When people reach middle age, they have gone half of their lives, and after experiencing a lot of things, they understand a truth, life is very simple, and it is the human heart that is complicated.
Everyone has their own attitude towards life, but if you want to become a winner in life, you still need to do one thing, learn to hide!
Once you are over 40 years old, you have to hide 4 things, and you will win half of your life!
1. Hide your temper
I saw a news story before that a couple quarreled at home over a trivial matter, and the wife was going to drive back to her parents' house in a fit of anger.
When the husband saw that his wife was driving away, he hurriedly chased him out to stop him, but he blocked in front of the car and refused to get out of the way.
But the wife was angry at this time, and she didn't listen to her husband's obstruction at all, and even angrily said, If you don't get out of the way, I will drive into you.
The husband was also angry, and refused to back down, saying, if you have the ability, you will bump into it.
In this way, the wife stepped on the accelerator in a fit of rage, and finally the husband was hit and killed.
Afterwards, the wife who calmed down also regretted it a lot, and if she hadn't been impulsive at the time, it wouldn't have caused irreparable consequences. But where is the regret medicine sold to you?
In fact, it can also be seen from this incident that if a person does not control his temper well, it is easy to cause a big disaster.
When people reach middle age, at this time, there are young, there are old, and there is a wife to take care of in the middle, and the responsibility is very heavy, and you should learn to hide your temper.
If you want to hide your temper, you can learn how to do a small bell.
There was a young man named Xiao Zhong in the village, and every time he had a conflict with someone else, he would go home and run around his house, and Xiao Zhong would calm down.
Later, Xiao Zhong gradually reached middle age, he accumulated a lot of wealth, and the house he lived in became bigger and bigger, but every time he was in a bad mood, he would still run around the house.
The people of the village saw what Xiao Zhong was doing and asked him why he was running around the house.
Xiao Zhong said that when I was young, when I was angry or in a bad mood, I ran around the house, and while running, I thought, my house is so small, I should hurry up to earn money, how can I waste time to get angry?
Now, when I run around the house, I think, my house is so big, what else is there to worry about, and when I think about it, I don't get angry.
Indeed, each of us will find a way to vent our emotions when we are in a bad mood, so that we can avoid bad emotions from interfering with our sanity and thus avoiding disasters.
2. Hide your mouth
In life, I often see many people end up on fire because they say things they shouldn't say.
Aunt Yang is a warm-hearted person, usually she will help anyone with something, but she also has a shortcoming, that is, she doesn't keep the door open.
Usually at home, she also breaks her mouth, what she says, and often makes her son and daughter-in-law angry, but after all, she is a family and is familiar with Aunt Yang's personality, so she doesn't care too much.
Aunt Yang thought that breaking her mouth was a harmless little problem, but it made her suffer a big loss.
Recently, the weather has improved, and the community square is very lively at night, and there are many people dancing together here.
One day, the neighbor Uncle Wang didn't come to the square dance, I thought it was a very common thing, after all, no one is willing to go out every day, maybe there is something at home, so he won't come out.
On the second night, Aunt Yang met Uncle Wang and his wife to dance, and casually mentioned why Brother Wang didn't come to dance yesterday?
I never thought that it was because of Aunt Yang's words that Uncle Wang and his wife went home and had a big fight.
It turned out that Uncle Wang secretly went to play cards with his friends yesterday under the guise of dancing a square dance, and he didn't tell his wife, so Aunt Yang said this and directly exposed her stuffing.
Uncle Wang was very angry, and directly counted Aunt Yang in front of everyone, saying that she was too talkative, what does it matter to you.
After this incident, Aunt Yang also realized her own problem and made up her mind to change her mouthy problem.
When people reach middle age, they learn to hide their mouths and not talk about the rights and wrongs of others.
A well-educated person will not talk about other people's affairs, and it is a very powerful ability for a person to live a lifetime and be able to restrain his mouth.
In real life, many people can't control their mouths, especially the gossip of others, and prefer to inquire about propaganda, which often violates the interests of others.
One thing to remember is that what others do is someone else's business, and it has nothing to do with ourselves, and asking and discussing at will not only shows that we are uneducated, but also disrespectful to others.
Secondly, when you talk about other people's things, others will also talk about you, so put yourself in the other person's shoes and think about it, are you happy to be talked about?
If you don't want to be the talking point of others, you must learn to hide your mouth, talk less, and accumulate some virtue.
When people reach middle age, learn to hide their mouths and not judge their strengths and weaknesses with others
As the saying goes, summer insects can't be silent, and when others have different opinions from yourself, there is no need to argue in order to change other people's opinions.
It's like, she won't believe how cold you and the summer worm will be in the winter, and even if you say it, she will stubbornly think that the sky is hot.
People in this world, one person has one idea, which constitutes a colorful world, so there is no need to let others and yourself unify their ideas.
And even if some people have the wrong opinion, they don't think they are wrong, even if you try to talk all the words, it's just boring for yourself.
A truly educated person will not argue for the sake of pros, but will face different opinions, reflect on himself, and encourage others if they have not.
3. Hide your thoughts
Zhuang Zhuang is a very honest child, he broke up with his girlfriend a while ago, it turned out that he accidentally found that his girlfriend and ex-boyfriend were still in touch.
Zhuang Zhuang believes that his girlfriend should not break up with his ex, and her behavior is a blasphemy against his feelings, so Zhuang Zhuang proposed to break up.
After the breakup, Zhuang Zhuang was very sad, obviously he was better to his girlfriend than his ex, why did his girlfriend prefer his ex?
At a colleague party, Zhuangzhuang, who was already in a bad mood, drank too much, and with the strength of the wine, he complained to his colleagues about it.
Afterwards, the colleague did not mention the matter to Zhuang Zhuang, but one time later, because Zhuang Zhuang and his colleagues did not complete the tasks assigned by the leader, the two passed the buck to each other.
During the quarrel, the colleague was angry and said that he deserved his girlfriend to look down on you, and suddenly he was so anxious that he couldn't say a word, and he was even more shameless to stay in the office anymore.
Zhuang Zhuang made a serious mistake when he told his colleagues about his thoughts, that is, he confided in unrelated people.
In a person's life, it is a blessing to have a confidant, as colleagues, everyone is just strangers who work together, and if they leave this company, they may not have any more intersections.
When people reach middle age, they will encounter a lot of things, and there will be things they want to talk about in their hearts, so they must learn to hide their hearts and learn to digest their hearts.
When you say what is on your mind without reservation, you will not be comforted by others, but also given others a sharp blade to hurt you.
The so-called things in the heart should be hidden in the heart, and they should not be made public.
Sometimes you tell people who you feel credible, but can you guarantee that they won't tell anyone else?
Often the three of you become a tiger, maybe your heart will be rumored beyond recognition, and then you may have no place to stand.
When people reach middle age, they must learn to protect themselves and hide their thoughts at this time.
While some things are painful, remember that pain is temporary, and time will help you digest it.
Fourth, hide your own dynamics
After Huihui got married, she liked to post news very much, and what she ate and did would be published.
Looking at the dynamics of her circle of friends, everyone knows that she has a very happy married life, and they all express their blessings and envy.
Huihui's dynamics are getting more and more, and many friends have been swiped by her, so in desperation, she has to block her circle of friends.
In fact, whether you are doing well or not, others don't care at all, and even if you watch too much, they will get bored and think that you are showing off.
In fact, it's a good thing to publish news, but when you are middle-aged, you still don't want to show your news to others.
In this life, you will walk a lot of roads, and you will meet many people, some people will accompany you on this road, and some people will accompany you on another road.
As we walked, some people got separated, and slowly we couldn't remember him, so some people began to record the dynamics to keep good memories.
The current Internet is too developed, and there is something wrong, as long as it is posted on social platforms, it will let many people know.
Many people like to record their own dynamics on social platforms, one is to share their stories with others, and the other is to record their lives, and when they are old, they can recall their past stories through these dynamics.
Actually, if you are doing well, you don't need others to know because they will be jealous of you, and if you are not doing well, you don't need others to know because they will not comfort you.
Don't try to get recognition or sympathy from others on social platforms, people with strong hearts don't need to find solace in this way.
Take more time to improve yourself instead of caring if someone likes or comments on your feed.
There is a good saying that the more a person shows off something, it often proves that he lacks something.
For example, my sisters often distribute brand-name bags and big-name cosmetics, but in fact, she is sloppy and doesn't like to dress up in private, and she has no money, so she has eaten instant noodles for more than a month in order to buy a brand-name bag.
On social platforms, how many people make up stories in order to create a character, but in fact, it is just grandstanding.
People are middle-aged, who is not carrying a weight forward, don't try to prove your efforts and dedication with a dynamic, people who really understand you, don't need to watch the dynamics to understand you, people who don't understand you, no matter how clear you say, it's useless.
When people reach middle age, they should learn to hide these 4 things, have you learned it?