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Ms. Sun Guiling's life experience can be said to be full of twists and turns, she married a young man from the countryside during the period of going to the countryside, and later in order to return to the city, she reluctantly chose to divorce, and her two-year-old son stayed in Shanxi. After returning to the city, he remarried, because he was worried about his son who stayed in Shanxi, and was suspected by his husband, so he had no choice but to divorce again. Later, she met a good man who knew cold and hot and was empathetic, and Ms. Sun started a family again, and finally lived a plain and smooth life.
But not long ago, Ms. Sun's son led his grandson to Beijing suddenly and came to the door. Ms. Sun's peaceful life was disrupted again, and Ms. Sun was really in a dilemma whether she should recognize her child or not.
The detailed process of the matter has to start with Sun Guiling going to the countryside in Shanxi to cut the queue.
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According to Sun Guiling's recollection, she left Beijing by train with her classmates in late December 1968, and the weather was particularly cold that day, and the classmates were shivering with cold in thick cotton coats. Sun Guiling's family conditions are not very good, the family has no money to buy a cotton coat, she is wearing a thin cotton jacket and a jujube scarf wrapped around her head.
Just as the train was about to start, Sun Guiling saw the figure of his father, who was desperately squeezing to the front of the train on the platform, holding a cotton coat in both hands, and stuffing it to Sun Guiling through the window. It was a brand-new cotton coat, and it was also a cotton coat that Sun Guiling had dreamed of.
Sun Guiling's father panted and said: "The fabric and cotton that your mother bought yesterday begged someone to process them overnight, you put them on quickly, I heard that Shanxi is colder than Beijing......" Sun Guiling's father had not finished speaking, and the train had started slowly. Sun Guiling waved at her father with tears, returned to the seat in the carriage, covered her head with her coat, and began to cry.
What Sun Guiling never expected was that the conditions at home were so bad, and her parents still managed to make this cotton coat for her. Sun Guiling's mother does not work, her father works alone, and she has a younger sister and a younger brother who are studying. In order to send her to Shanxi to settle in the queue, his father spent 20 yuan to buy her a suitcase (wooden box) with a ticket, her mother made her a new bedding, and also bought underwear and underwear......
After arriving in Shanxi, the group of Beijing educated youths were assigned to Jiangxian County in the Yuncheng region, Sun Guiling and their eleven educated youths were finally assigned to the fourth production team of the Wangjiapo Brigade, everyone temporarily borrowed to live in the villager's house, Sun Guiling and Zhang Yuqin borrowed to live in Grandma Wang's house, and also ate with Grandma Wang.
Grandma Wang is a lonely old man, 60 years old at the time, her wife died of illness five years ago, leaving the lonely Grandma Wang alone. Two female intellectuals came to borrow it, and Grandma Wang was very happy, and gave the kang head to Sun Guiling and Zhang Yuqin, and she hugged her bed to the kang tip.
Early the next morning when they came to Grandma Wang's house to borrow a stay, Sun Guiling and Zhang Yuqin had just gotten up when a young man came to fetch water for Grandma Wang. The young man poured water into the tank, carried the empty bucket and left. After a while, he picked up another load of water. Grandma Wang saw that the young man was leaving, so she smiled and said, "Dazhu, are you having breakfast here?" "No, the third grandmother, I still have to fetch water, and my mother is still waiting for me to fetch water for cooking." ”
From that day on, the descendant named Dazhu came to carry water for Grandma Wang every day, and sometimes helped Grandma Wang grind, that young man was very strong, with thick eyebrows and big eyes, but his skin was a little dark, and he didn't like to talk very much, and when he saw Sun Guiling, they just smiled and never squeaked. Grandma Wang always exaggerated Zhu, saying that he was diligent and capable, and he had a good heart, but he didn't help her family work.
Later, Sun Guiling learned the specific situation of Dazhu, whose surname was Wang, and his name was Wang Chengzhu, who was seventeen years old at the time. Wang Chengzhu's family and Grandma Wang are their own family, but they are not very close. Because Grandma Wang has no children and no daughters, Wang Chengzhu's father also helped Grandma Wang's family work in the past. Since Wang Chengzhu can stir up water, he often helps Grandma Wang's family carry water and help Grandma Wang's family do chores. Grandma Wang also loves Wang Chengzhu very much, and all the delicious food is left for Wang Chengzhu to eat.
The period before the Spring Festival happened to be the slack season, and there was no farm work in the fields, and the educated youths from Beijing basically did not go out at other times except for occasional meetings and studies at the brigade headquarters.
After the fifteenth day of the first lunar month, the weather gradually warmed up, and spring plowing and preparation production gradually began. Although spring plowing and spring sowing production are not as busy as summer harvest and autumn harvest, it is not easy, picking manure and pulling plows, raking and sowing, and having to get up early and work in the dark every day, and there are endless farm work every day.
When they first joined the production and labor, the educated youths were definitely not adaptable, especially several female educated youths, all of whom were sixteen or seventeen years old, and they didn't even want to eat when they got home from a day's farm work. Fortunately, the villagers are very kind, and the captain also tries his best to arrange easy farm work for the educated youth, coupled with the care and help of the villagers, the educated youth have suffered a lot.
When the wheat is harvested, it is really every day to cut the wheat under the stars, and go home from work in the face of the moon, and it is so hot at noon, which is really called a torment.
Every day when the wheat is cut, Wang Chengzhu will cut the rows of wheat assigned to him by the captain as quickly as possible, and then go back to help Sun Guiling cut the wheat. After helping Sun Guiling cut it, he went to help Zhang Yuqin again, he was not tired at all.
Seeing Wang Chengzhu's tired sweat dripping down his cheeks, Sun Guiling and Zhang Yuqin were very moved and guilty. If they cut faster, they wouldn't have to let Wang Chengzhu help, and Wang Chengzhu would be able to sit on the ground and rest like the villagers. Because of helping them cut wheat, Wang Chengzhu had no time to rest.
That wheat harvest, thanks to Wang Chengzhu's care and help, Sun Guiling and Zhang Yuqin were not tired, and several female intellectuals in other production teams were tired and sick, and one female intellectuals fainted in the wheat field due to heat stroke. For this, Sun Guiling and Zhang Yuqin are grateful to Wang Chengzhu from the bottom of their hearts.
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From spring ploughing to wheat harvest, from autumn to autumn planting, Wang Chengzhu silently cared for and helped Sun Guiling and Zhang Yuqin. Sun Guiling and Zhang Yuqin take a lot of water for laundry, and Wang Chengzhu picks up an extra load of water every day. Sometimes Sun Guiling also wanted to carry water, but Wang Chengzhu filled the water tank of Grandma Wang's house with water, so he took the bucket back to his house, Sun Guiling and Zhang Yuqin wanted to carry water, but there was no bucket.
After the autumn of that year, the brigade built a new cave for the educated youths and established the Educated Youth Point, and Sun Guiling and Zhang Yuqin did not live at Grandma Wang's house, but also moved to the Educated Youth Point to eat and live with everyone. Because the educated youths and the male educated youths took the initiative to carry water, Wang Chengzhu did not help the educated youths carry water.
After the autumn of the third year, the villagers were all sent to repair the railway, and the educated youths also went to participate in the construction of the railway with the members. That winter, on the railway construction site, Wang Chengzhu helped Sun Guiling a lot.
Once Sun Guiling had a high cold and fever, and the fever did not go away after taking medicine and injections, Wang Chengzhu took Sun Guiling to the commune health center with Zhang Yuqin on the floor row car, and he also spread his quilt on the floor row car. Because of the high fever and pneumonia, Zhang Yuqin stayed to accompany Sun Guiling, Wang Chengzhu was not at ease, and went to the health center every day after work, and delivered meals to the two of them, and it took several hours to go back and forth.
In this way, Sun Guiling developed feelings for the simple and kind Wang Chengzhu. In the winter of 1973, when she returned to Beijing to visit relatives for the Spring Festival, Sun Guiling told her parents that she liked Wang Chengzhu, and her parents said that they tried their best to recruit workers to the city, but they really couldn't go to the city, and they could also consider getting married and starting a family in the countryside.
After the autumn of the second year, under the mediation of Grandma Wang, Sun Guiling and Wang Chengzhu received a marriage certificate. At that time, two educated youths had already recruited workers into the city, and Zhang Yuqin did not support Sun Guiling and Wang Chengzhu to get married, she was afraid that Sun Guiling would regret it in the future. Sun Guiling said that since she has chosen, she will not regret it.
Two years later, Sun Guiling gave birth to a boy named Wang Bin, which means that he can be literate and martial when he grows up, and can become a pillar.
In the first year of the resumption of the college entrance examination, Sun Guiling and Zhang Yuqin signed up for the exam together, but Zhang Yuqin was admitted to the regional normal school, but Sun Guiling was named Sun Shan. In the second year, Sun Guiling was once again named Sun Shan. lost Sun Shan twice, Sun Guiling's self-esteem was hit, and she gave up applying for the exam.
By the end of 1978, Sun Guiling was the only one who settled in the Beijing educated youth in the Wangjiapo Brigade, and the other educated youths were basically recruited to the city, some were admitted to technical secondary schools or universities, and a female educated youth went through the procedures for sick discharge due to physical reasons. At this time, Sun Guiling suddenly felt lonely and lost, because she married a local farmer, and lost the treatment of recruiting workers into the city, she was even more annoyed and painful, and even began to regret it, regretting that she should not listen to Zhang Yuqin's persuasion, if she did not marry Wang Chengzhu, even if she could not get into the secondary school, at least she could enter the city as a worker. Now it's okay, I can only take root in Wangjiapo and be a farmer for a lifetime.
But in the early summer of 1979, things took a turn for the better, and the superiors issued documents, and the educated youths who had not been recruited could return to their hometowns. This can make Sun Guiling very happy, and being able to return to Beijing is what she dreams of.
But things are not as beautiful as Sun Guiling imagined, and when I inquired about the commune's educated youth office, I learned that the educated youth who married the peasants did not have the policy of returning to the city for the time being, and to put it bluntly, the educated youths who married the local peasants could not return to the city.
After getting the news, the beauty in Sun Guiling's heart suddenly came to naught, and when she got home, she fell ill, did not eat or drink for two or three days, and still thought vigorously in her sleep: I can go back to Beijing, I can go back to Beijing......
Grandma Wang made egg noodles for Sun Guiling, Sun Guiling didn't eat a bite, she fed her white sugar water, and she didn't swallow it. Grandma Wang was scared, so she leaned in her ear and asked her softly: "Gui Ling, you tell grandma, where is uncomfortable, I will ask Dazhu (Wang Chengzhu) to send you to the health center." "I'm going back to Beijing......" Sun Guiling said weakly, and Grandma Wang could barely hear clearly.
Wang Chengzhu hurriedly went to the commune's educated youth office to inquire, and only then did he know that in a situation like Sun Guiling, if he wanted to go back to Beijing, he would have to go back to Beijing unless he got a divorce. Wang Chengzhu's parents were also worried that Sun Guiling had three longs and two shorts and it was difficult to explain to her parents, so the family discussed with Grandma Wang and decided to divorce Wang Chengzhu and Sun Guiling and let Sun Guiling return to Beijing.
As soon as she heard that she could go back to Beijing, Sun Guiling's eyes lit up, and she slowly got up from the kang. But as soon as he sat on the edge of the kang, he was loaded to the ground at his feet and fainted. Wang Chengzhu called a barefoot doctor and gave her a bottle of glucose injection, and Sun Guiling slowly woke up.
After four or five days, Sun Guiling's physical condition improved, and Wang Chengzhu went to the commune with her to go through the divorce procedures.
The procedures for returning to the city went smoothly, and it was quickly processed. When he was about to return to the city, Wang Chengzhu's parents did not agree with Sun Guiling taking the child away, and now Sun Guiling quit, saying that she could not do without the child. Grandma Wang persuaded Sun Guiling: "Guiling, if you want to go back to Beijing, let you go back, if you leave, Dazhu will become a single, if you take the child away again, how will his family live this day? Why do you have to leave a root for his family......
Under the persuasion of Grandma Wang, Sun Guiling agreed to leave the child in Shanxi, and she returned to Beijing alone.
In early June 1979, Sun Guiling returned to Beijing alone.
When I returned to Beijing, I realized that things were not as rosy as Sun Guiling imagined. The first is where she lives, her brother just got married, and her parents gave up the half-sized house to her brother, and her parents lived in that small house, and there was no place for her to live at all. There was really no way, so she had to stay at her aunt's house temporarily, crammed into the same bed with her unmarried cousin.
In addition to where to live, work is a big problem. At that time, she was not the only one who returned to the city, and many people were waiting to arrange work. In desperation, Sun Guiling first went to the street garment processing factory to work as a temporary worker (collective enterprise).
A year later, Sun Guiling married a bus driver who was widowed and had a daughter, and Sun Guiling became the child's stepmother. The married life was okay, the bus driver's salary at that time was relatively high, and she could earn twenty or thirty yuan a month, so there was no difficulty in life.
After a few years, the conditions of the family were better, and Sun Guiling made a request to her husband, she wanted to go back to Shanxi to see her son Wang Bin. Although her husband was a hundred unwilling, he finally agreed to let her go to Shanxi, but she had to go back quickly, and there could be no one at home to cook.
Returning to Shanxi to see her ex-husband's living conditions, Sun Guiling felt very uncomfortable. It's really homeless, no one is like people, her son is dressed dirty, and he doesn't study well at school, and he cries when he sees her. Sun Guiling also had the idea of bringing her son back to Beijing, but Wang Chengzhu's parents still disagreed.
Sun Guiling helped clean up the house, washed the children's clothes, dismantled and washed the bedding, just in time for Grandma Wang passed away, and she stayed in Wangjiapo for five or six days before returning to Beijing. When she returned to Beijing, her husband slapped her, saying that she was shameless and must have cuckolded her. Sun Guiling couldn't argue, couldn't bear it, and chose to divorce.
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In the spring of 1996, Sun Guiling's garment factory closed down, and she became one of the first laid-off workers. It was very difficult to re-employ, so Sun Guiling became self-employed and ran a clothing store by herself. Later, a self-employed person engaged in the clothing wholesale business often came to her store to modify clothes, and the two of them developed a relationship. The little boss has been divorced for many years, and the two are ready to live together.
Just when Sun Guiling was about to remarry, Wang Chengzhu called her and said that it took a lot of effort to finally give Wang Bin a match, and they asked for a bride price of 10,000 yuan. Sun Guiling didn't say a word, and remitted 10,000 yuan to Wang Chengzhu through the post office.
After remarrying, Sun Guiling closed the garment processing department and followed her husband to start a garment wholesale business. At that time, the business was not bad, and after a few years, they had their own house and some savings.
In the spring of 2007, Sun Guiling reached retirement age and went through the retirement procedures. By 2016, the clothing business was getting worse and worse, and Sun Guiling's husband had reached retirement age, so they transferred their stalls and stores in the market and lived a leisurely retirement life.
During that period, Sun Guiling also often sponsored Wang Chengzhu and her son and daughter-in-law, although her husband had complaints, he did not interfere too much. Sun Guiling also had the idea of going back to Shanxi to have a look, but she never dared to go. She also has concerns.
Just two days ago, Sun Guiling's son Wang Bin suddenly came to Beijing and found Sun Guiling's home. Seeing Sun Guiling, Wang Bin asked his son to call grandma. To tell the truth, his grandsons are in their twenties, and Sun Guiling is the first time I have seen him. Even his son, Sun Guiling, hasn't seen each other for decades.
The sudden arrival of her son and grandson caught Sun Guiling off guard and made her in a dilemma. Fortunately, her husband was not at home that day, and she was really afraid that the appearance of her son and grandson would affect her stable life.
The purpose of Wang Bin and his son's visit to Beijing this time is to find something to do in Beijing, and it is best to stabilize in Beijing. Because Wang Bin's son is short and fat, he can't find a partner in his hometown at all, and he doesn't want his son to beat a bachelor, so he took his son to Beijing to find his grandmother.
Sun Guiling was very entangled in whether she should recognize her own grandson or not? If she doesn't recognize her son and grandson, she doesn't think it's justified. She also worries that her husband will not approve of letting her son and grandson live at home or stay with her in a rented house. What should I do? Sun Guiling really ran out of ideas.
Author: Grassroots Writer (Narrator: Ms. Sun Guiling)