Today's Xu Jing lives a more chic and comfortable life, she is no longer trapped in the shackles of marriage, but bravely pursues her dreams and happiness.
"Once you get the other person, the love stops growing. ”
Even if it's two lovers who don't guess and are childhood sweethearts, or lovers who fall in love at first sight and are heart-pounding.
Approximately!
Chen He and his ex-wife Xu Jing spanned 13 years from their youth when they were students to their mature youth.
However, they divorced after only a year of marriage.
The old lover will never be able to resist the new lover, and it will turn into a mosquito blood after a long time.
However, the divorced Xu Jing is no longer confined to the identity of Chen He's wife, she chooses to travel globally.
During the Chinese New Year this year, Xu Jing also generously posted photos of returning to her hometown in Fujian with her foreign boyfriend on social media.
New lovers, new life, life is framed in a narrow place, and life has infinite possibilities.
Marriage is for happiness, and so is divorce.
And Xu Jing's happy life has just begun!
01
I don't love and fate is gone
A cruel fact: "In marriage, there is basically no one who never cheats." ”
The reason is simple:
Human nature likes the new and hates the old, and chases the strong and abandons the weak. can hurt and betray you, the main thing is because of these two.
Xu Jing is one year younger than Chen He, and both of them have similar family backgrounds.
14-year-old Xu Jing is in her second year of junior high school, and Chen He is one year older than Xu Jing, and he was in his third year of junior high school at that time.
Chen He was moved by the beautiful Xu Jing, and naturally launched a fierce pursuit of her.
Chen He was handsome and had excellent grades at that time, and through continuous pursuit, he naturally won Xu Jing's heart.
In their youth, they secretly started a relationship with a yearning for love.
Later, Chen He was successfully admitted to the Shanghai Theater Academy.
A year has passed, and Xu Jing, who followed in her boyfriend's footsteps, was also admitted to Zhejiang University of Media and Communication, which is very close to Shanghai, where she studied radio and television editing and directing.
Long-distance relationships never test distance, but people's hearts.
Four years of college, 1460 days, the two accumulated one hundred and forty-four train tickets.
Spanning 144 tickets and more than 30,000 kilometers of love mileage, it finally defeated the long-distance relationship that most people can't overcome.
After graduating from college, Xu Jing's modeling career was unremarkable, while Chen He had successfully entered the entertainment industry.
In order to allow her boyfriend to concentrate on developing her career, Xu Jing chose to live a stable and ordinary life.
She finishes her work every day, and when she gets home, she takes care of Chen He's daily chores, including laundry and cooking.
Fortunately, Chen He's career improved the following year.
In 2009, Chen He decided not to rely on his family background and undertook an urban romantic comedy called "Love Apartment" on his own.
Even he didn't expect that the role of "Zeng Xiaoxian" not only made him a huge success quickly, but also became a classic role in the minds of many audiences.
After Chen He became popular, he not only participated in the filming of the sequel to "Love Apartment", but also starred in a series of works one after another, including "Durala", "Love Has Its Own Providence", "Days with Flight Attendants", "Love Wakes Up", "Dad's Love" and so on.
Xu Jing saw that her boyfriend's career was thriving, and decided to give up her job completely and take care of Chen He full-time.
At that time, Chen He did not live up to Xu Jing's expectations, and his career rose rapidly.
And Chen He did not live up to Xu Jing's expectations, in 2013, after 13 years of love, Xu Jing finally decided to marry him.
But less than a year after getting married, when Chen He continued to film "Love Apartment", the media spread the scandal of Chen He and Zhang Zixuan's love.
Perhaps in order to ensure that the career of the person who has been loved for so many years will not be affected in any way, Xu Jing just said, "I don't love it, my fate is over", and then turned around gorgeously.
She didn't say that the other party was not, but chose to help him and let netizens stop bullying him, and everyone lived their own simple and happy lives.
02
Meet your own love
Zhang Zixuan officially stepped into the entertainment industry in 2011 with the performance of the gold-worshipping female character "Li Ke" in "33 Days of Broken Love".
In 2014, Chen He received an invitation from the famous director Ding Yangguo to participate in the work "Laughter in the Hospital", and it was here that he met his current wife Zhang Zixuan.
At that time, Chen He was already popular with "Love Apartment", so the media paid more attention to him.
Maybe I have been with Xu Jing for too long, and love has already turned into family affection.
And when he met Zhang Zixuan, Zhang Zixuan's youth, beauty, liveliness and touching infected him, and he felt emotional.
I don't know if Chen He felt that he had met true love, or if the relationship between him and Xu Jing had already become another form.
In 2015, Chen He posted a long post on social media titled "I Made a Mistake", in which he emotionally expressed the news that he and Xu Jing had reached a divorce agreement.
In the article, he expressed:
"We didn't break up for any other reason, it was all my negligence on the part of the family!
Although the real reason for their divorce is unknown, after that, he and Xu Jing completely parted ways and started a new life.
But not long after the two divorced, Chen He and Zhang Zixuan quickly came together, which caused many people to question.
In October 2016, Zhang Zixuan gave birth to Chen He's eldest daughter "An An", and then gave birth to his youngest daughter "Xiao Dongdong".
Today's happy little family is enviable.
However, people ignored Xu Jing, who had been silently supporting Chen He before, and after leaving Chen He, she also lived a life that was the envy of everyone.
Although Xu Jing was hurt by her ex-husband Chen He when she first divorced, she successfully reinvented her life after separating from him.
03
Take the time to "nourish" yourself
After the divorce, Xu Jing began to spend time "raising" herself.
She chose to set foot alone in the unknown distance, and she began to spend more time traveling and forging herself.
Over the course of six years, she has travelled alone in more than 50 countries, from England to France to Iceland......
She has also traveled all over China, and her footsteps have never stopped.
When she was with her friends, she felt the beauty of the world.
This journey not only allowed her to heal the wounds of her soul, but also allowed her to regain her love and expectation for life.
She has a deeper understanding of love and life.
Today's Xu Jing lives a more chic and comfortable life, she is no longer trapped in the shackles of marriage, but bravely pursues her dreams and happiness.
So women must learn to "spend" time to support themselves:
Reading, fitness, traveling, planting flowers, cooking food......
Do what you love, do what you want to do.
Be brave enough to "waste" time on yourself and learn to please yourself.
Because, one day, you will find that only you are yourself in this world, and only you can love yourself the most.
Whether it's love or affection, those are just snacks, and you yourself are the staple food.
Nietzsche said, "To demand that others love themselves is the greatest arrogance." ”
So, loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
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Author: Wan Muzi, CCDM China Career Planner, BSC Senior Career Planner, American Shubo School Career Planner, more than 9 years of enterprise project management, registered international psychological counselor, more than 5 years of corporate training lecturer, platform contract author, second child mother.