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On a sunny morning in April 2023, a middle-aged woman with a tired face but a resolute expression sat at a desk in her study, picked up a pen and opened her notebook, ready to record her tortuous life experience.
She is the famous Hong Kong actor Li Ruotong, who was once all the rage.
Looking back on the past, Li Ruotong can't help but sigh at the vicissitudes of the years. When she was young and frivolous, she was so fanatical about love that she was almost obsessed, and she was willing to pay all the price for the person she loved, and took the initiative to give up the halo of her career and serve him wholeheartedly.
However, the love affair that lasted for ten years finally came to fruition, and her deep sincerity was smashed to the ground. In those gloomy days, Li Ruotong was even on the verge of collapse for a time, and had desperate thoughts about life.
The action of raising the pen to write in the notebook made Li Ruotong can't help but recall himself back then. When she was young, she was crazy about love, and almost all her youth was dedicated to a relationship that was destined to end without a problem.
She unswervingly believes that as long as she gives enough, the other party will be moved by her sincerity and enter the palace of marriage with her.
It's a pity that the reality hit her beautiful vision back then. In the face of her lover's ruthless abandonment, Li Ruotong felt very sad, she had paid too much for this love, but only in exchange for the result of betrayal.
At that time, even though she was covered in bruises, she was still struggling persistently and was unwilling to give up.
It wasn't until her father died when she was most difficult that Li Ruotong couldn't be strong at all and almost fell into the abyss of self-destruction. She felt that life was so small, the road ahead was dark, she was helpless, and she had lost the courage and confidence to live.
Fortunately, the care and guidance of her relatives allowed her to regain hope for life. With the support of her family, Li Ruotong began to devote herself to fitness sports, letting sweat wash away the haze in her heart and regain her confidence and courage.
In a blink of an eye, she has transformed from a peerless film and television star to a middle-aged woman who has experienced vicissitudes.
Now, picking up the pen again, she will tell her feelings about love, career, and family eloquently, revealing her aftertaste and summary of the past between the lines.
Sunlight poured into the study through the window lattice, casting warm rays of light on her fingertips and notebook, as if giving her strength and blessings, allowing her to embrace life again and face a new chapter of life calmly.
Proud career
Go back in time and return to Li Ruotong's young and strong years. At that time, she had an outstanding appearance, just like a blooming hibiscus flower, exuding the unique brilliance of youth.
Li Ruotong was born in Hong Kong in a poor but happy family. Despite her family's financial constraints, her parents never lacked love for her 653kb. Growing up in that relatively difficult environment, Li Ruotong learned to be independent and self-reliant since he was a child.
She remembers that when she was a child, her family was crammed into a small rental house, and even the most basic daily necessities were shared by the family, and every time she wanted to bathe, it was a desperate struggle.
It is this environment that has tempered Li Ruotong's positive and optimistic character. She never sees poverty as a shackle to fate, but approaches life with an optimistic and cheerful attitude.
Finally, under the tempering of poverty, Li Ruotong grew into an outstanding-looking girl, as delicate and moving as a blooming hibiscus flower.
With her beautiful and outstanding appearance, Li Ruotong was soon appointed as a flight attendant. Being able to experience the galloping of airplanes and shuttle through various cities is simply a dream career for Li Ruotong, a girl from a poor background.
This job not only gave Li Ruotong endless confidence and a sense of achievement, but also opened a new door in her life - entering the showbiz. As a flight attendant, Li Ruotong was often photographed by accompanying airline advertisers, and she slowly came into contact with the world of acting.
Li Ruotong, who was in her youth, yearned for this new world full of temptations and challenges, so she resolutely quit her job as a flight attendant and devoted herself to the ranks of actors.
With outstanding talent and tenacious hard work, Li Ruotong soon became famous in the film and television industry. She has starred in many classic Chinese film and television works, especially when she played the two roles of Xiaolongnu and Wang Yuyan in Jin Yong's novels, which left a deep impression on countless audiences.
Whenever filming action scenes, Li Ruotong always goes into battle in person and never uses a stand-in. Even if she was seriously injured in the process, she never complained. The professional and dedicated professional attitude has won the praise of countless people.
Her passion and dedication to her career stems from her love for the performing arts. During the filming of "Dragon Babu", she disregarded her life and completed a thrilling action scene from the height of the sixth floor.
Although that scene had shocked her, when the applause of the audience poured in, all the effort seemed so worthwhile.
For Li Ruotong, career is an indispensable part of her life. It gives her endless motivation and a sense of accomplishment, allowing her to find her own direction and place in the hustle and bustle of the world.
And in addition to career, there is another thing that is equally important, and that is love.
Give and betray
When his career was at its peak, Li Ruotong fell into a rather difficult emotional entanglement. In 1998, she fell in love with Guo Yingquan, a wealthy businessman who was nearly 20 years older than herself.
At first, everyone expressed surprise and confusion at the strange pairing. After all, there is an obvious generation gap between the two, and Guo Yingquan's appearance is far inferior to Li Ruotong, who is peerless, it is hard to imagine that these two will come together.
But for feelings, Li Ruotong has always been focused and pious. She threw herself wholeheartedly into this relationship and gave it selflessly to the best of her ability. In order to please Guo Yingquan, her sweetheart, she even took the initiative to give up her career and devote all her energy to serving this "benefactor".
According to Guo Yingquan's preferences, Li Ruotong changed his original fashionable and lively dressing style, and instead wore a conservative and simple dress like an old lady. She often waits quietly for Guo Yingquan to return home in the dead of night, and always be a thoughtful and virtuous wife.
Not only that, Li Ruotong is also in charge of Guo Yingquan's entire life, and she takes care of the man she loves everywhere. Whenever Guo Yingquan was entangled in business and did not return at night, she always waited at home, waiting for her husband's arrival alone.
Even if it was past twelve o'clock in the evening, as long as Guo Yingquan called and said that there was still something to be done, Li Ruotong would wait without complaint.
In the dilemma of Guo Yingquan encountering a major financial crisis and high debts, Li Ruotong also firmly expressed that he would "never give up" and was willing to tide over the difficulties with him. For this love, she is so focused and sincere, that she is so blind that she is almost crazy.
Year after year, Li Ruotong served tirelessly by Guo Yingquan's side, but her greatest wish was never realized. Whenever she earnestly asked to meet Guo Yingquan's family, they always used busy work as an excuse to delay and prevaricate.
In the face of his lover's broken promises and remorse, Li Ruotong did not leave ruthlessly, but was always comforting and deceiving himself, trying to convince himself to believe in Guo Yingquan.
"He must be busy" and "The company must have something very important...... In this way, Li Ruotong has been obsessively waiting, waiting for the day when Guo Yingquan can fulfill his promise.
Until one day ten years later, Guo Yingquan proposed to break up again, and this time, Li Ruotong finally couldn't get anything back. She was exhausted, so she could only regret letting go, and let this decade-long relationship end like this.
Faced with the disillusionment of love, Li Ruotong wanted to cry without tears. She has paid too much tirelessly for this love, but in the end, it has been exchanged for never-ending betrayal and hurt.
That sincere heart was finally completely shattered in the process.
Defeat and Dawn
The betrayal of love is like a hammer, which crushed Li Ruotong's inner world. After spending ten long years licking dogs with Guo Yingquan, her sincerity was only ruthlessly abandoned.
Faced with the complete rupture of the relationship, Li Ruotong was extremely painful, she had paid too much for this relationship, but she only got such a miserable end. She was on the verge of collapse in her heart, at a loss, helpless and hesitating.
Just as she was recovering from the gloom of her lovelorn, the bad news struck again - her beloved father had died the following year. This heavy setback, like a thunderbolt on a sunny day, severely crushed her once upon a time.
One blow after another finally put Li Ruotong in a desperate situation. She felt that the future of her life was dark, full of hesitation and helplessness, and even had thoughts of self-harm at one point.
This peerless film and television star is now just a middle-aged woman with heavy losses and exhaustion.
Seeing this, in addition to being helpless, the relatives could only pray that a miracle would come and let Li Ruotong rekindle the hope of life. They temporarily sent her to the hospital, where she was given psychological counseling and medication by professionals in an effort to get her out of the dark abyss.
Finally, under the care and encouragement of relatives and friends, a ray of sunshine began to gradually rise in Li Ruotong's heart. She began to devote herself to fitness, let the sweat wash away the haze in her heart, and regain her confidence and courage.
At first, Li Ruotong was dragged to the gym by his relatives. However, when she felt the pleasure of her muscles straining, and when she experienced first-hand the joy of a healthy lifestyle, her heart began to light up.
Fitness not only strengthens the body, but more importantly, it makes her realize the meaning and value of life.
In this way, Li Ruotong began to work tirelessly and insisted. From a reluctant ascetic at the beginning, to the habit of gradually getting better, although this process is hard, it also makes her bitter and sweet.
In a blink of an eye, she has transformed from a graceful film and television star to a fitness expert with an ideal figure. Combing through the past, she finally walked out of the haze and embraced the sunshine of life again.
After experiencing this vicissitudes of life, Li Ruotong began to reflect on his tortuous life course. She deeply realized that it was that fanatical and obsessive relationship that made her spend a lot of her youth in vain.
After a lot of inner struggles, Li Ruotong decided to use her own personal experience to teach the younger generation, hoping that they could learn from it and avoid repeating her mistakes.
So, she wrote a book that recounted her rugged struggle.
In this book, Li Ruotong sincerely and earnestly warns young female friends not to be blindly obsessed with a doomed emotional entanglement like she was back then, and to learn to cherish themselves and be independent.
She bluntly exposes the pitfalls and lies that may be hidden behind a relationship, hoping to let more people see the essence.
"Love is beautiful, but have you ever thought about the true face of those sugar-coated shells? Do you really know your beloved?" Li Ruotong uses words from the bottom of her heart, which are loud and make people ask themselves.
In the book, she narrates all the efforts and dedication she has made for a doomed love, as humble as a pathetic licking dog. But instead of giving up on herself, she embraced the beauty of life with a more resilient and optimistic attitude.
"Although the road of life is full of thorns and bumps, as long as you have an unwavering will and a never-say-die determination, you will be able to overcome many obstacles and break into a new world.
This is Li Ruotong's sincere advice.
Through this book, she tells the story of her own hardships word by word, and sincerely and persistently shares her insights and lessons with the readers, just like a mentor who enthusiastically inspires young students.
She sincerely hopes that with her own personal experience, more people can recognize the essence of life and avoid repeating her tragic experience.
Now, Li Ruotong has completely walked out of the haze and got rid of his past attachment and obsession with love. She understands that love is not the whole of life, and there are still too many things worth pursuing and looking forward to in life.
After experiencing emotional betrayal and the death of his loved ones, Li Ruotong once fell into a desperate situation in his life and lost hope and courage for life. But it was the care and encouragement of her family and friends that gave her the confidence to live again.
Since then, she has come to cherish inner peace and learned to heal her wounds in a slow way.
Fitness was a good medicine for her at that time. Every drop of sweat that flowed during the workout was washing away the haze in her heart bit by bit. Fitness made her feel the beauty and vitality of life, and made her regain her love and motivation for life.
Today, Li Ruotong is a high-spirited middle-aged woman with an even and healthy body. She often shares her fitness experience on social media, showing her strong and powerful side, inspiring more people to bravely pursue their own beautiful life.
"The exercise of life is not only about physical strength, but also about never giving up on the spiritual level. This is Li Ruotong's life motto. Drawing on her own experience, she encouraged all of us to learn self-discipline and self-love and to stay away from vague promises.
Let go of the past and embrace a new life. This is Li Ruotong's new attitude towards life. She takes on every new challenge with an optimistic and positive attitude.
Now, career and healthy life are the two pillars of Li Ruotong's life. She returned to work and began to actively plan and produce new film and television works, injecting her own life experience into them, and striving to convey more positive energy to the audience.
At the same time, she also embarked on another new venture - becoming a writer. With the help of words, Li Ruotong will tell the ups and downs along the way, and share his experience and insights with readers in thought-provoking chapters.
There is no overnight brilliance in life, only unremitting struggle and hard work. Li Ruotong showed this with his own practical actions. Now, she has learned to let go of the past and look forward to a new chapter in her life.
She exudes her own unique brilliance, confident and resilient, and never stops.
For this woman, who has experienced emotional twists and turns and family changes, being alive is a kind of courage in itself. And she finally embraced her own courage and strength again.
The road ahead, although there are still thorns, Li Ruotong will illuminate the direction of progress with his own light, live for himself, and fight for his ideals.