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"Are you so afraid of blind dates?" My mom watched me busy and jokingly said.
"Who's to say I'm scared? I just think it's a bit old-fashioned. I straightened my hair, and there was a hint of helplessness in my tone.
"Just think of it as meeting new people, don't be so nervous. My mother smiled and encouraged me, "By the way, this person was introduced by your cousin, so it should be quite reliable, right?"
"I hope so. I took a deep breath and tried to squeeze out a smile, "Alright, it's time for me to go." "
The location of the blind date is a fancy restaurant. When I walked into the box, a man in a suit had been waiting for a long time. When he saw me coming in, he quickly stood up and said hello a little nervously: "Hello, I'm Li Ming, it's a pleasure to meet you." "
"Hello, I'm Wang Ying. I nodded, didn't say anything, just looked around at the layout of the box, and secretly felt that I was quite careful.
"You may be seated. Li Ming pulled out a chair for me, and I realized that he was not tall, but his body was very majestic. We exchanged a few pleasantries and began to chat with each other.
"I heard that you work in the financial industry, you must be very busy, right?" Li Ming asked me with a smile.
"Yes, it's hard work every day, but I enjoy the hectic pace. I nodded, with a hint of pride in my tone, "What about you? What do you do?"
"I, I'm an ordinary civil servant. Li Ming's tone sounded a little shy.
I couldn't help but sigh in my heart. What a boring profession to be a civil servant? I couldn't help but think of one image after another: the sun was shining in the office, but only a few people were typing on the keyboard, drowsy; After work, everyone returned in pairs and threes, looking lifeless; On Saturdays and Sundays, they either catch up on sleep at home, or soak in the teahouse to pass the time, without vitality and vitality at all.
There was probably a slight look of disappointment on my face, because Li Ming saw it and quickly explained: "I know that the profession of civil servant seems ordinary to outsiders, but in fact, we are also working hard, but in different ways. "
"Oh, tell me, what's the joy of working as a civil servant?" I asked rhetorically with a pretended lightheartedness, but there was a hint of provocation in my tone.
Seeing my reaction, Li Ming took the initiative to continue to explain his work: "I know that civil service is a mediocre and boring profession in the eyes of many people, but this is not the case. Each of us is just a small part of the whole machine, but if these parts fail, the whole machine will be paralyzed. Therefore, with the heart of a public servant, we do our best to complete our work. "
I was moved by Li Ming's sincere tone, and nodded involuntarily, and the prejudice in my heart began to waver. Perhaps, I still have some prejudices and misunderstandings about the work of civil servants.
Although Li Ming's explanation made me feel better, I still had some doubts in my heart. As a modern independent woman, I yearn for passion and ideals, and I don't want my future partner to be too rigid and conservative. So, I began to question whether he really had dreams and pursuits.
"You have a point. I nodded, but my tone was a little stiff, "But do you have any bigger dreams and pursuits? Don't you think it's too meaningless to live your life like this?"
Li Ming didn't seem to be crushed by my doubts, but smiled slightly and slowly spoke: "Everyone's dreams are different. You're right, if you just live your life like this, it really doesn't make sense. But my dream is that through my own efforts, I can finally make some contributions to the country and the people. "
"You know what? I grew up in a very poor mountain village. At that time, the whole family lived on his father's meager salary, and life was quite poor. But my father never complained, but worked diligently every day to contribute to the country and the people in his own way. Li Ming said, his eyes became a little gloomy, "Later, my father died due to a work injury, and our family's life fell into an even more difficult situation. "
"It was at that time that I made up my mind to change the fate of my family with my own hands, just like my father did. I studied hard and finally got into a good university. During my university years, I worked a lot of part-time jobs and experienced the warmth and coldness of society. Li Ming paused, as if sorting out his mood, "After graduation, I chose the seemingly ordinary path of civil servant, just because I hope to be like my father and use my own strength to serve the country and the people." "
"So, you see, although my work is ordinary, it doesn't mean that I don't have ideals and pursuits. My dream is that even if I am a small civil servant, I will do my job wholeheartedly and make a contribution to the country and the people in my own way. When Li Ming said this, his tone became extremely firm.
I was deeply impressed by Li Ming's sincere words. Yes, the ideal does not have to be magnificent and extraordinary, as long as you do it with your heart, ordinary work can also reflect the meaning and value of life. My prejudices about the profession of civil servants vanished in an instant, and in their place I sincerely admired Li Ming as a person.
After listening to Li Ming's statement, I began to reflect on my own views on life values. In the past, I have always regarded career success as the greatest pursuit in life, and neglected the meaning of other aspects. Through this acquaintance, I realized that dreams and ideals can be embodied in ordinary work, and as long as you work hard, you can also gain meaning and happiness in life.
I looked at this humble and idealistic man in front of me, and my heart couldn't help but be full of admiration. Yes, success is not just about financial status, but more importantly, inner abundance and love of life. Even in ordinary work, as long as a person dedicates and works hard with a sincere heart, he can also gain a sense of accomplishment and realize self-worth.
After listening to Li Ming's sincere words, I began to reflect on my own preconceptions about him. As an independent woman, I should be more open and inclusive, rather than blindly denying other people's life choices.
"Actually, the reason why I have those prejudices about your profession is completely out of my ignorance of the work of civil servants. I said sincerely, "After listening to your explanation, I realized how narrow and one-sided my thinking is. You are not only full of enthusiasm for your work, but more importantly, you embody a noble ideal of life and the pursuit of values. "
I looked at Li Ming, and my face was full of apologies: "As an independent woman, I should learn to respect everyone's life choices, listen and understand others with an open and inclusive heart, instead of blindly judging others based on my own prejudices." I sincerely apologize to you and hope that you will forgive me for being reckless and paranoid. "
What touched me was that Li Ming didn't care too much about my unintentional mistakes, but showed a tolerant smile.
"You don't have to be too self-conscious. Everyone has their own ideas and positions, and I'm not forcing you to change. "I am glad to have this opportunity to give you an insight into the real work and life of a civil servant." In fact, there are many of us who have big ideals, but in a different way than you. "
Listening to Li Ming's tolerant words, I couldn't help but feel a burst of warmth in my heart. Yes, everyone has their own outlook on life and values, and even if there are differences, we should respect and tolerate each other, and listen and understand each other with an open mind.
In this way, on the basis of mutual understanding, the distance between the two of us has been shortened a lot. I began to truly appreciate Li Ming's humility, idealism, and sense of responsibility. He also praised my independence and courage to pursue.
"You know what? I admire your dedication and enthusiasm for your career. Li Ming said sincerely, "It is not easy for a woman to be able to support herself in this competitive society." You embody the courage and courage of a modern independent woman. "
In this way, the two of us slowly narrowed the distance, and each other developed a new cognition and understanding of each other. This hard-won tacit understanding is destined to allow our feelings to continue to develop and deepen in the future.
This blind date experience made me reflect on my own views on life values. In the past, I have always regarded career success as the greatest pursuit in life, and neglected the meaning of other aspects. Through this acquaintance with Li Ming, I realized that dreams and ideals can be embodied in ordinary work, and as long as I work hard, I can also gain meaning and happiness in life.
"You know what? I used to have such a narrow definition of 'success'. During a casual conversation, I said to Li Ming sincerely, "In my opinion, only when you have a successful career and earn enviable money and status can you be considered truly successful." And an ordinary civil servant like you, I can't imagine that you can also have your own dreams and pursuits. "
Li Ming nodded, and did not comment on my past thoughts, but listened patiently.
"But now, I realize how one-sided and superficial this view is. I continued, "Through your sharing, I have found that dreams and ideals do not have to be magnificent and extraordinary, even if it is an ordinary job, as long as you do it with your heart, put in your own efforts and sweat, you can also get the meaning and sense of accomplishment of life." "
"You have a point. Li Ming nodded approvingly, "The definition of success varies from person to person, and there is no one-size-fits-all standard. The key is whether you are satisfied and happy with your current state of life. As long as there are dreams and pursuits in your heart that drive you forward, you will be able to realize your self-worth. "
In the course of our further conversation, we explored the definition of "success". Li Ming believes that success should not only be limited to money and status, but more importantly, inner wealth and love of life.
"You see, we ordinary civil servants do not have a high salary level, and our status is also very average. But we don't feel like we're losers. Li Ming said, "Because each of us is making due contributions to the country and the people in our own way." This dedication and dedication itself is our greatest pursuit and meaning of life. "
"Of course, I'm not saying that money and status aren't important. They are one aspect of success, but definitely not the whole story. Li Ming continued, "True success should be the inner satisfaction of life, the degree of love for work, and the contribution and influence of others. As long as there are dreams and pursuits in your heart that drive you forward, even if it is an ordinary job, you can still get a sense of accomplishment and realize your self-worth. "
As a modern independent woman, I have always pursued career success and self-fulfillment. In my conversations with Li Ming, I realized that my definition of "success" in the past was too narrow. But at the same time, I also realized that for independent women, career success is just as important as financial independence.
"You have a point, the definition of success varies from person to person, and inner abundance and love of life are crucial. "But as an independent woman, I still want to make a difference in my career and achieve economic autonomy and freedom." Are you right?"
Li Ming nodded and expressed understanding: "I can fully understand your thoughts. In modern society, women are no longer accessories, but individuals who are as equal as men. Financial independence and career success are just as important to you as they are to men. "
"Yes, we should strive for all-round success. I continued, "Inner abundance is important, but if you can't meet even the basic economic conditions, it will be difficult to achieve true happiness." Therefore, independent women must strive for excellence in their careers and achieve economic independence, so that they can live the life they yearn for. "
Li Ming seemed to have a new understanding of my thoughts, nodded and said, "You have a lot of sense. As a male, I may have overlooked this in the past. Modern women should not just be content with their families, but should be brave enough to pursue their ideals and careers so that they can gain true respect and equality. "
Although we agreed that independent women should pursue career success, I also realized that pursuing a career too paranoid can also lead to an imbalance in life. If a person puts all his energy into work, he will inevitably neglect other important aspects of life, such as family, relationships, health, etc.
"You have a point, career is very important to us. However, we should not be overly paranoid, but learn to seek a balance between life and career. In another small talk, I spoke openly about my concerns, "If a person puts all her energy into her career, she is likely to lose the joy of life and may even be physically and mentally exhausted." "
Li Ming nodded seriously and agreed: "Yes, in modern society, many people are so obsessed with work that they ignore other important aspects of life. This extreme state of affairs is dangerous and must be taken seriously. "
"So how do you think we should strike a balance between life and career?" I asked with interest.
"My view is that first of all, we must learn to adjust our mentality and establish a correct outlook on life. "We should see work as a way to achieve self-worth, not as a whole." Only by maintaining this healthy mindset can you avoid over-indulging in your work. "
When discussing the balance between life and career, we inevitably talk about the importance of feelings. As modern people, we should not regard feelings as something dispensable, but should pay enough attention to them.
"You have a point, it's very important to live and work at the same time. But in my opinion, feelings are also an integral part. I said sincerely, "If a person is not even satisfied with her love life, it is difficult for her to be truly happy." "
Li Ming seemed to have some new understanding of this, and nodded in agreement: "Yes, in the past, I may have ignored the importance of feelings to life. As an ordinary civil servant, I focus more on my work and rarely think about emotional issues. "
"Affection is important to everyone, it gives spiritual comfort and strength. I continued, "If a person is in a state of loneliness for a long time, he will inevitably feel mentally empty, which is harmful to both physical and mental health. Therefore, we should also manage our love life well after work. "
"You have a point. Li Ming nodded thoughtfully, "Maybe it's because of ignoring the importance of feelings that we ordinary people seem so lifeless in the eyes of outsiders." In the future, I will definitely pay attention to this and try to manage my emotional life in addition to life and work. "
I am glad to see that through our exchanges, Li Ming has gained a new understanding of "all-round happy life". Yes, life is not only about work, but also about relationships, family, health, and so on. True happiness can only be achieved when we are satisfied in all aspects.
In the exchanges, Li Ming and I have a deeper understanding of each other. We discussed the definition of success, the pursuit of independent women, the balance between life and career, the importance of relationships, and other topics, and our perceptions of each other have changed.
"Through my conversations with you, I have gained a new perspective on many things. Li Ming said sincerely, "In the past, I have always focused on work and neglected other important aspects of life, such as relationships, family, and so on. But now I realize that true happiness can only be achieved if we are fulfilled on all levels. "
"That's right, that's what I'm expecting. Li Ming said with a smile, "Maybe the two of us have differences in some aspects, but it is this difference that allows us to inspire each other and grow together." There is still a long way to go, and we can discuss more meaningful topics together. "