Inscription: The imbalance of family affection often leaves a shadow in the child's heart, and even if time flies, the scar is difficult to completely heal.
The divorce of parents not only deprives children of their right to a complete family, but also casts a dark shadow on their life trajectory.
In 1988, Huang Qiuyan gave birth to her daughter Li Si in the United States, and Jet Li was in full swing in martial arts at that time.
After learning the good news of his wife's birth of a daughter, he hurried to the hospital and looked at his infant daughter with joy on his face.
He made a promise to his wife and daughters that he would give them the best living conditions and do his best to become a good father.
However, the good times were short-lived. In order to work hard in Hollywood, Jet Li had to make some concessions and participate in some film projects for a meager salary.
Although his career has not improved, he is still full of longing and expectation for the future. Soon, Huang Qiuyan became pregnant with her second daughter, Li Taimi, and she decided to stubbornly stay in the United States to live and live separately from her husband.
At this juncture of family crisis, Jet Li met the popular movie star Li Zhi, and the two fell in love and fell in love at first sight.
After he returned to China, he filed for divorce from Huang Qiuyan immediately, leaving all his housing and debts to her, and he supported Lizhi and started a new life.
Since then, Li Si and her sister Li Taimi have been left behind in their hometown, and they have to be taken care of by their elderly grandmother and uncle.
They had fantasized countless times that one day, their parents would pick them up hand in hand, but unfortunately, this expectation ended up being a never-ending wait.
After the death of their grandmother, the sisters could only send people to the fence, and the living environment became difficult step by step.
When the father came back occasionally, he only took the two younger sisters born to Lizhi with him, and left their own daughters in the corner.
It wasn't until Li Si went to junior high school that Jet Li showed up and wanted to take them back to live together.
However, Li Zhi's sentence "I don't want to be someone else's mother" broke Li Si's heart fiercely.
At that moment, she would rather stay alone at her uncle's house than follow her father to Hong Kong and live a life of deliberate alienation.
Since then, the sisters have lived in the shadow of low self-esteem and abandonment.
They silently watched Lizhi's two daughters being pampered and living a privileged life that was vastly different from their own. Li Si completely closed his heart to outsiders and rarely talked to people;
And Li Taimi often cries and can't stop longing for her parents. In the words of their relatives and classmates, they are like "monsters" abandoned by society.
After graduating from college, Li Si reunited with his biological mother Huang Qiuyan for the first time.
The moment they got off the plane, the mother and daughter hugged each other and cried, as if they wanted to vent all the thoughts they had missed over the years.
Huang Qiuyan took the sisters home and promised to reunite as a family in the future to make up for this missed family relationship.
However, the reality is far from ideal. The stepfather was strongly opposed to living together, and Huang Qiuyan could only place her sisters in the villa that Jet Li had prepared for them.
In that luxurious villa, the rooms, although beautifully furnished, were empty, as if mocking their existence.
In order to avoid being hurt more, the sisters finally chose a simpler, but warm and loving house.
More than ten years have passed, and the scars have been long, but Li Si still can't completely let go.
Whenever her parents mentioned marriage, she couldn't stop crying, telling her pain: closed, inferior, abandoned... All this is the trauma left on her by her parents' divorce.
She would rather be celibate for the rest of her life than have her children go through the same pain.
And Li Taimi is full of hope, eager to find someone who will not divorce and make up for her helpless and lonely childhood.
Hearing what her daughters said, Huang Qiuyan felt guilty, while Jet Li sweated like rain, and finally realized how much trauma and hurt his decision had brought to his daughters.
If Huang Qiuyan had bravely taken away her daughters, would they not have suffered so much?
If Jet Li could take into account the feelings of his daughters a little, instead of being completely blinded by Lizhi's beauty, would it not have caused the rifts and regrets that he has today?
Everything is irreparable, and they can only reflect in silence and blame themselves for the trauma of their daughters.
Even if they wanted to make up for it later, the most precious years of their lives had slipped away like this, and the regrets that could not be filled were destined to become a lifelong knot.
Family is the cradle of everyone's growth and a haven for the soul. It gives us the first love, nurtures us to grow, and gives us the first sense of belonging in life.
However, once this safe haven is destroyed, the children will be left in confusion and pain.
Parents are the spiritual pillar of their children, and if this pillar falls, they become distorted and inferior in their struggles.
Li Si and Li Taimi are like this, they were abandoned by their biological parents since they were children, lived in the homes of their aunts and aunts, and lived a life of being snubbed and ridiculed.
Their inferiority complex and isolation all stem from the imbalance of family affection and the trauma of abandonment.
There may be some time when a breakup is inevitable, but they should think twice about hurting their innocent children.
Children's happiness should be the most important pursuit of all people, not a price that can be sacrificed arbitrarily.
Epilogue:
The power of family affection is endless, it gives children a sense of security and belonging, and makes their life path less lonely and confused.
However, once this family relationship is destroyed, the trauma caused will be with the children throughout their lives.
I hope that every family can understand the psychological needs of their children and give them enough love and care.
Only in this way can we truly avoid harm and let the next generation get the happiness and warmth it deserves. The warmth of the family will always be a safe haven for the children's souls.