No matter who you are, no matter how old you are, the most comfortable relationship with people is not intimacy, but a sense of boundary
The most comfortable relationship between people is not inseparable, not without a trace of distance, but a sense of boundary.
With this proper sense of boundaries, there is room for flexibility to advance and retreat.
No matter who is with whom, they will not embarrass each other so much that they can't get off the stage because of a certain sentence or a certain thing, and there is even no way out and the relationship will break down.
Therefore, the most comfortable relationship in the world is not a close and indistinguishable relationship, and the best way to get along is not to please and flatter, but to be far and near, and to be a measured person and do things.
As the saying goes, people's hearts are separated from their stomachs, and no one knows whose belly is filled with bad water or something else.
That is to say: no matter how intimate the relationship is, the balance cannot be lost, and the bottom line cannot be lost.
Many stories tell us that those who are intimate and have no sense of boundaries end up being the most familiar strangers!
In real life, whether it is love, family affection, or friendship, you can be close, but you can't be without proportion, you can't have a sense of principle and boundaries.
As the old saying goes, between people, with a sense of boundaries, there is respect, and with respect, they will not make decisions for each other in some things because of special relationships.
With a sense of boundaries and respect, there is room to advance and retreat, and the emotion of being there for a long time.
If there is no sense of boundaries, no matter how good the relationship is, it will gradually drift away under the polishing of time.
No matter how good the relationship between two people is, they are also two independent individuals. has its own personal space and its own style of dealing with people, which we have to admit and is undoubtedly a thing.
Therefore, no matter who you are with, keep a certain distance and a sense of boundaries in order to get the most comfortable emotions.
With a sense of boundaries, there is no resentment.
People who know how to maintain a sense of boundary with others must know how to empathize and understand the difficulties of the other party, understand the helpless actions of others, and respect the wishes of others.
Reality tells us that no matter who you are, no matter how old you are, the most comfortable relationship with people is actually a sense of boundary.
No matter who you are, no matter how old you are, if you don't have a sense of boundaries, no matter how deep your relationship is and how iron your relationship is, it will not grow like a rabbit's tail.
It's not that we don't cherish each other, but a relationship without a sense of boundaries, and we will think that we won't be like this, and we won't be like that, and in some things, we will be self-assertive and make decisions for others. As everyone knows, no matter how good the relationship is, you won't know what the other party thinks. Making decisions for others is a manifestation of selfishness and ignorance, and a double-edged sword that destroys feelings.
Too many facts have proved that the sense of boundary between people is not only respect for each other, but also the best cultivation of a person.