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I gave a bride price of 200,000 yuan, but my mother-in-law and brother-in-law didn't buy it, and they had to get married with 300,000 cars
Self-introduction: My name is Hu Yi, born in 1995, and I am 29 years old this year. My girlfriend Xiaoyan and I met in college, she was my classmate, a gentle and kind girl. We both stayed in the city to work after graduation, and our relationship has always been very good, and both parents know about our relationship. Last year, I successfully proposed to Xiaoyan, and we decided to get married this year.
According to the customs of the hometown, the man needs to give the woman a bride price before marriage. After discussing with Xiaoyan, I decided to give a bride price of 200,000 yuan, on the one hand, to express my sincerity, and on the other hand, to take into account our family's financial situation. Xiaoyan has no objection to this, she said that the bride price is just a formality, and the important thing is our feelings.
However, when I told my mother-in-law about this decision, I was met with strong opposition. My mother-in-law insisted that 200,000 yuan was too little to reflect my sincerity, and she asked me to buy a car of more than 300,000 yuan as a bride price, otherwise I would not let Xiaoyan marry me.
I was very embarrassed, on the one hand, I didn't want to affect my relationship with Xiaoyan because of the bride price, and on the other hand, I really couldn't buy a car with 300,000 yuan. I tried to communicate with my mother-in-law to explain our family's financial situation and Xiaoyan's opinion on the matter, but my mother-in-law was resolute and did not listen to my explanation at all.
Xiaoyan is also very embarrassed, she is her beloved me on the one hand, and her respected mother on the other. She tried to reconcile in the middle, but nothing seemed to work. The mother-in-law even began to put pressure on Xiaoyan, saying that if she didn't do what her mother wanted, she would be unfilial.
During this time, I felt very miserable and helpless. I don't want to break up with Xiaoyan because of this problem, but I really can't meet my mother-in-law's request. I began to wonder if the bride price was really more important than affection.
Just when I was in despair, things took a turn for the worse. One day, on my way to work, I overheard two aunts chatting about the bride price. One of the aunts said: "It is so difficult for young people to get married nowadays, and they have to buy a house, a car, and a bride price, where can they get so much money!" Another aunt said: "In fact, the bride price is a formality, and the most important thing is that the two people have a good relationship." This sentence suddenly woke me up, and I realized that the bride price is not the most important thing, the most important thing is my relationship with Xiaoyan.
So, I decided to talk to my mother-in-law again. This time, I did not directly talk about the bride price, but first expressed my love and commitment to Xiaoyan, and I said that I would love and take care of her with my life. Then I talked about the bride price, and I said sincerely: "Auntie, I know that you have high expectations for Xiaoyan, but please believe in the relationship between us. I will do my best to give you the amount you are satisfied with, but please don't let this negate my love for Xiaoyan. I've also thought about buying a car, but I think we're still young and we should focus on our careers before we think about buying a car when the economy is stable. ”
The mother-in-law listened to my words, was silent for a while, and then said, "Xiaohu, I know that you are a self-motivated child, and you are sincere to Xiaoyan. Actually, I don't have to ask you to buy a car, I just want to see your sincerity. Since you said so, then I won't insist anymore. Discuss it yourself. ”
I was finally relieved to hear my mother-in-law sigh of relief. I quickly told Xiaoyan the good news, and she was also very happy. We decided to continue planning for the wedding and not let the bride price affect our relationship. After all these twists and turns, I have come to realize more deeply that affection is the most important thing between two people, and the bride price is only a symbol, not the whole story. I also learned that when communicating with elders, we should respect their opinions, but also stick to our own principles and solve problems with sincerity and patience.
In the days that followed, Xiaoyan and I began to prepare for the wedding busily. We chose a beautiful seaside hotel as the wedding venue and invited family and friends to witness our happy moment. We are hands-on at every step of the wedding and strive to be the best we can be.
In the process of preparing for the wedding, I also had more exchanges and communication with Xiaoyan. We work together on the details of the wedding and choose a wedding dress, ring and flowers together. This time together made me more convinced that Xiaoyan is the person I want to walk hand in hand in this life. The relationship between us has also become deeper because of this bride price turmoil.
Finally, on a sunny day, our wedding took place as scheduled. When I took Xiaoyan's hand and walked through the flower corridor that led to happiness, I felt extremely happy and excited. We exchanged rings and made a lifelong commitment. In the blessings of relatives and friends, we hugged each other tightly and kissed each other affectionately.
After the wedding, Xiaoyan and I started our honeymoon. We chose to go to Europe to enjoy the beautiful scenery and rich culture. During the journey, we took care of each other, supported each other, and faced various challenges together. This trip has strengthened our bond and made us get to know each other better.
Back in real life, Xiaoyan and I started our married life. We moved into a new home and started a new chapter in our lives. Every day after work, we would cook together, watch movies, chat, and enjoy each other's company. On weekends, we would meet up with friends to have dinner and play together, and have a great time.
Of course, it is inevitable that there will be some contradictions and frictions in married life. But every now and then, I am reminded of the difficult times we had together during the bride price turmoil. That experience taught us how to face problems, how to communicate and negotiate, and how to tolerate and understand each other. Therefore, when facing challenges in married life, we can always overcome them together and grow together.
As time goes by, our married life becomes more and more harmonious and happy. Not only are we emotionally deeper, but we have also achieved good results in our careers. We support and encourage each other in our pursuit of a better future.
Looking back, I'm glad I didn't give up on the relationship because of the bride price. I am also very grateful to my mother-in-law for her persistence and test, it is precisely because of her strict requirements that I cherish the relationship with Xiaoyan even more. At the same time, I am also grateful to those who helped and supported me when I was confused, and their kindness and love made me more determined to move towards the other side of happiness.
Now, Xiaoyan and I have been married for many years, but our relationship is still the same. We support and care for each other, and we have gone through the ups and downs of life together in the company of each other. I believe that in the days to come, we will always work together to create a better future. And those difficulties and challenges will become the most valuable wealth and memories in our lives.
Finally, I would like to say to my friends who are facing similar problems: don't give up your feelings easily, and don't be bound by material things and forms. True love cannot be measured by money, as long as you love each other, trust each other, and support each other, you will be able to overcome all difficulties and walk towards the other side of happiness.
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