Text: Jing Ma
With the progress of the times, people's concepts will also undergo earth-shaking changes.
When I was a child, I walked to school, and every house had no walls, and when many babies were breastfeeding, their mothers sat on the edge of the gate with a bench to feed, and we were used to it. #春日生活打卡季#
But today, breastfeeding has become a very private thing for mothers, and mothers themselves feel that it is a private thing, but the elderly do not think so.
When Wen Hong and her husband got married, the two of them were not able to buy a house in the city, so they went back to her husband's hometown for confinement after giving birth to a child.
When she was confined at her husband's house, her mother-in-law took care of her and always made confinement meals for her according to her old experience, for example, she couldn't eat vegetables or fruits. She couldn't eat enough during the confinement, the milk was not enough, and the child was so hungry that she had to let the child drink milk frequently.
Wen Hong talked to her husband about these things, and her husband said: Alas, this is how I grew up when I was a child, the child is not clean and sick, and we eat these things when we are confined here, you see that everyone is healthy and fine......
These trivial things also made Wen Hong feel very uncomfortable living in her husband's house, and finally something happened that made her really angry, when she was breastfeeding in the room, her father-in-law took a video of her breastfeeding through the open window, and also posted it to the family group, and preached in the family group: You see how good my grandson's appetite is......
On the second day, Wen Hong got up and opened her mobile phone and saw this video, it was like five thunderbolts, she thought that she was breastfeeding at home, and she directly picked up her clothes and fed the child, she still had more bare skin in this video, which made her feel very uncomfortable and very uncomfortable.
And what made her feel even more uncomfortable was that there were people in the family group who commented below: Oh, the daughter-in-law of this army has such big breasts, she must have a lot of milk for her children to drink. And the mother-in-law replied directly inside: What's the use of big, the milk is not enough for the child to eat, and the white has grown such a big breast......
Wen Hong was so angry that she was about to faint, so she quickly packed up her things, called her mother's eldest brother, and asked her eldest brother to drive over to pick her up.
Wen Hong said: Have you seen the family group, did your father send me a video with my consent?
Wen Hong's husband thought it was normal, he said: Isn't it a natural thing for a woman to breastfeed?
Wen Hong was almost mad, this is a chicken and a duck, hurry up and follow her brother home, and throw a word to her husband: go to divorce after confinement!
During the confinement period, as a husband, you must avoid doing these things, otherwise you will cheat your daughter-in-law and son
Piece 1: Cook food for your daughter-in-law according to old experience
The old experience of confinement meals is green vegetables, fruits can not be eaten, can only eat big fish and meat, so it is easy to constipation, and the mother is also prone to mastitis.
In some places, the special confinement meal is to drink rice soup during confinement, or to drink all kinds of chicken soup and bone broth every day during confinement, which will actually cause the mother to be very tired and unable to eat.
Our suggestion is to follow the scientific way of confinement, and the expectant father can learn how to make a scientific confinement meal when the mother is pregnant.
Piece 2: Always helping his parents and not taking care of the mother's emotions
After giving birth, the mother's hormone drops sharply due to physiological reasons, which can easily lead to postpartum depression in the mother.
And this kind of postpartum depression, if the husband does not understand himself, the father-in-law and mother-in-law always use the old way to deal with themselves, or say something weird, it will cause the mother to easily have postpartum depression.
You must know that we see the news on the Internet from time to time, the mother jumps downstairs with the child because of postpartum depression, which makes people feel frightened, so the husband must take care of the mother's emotions.
No. 3: If possible, try to invite a confinement lady or go to a confinement center
Because the mother-in-law takes care of her daughter-in-law during confinement, many of them say some unpleasant things according to old experience or when they speak, so if possible, it is financially permissible to go to the confinement center or invite a confinement lady as much as possible, so that there will be fewer conflicts.
Topic: Were you wronged during confinement?
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