The article begins with a quote from Ronendo: "I just do it, I don't worry about the result, and if it doesn't work out, I accept it." ”
We Chinese are different from people from other countries, we are born from a young age, and we are constantly told that we do not live for individuals, and we are always added to many connections for no reason. For example, parents, such as siblings, such as the country, nation, etc. So many partners are born with heavy shackles.
Suffering from gains and losses, repeated hesitation, thinking too much leads to anxiety and depression, always thinking about my failure, what to do at home, what to do with my lover, what to do with my children, what to do with relatives.
How do colleagues think, what do friends think of me, and even what to do with the country and society, or what to do with a cat or a dog on the side of the road, what to do with a small strong and prosperous wealth, etc., all kinds of messy considerations are involved, often many times, we have not started to do things, and we have been consumed internally.
In the long run, many partners are very tired, not to mention the real external events, that is, they have not done anything, and this daily internal friction has made many partners exhausted and even slightly depressed. Every day, my mind is groggy, and when I am awake, I am less happy, and I am even less happy.
It is important to consider that the energy of each of us is a rechargeable battery. Power is limited, and charging is not always timely. And our brains, like a super-advanced laptop, don't have a direct power supply, just a battery. There are too many messy programs running in this brain, just like our internal friction, too much power is consumed in vain, and naturally when the business comes, there is no power.
Here, I would like to give you a small piece of advice, if you have nothing to do, think less about others and think more about yourself. It's not about encouraging selfishness, it's about prioritizing.
Here is a small example, when Chu and Han were fighting for hegemony, Liu Bang, the king of Han, was chased by Xiang Yu's army while sitting in a car. In order to escape and save his life, he successively pushed his father and wife out of the car, lightened the weight of the vehicle, and allowed himself to escape successfully.
Liu Bang's approach made many partners seem to be too immoral and unrighteous. But in reality, it's the right thing to do. Because Liu Bang knew in his heart that he was dead, his wife, children, parents, family, and friends were all finished. As long as he can escape, maybe there will be a chance to avenge his relatives in the future.
Partners, many times, you need to learn more from Liu Bang back then. Don't always think about some mess first. This world, these family members, are meaningful to your life because of your existence. You're gone, and nothing means anything to you. To put it mildly, you're gone, you have a wife or husband, is it still yours?
Think more about yourself and make yourself better first. Strive to do everything you need to do, enjoy yourself if you succeed, and bring happiness and joy to your family and loved ones. It doesn't matter if you fail, just knock out your teeth and swallow blood, and continue to work hard as you can.
After thinking about it, the indecisive internal friction is of little use to the partners except to make us depressed. Many times, we are like Wang Ba who is pressed on the cutting board, stretching out his head and shrinking his head. Since that knife can't be avoided, don't waste time.