five classmates.
This made the junior five students feel very aggrieved, and they didn't understand why everyone could get along well, but they didn't want to be close to themselves. Some netizens analyzed that this may be related to the family background of Xiao Wu's classmates, who comes from a working-class family with no connections and no background.
As a newcomer, and without any resources at hand, it is naturally difficult for the primary five students to integrate into the big family of the system. Once they learned about this reason, they felt even more uncomfortable, because although their work could be improved through hard work, their family background could not be changed. Therefore, the Primary 5 students began to consider resigning.
Experienced people offer some views on whether isolation is a good idea of whether you should resign. In fact, if you think of civil servants as an ordinary job, if you really don't fit into the circle of colleagues, you can consider resigning. After all, being isolated all the time is an unpleasant experience, and we are not obligated to grieve ourselves.
Primary 5 students are civil servants by profession and work within the system, so we need to consider the possible costs of resigning. After all, entering the system is a rather difficult task, and resigning from the job is tantamount to wasting previous efforts, and the chances of re-entering the system in the short term are relatively small.
This is indeed a disservice, because working within the system is a dream profession for many people today, with many advantages that other social positions cannot match, such as strong stability, and basically no risk of unemployment, which is enough to attract most students.
Especially in light of the recent news of a series of layoffs in large companies, even Tsinghua bachelor's and master's graduates may be laid off, let alone ordinary students?
The most important thing is that students need to have a deep understanding of the "rules of the game" within the system, where there is no eternal isolation, only eternal interests. Perhaps, over time, students will find like-minded partners because of common interests.
Of course, the above is analyzed from the perspective of "isolation" and exclusion by others. In fact, in reality, if a student is unable to integrate into the circle, it is likely that he or she has low emotional intelligence, said something wrong, and inadvertently offended his elders.
Or, more commonly, the rhetoric is a little inappropriate, saying things that seem normal on the outside but are taboo within the system, making people feel that the students are a bit "unsociable" and think that there may be some danger in getting along with them, so they deliberately distance themselves.
From here, it can be seen that the inability to integrate into the work circle is usually just a "trouble", because some problems have not been solved, which temporarily becomes an obstacle to our development. Therefore, instead of choosing to quit because of excessive thinking, it is better to reflect calmly first.
The key is to figure out what is the bottom line that cannot be touched, and what things are commonly avoided in the system, which needs to be mastered through observation and study, and this is also what students must learn when pursuing promotion in civil service positions.
Of course, if you still can't find a way to resolve the impasse after a long period of time, and you feel extremely uncomfortable, maybe the work environment is really not suitable, then it is also a rational decision to choose to quit to avoid losses.
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