Text\ Xiaowen
In the glamorous entertainment industry, time always seems to go extraordinarily fast, and in the blink of an eye, the former on-screen couple Ma Yili and her ex-husband have each gone through a few springs and autumns after the divorce.
And their respective states have become the focus of public attention: the article is frequently mentioned because of the decadent image after the divorce, and Ma Yili has created a new height in her career with her anti-aging beauty, and sure enough: a woman with a stable core is the real winner.
01. The downfall of the article
After the divorce, the image of the ex-husband who is often captured by the media is the kind of greasy and depressed that makes people sigh.
Someone said, "His appearance and state are far from the young talent he once was." ”
The article himself bluntly said in an interview with the media: "Yes, it's me. Behind these three simple words is a helpless acceptance of reality, and it is also a farewell to the past years.
The articles after the divorce are basically not in front of the stage, but behind the scenes.
He worked as a producer for the movie "Unexpected Summer", worked as a teacher for Liu Tianchi's performance workshop, and acted in Lai Shengchuan's drama.
For an actor, this can be a kind of accumulation and grinding, but it also shows from another side that there are almost no resources and opportunities for film and television dramas in the article.
Come to think of it, the acting of the article is really good.
In "Struggle", he played Xiang Nan, who was actually just a male number two, but the limelight overshadowed the protagonist, and the crying scene was very touching.
played the young marshal Zhang Xueliang in "The Young Marshal", and handled this character with complex personality just right, and among the many outstanding old drama bones, the performance of the article was also good.
In the drama "Snow Leopard", the article played the role of Zhou Weiguo again, and played his tough guy image deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
It can be said that a literary young man, a complex officer, and an iron-blooded tough guy, what the article looks like, but a "see you on Monday" completely exposed his relationship with Yao Di, and finally made him lose too many resources and opportunities.
02. Ma Yili is high-spirited
In stark contrast to her ex-husband, Ma Yili's state is becoming more and more energetic.
She not only continues to surprise the audience in film and television works:
"The First Half of My Life" made her win the Magnolia Queen, in "The Myth of Love", she played a Shanghai woman, and the movie "Find You" won her the "Huading Award" for Best Actress, and Lingzi in "Flowers" made us refreshed.
Even her private appearance and public appearance are so glamorous, as if time has left no trace on her.
Her anti-aging beauty can't help but make people admire: "Ma Yili's beauty is not only external, but also the expression of her inner tenacity and self-confidence." ”
That's right, divorce can't shake her strong core at all.
Her core comes from the unconditional love given to her by her parents in her childhood.
Ma Yili is a child who has been deeply loved by her parents. She once said to Dong Qing: "Often when you are a child, your parents give you the satisfaction of love, which will make a child feel very secure, especially for a girl." ”
That's right, since she was a child, her father has had full trust in her and encouraged her to be independent and confident, so she has never cared much about malicious public opinion judgments.
I think that at the beginning, she had just given birth to a child, and the role she performed was ridiculed for sagging breasts, but she was unmoved, continued to maintain the status quo, and went all the way.
Perhaps it is precisely because of this that after the divorce, they are like walkers on two roads, all the way to the south and all the way to the north.
The article fell into the whirlpool of public opinion, and it was difficult to surpass the past glory and become no drama to film, but Ma Yili walked out of her own style and path more firmly after the blow of divorce.
03. Mei Niang said
Is kernel stability the only reason for this? Not really.
Many years ago, she said in an interview: "The people who come to hinder your work are never worth trusting." ”
You see, in Ma Yili's heart, love is not a problem, marriage is not, but career is, this dedication to career and love of life is an important reason why she can maintain a stable output and still shine after the divorce.
Because of being loved, and because of this love, she has always had a stable core.
So what do most of us women look like?
When Li Xiaoyi interviewed a staff member of a women's prison, the staff said: "There are too many women who have only one fulcrum in their lives - some people regard love as everything, some people regard children as everything, and some people regard work as complete sustenance. Because, most women's emotional needs cannot be fully met by men, so if women's only fulcrum is feelings, then they will be disappointed nine times out of ten, you writers know better than I know, from Du Shi Niang who was angry and sunk in a treasure chest, to Ruan Lingyu who committed suicide in her prime, and Yu Xuanji who was jealous and killed the maid, which is not the case?"
This staff member is saying that women make mistakes, mostly because of feelings, because men, yes, most of our women naturally do not easily commit crimes for feelings and men, but it seems that it has always been difficult for us to escape from the circle of feelings, and if women want to have a stable core, they have to not pay too much attention to feelings, but to pursue careers.
Only in this way can you, like Ma Yili, be able to quickly adjust your mentality and get back on your feet even after experiencing a low point in your life.
Her inner stability is not strong on the surface, but from the depths of her heart - a deep understanding of self-worth and unswerving pursuit.
When the aura and praise of the outside world are gone, when the clouds of unsatisfactory life are shrouded, without the support of the heart, people are easy to lose their way and sink.
And Ma Yili used her anti-aging beauty and career success to prove to us: no matter how the external environment changes, as long as the core is stable, we can go further and better on the road of life.
Ma Yili is undoubtedly the winner who shines brightly. And the secret of her victory is not only her hard work and talent, but more importantly, her tenacious and confident heart.