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"Too much lies and deception, too much suspicion and suspicion, too much mockery and subversion, the world is really tiring, so let it all end. ”
In the early morning of June 15, 2012, a Korean teacher at Sichuan University suddenly updated his Weibo account with such a text.
Although Weibo is not long, the desperate emotions hidden in it have made many onlookers feel deeply uneasy.
Many times, a person's first reaction is always extremely accurate. Because, while everyone was anxious, the author of this Weibo, 31-year-old female doctor Luo Hongling, jumped from the balcony on the 13th floor and finally died.
With the death of Luo Hongling, an unhappy marriage, about the "same wife", and about the luck and misfortune of a female doctor in Kochi were all shown in front of everyone......
The "Golden Phoenix" that flew out of the cold door
In 1981, in an inconspicuous small village in Chongqing, Luo Hongling was born in an ordinary peasant family.
Although the living conditions are very simple, the family environment full of love has filled her with sunshine and positive energy since she was a child.
Her parents, who were simple farmers, had big dreams and a strong belief that education could change their daughter's destiny.
As a result, with the encouragement and support of her parents, Luo Hongling showed extraordinary learning ability and tenacious perseverance.
Whenever night falls, the other children in the countryside are already immersed in sweet dreams, but Luo Hongling is still immersed in hard reading in the dim light, and her heart is full of longing for the future.
Time flies like a white horse, and in a blink of an eye, Luo Hongling was admitted to Ocean University of China, which is undoubtedly a huge leap for a girl from the countryside.
College life broadened her horizons and honed her will. Not only did she excel academically, but more importantly, she began to dream of being able to return to her hometown in the future and serve her own people.
In order to achieve this, she did not choose employment, but continued to pursue a PhD, eventually becoming a scholar.
After graduation, Luo Hongling decisively chose to return to Sichuan University and become a Korean teacher. This choice not only allowed her to be close to her hometown and take care of her elderly parents, but also gave her the opportunity to further her education and research in a field she loved.
Her life seems to have entered a perfect track, with successful studies, a successful career, and a harmonious family.
However, just when Luo Hongling's life was calm and fulfilling, her parents began to urge her to get married.
As a modern woman with a complete higher education, Luo Hongling is actually different from many people, she does not reject the ancient way of getting married.
Coupled with the fact that her parents have been with each other for decades, it has subtly affected Luo Hongling's views on marriage. She wants to find a good man, just like her parents, with whom she will grow old and grow old.
So, but under the introduction of a friend, Luo Hongling met Cheng Jiansheng, a man one year older than her.
But what she never thought was that it was the appearance of this man that completely changed Luo Hongling's life......
"Sew and mend" marriage
Luo Hongling's first impression of Cheng Jiansheng was his polite style and serious black-rimmed glasses. Cheng Jiansheng's taciturn and politeness to people deeply attracted Luo Hongling and made her feel that she had met her ideal partner.
Soon, feelings began to develop between the two, and soon after, a relationship was officially established. Luo Hongling's heart is full of joy and expectation, and she thinks that she has finally found someone to spend her life with.
However, this relationship was not recognized and supported by Luo Hongling's friends. They questioned Cheng Jiansheng's origin, occupation and even personality traits.
Cheng Jiansheng's family background is simple, his parents divorced in his early years, and his mother died early, these experiences made him particularly taciturn.
Friends believe that such a man is not suitable for Luo Hongling, and believes that their relationship is built on an unstable foundation.
In particular, Cheng Jiansheng and Luo Hongling have always maintained an almost reserved attitude in their relationship, which makes people doubt his sexual orientation.
Despite facing the doubts and opposition of her friends, Luo Hongling firmly believes in the power of love and believes that all the so-called "flaws" of Cheng Jiansheng are not enough to become obstacles on their road to love.
She believes that the affection between two people goes far beyond the difference in material and family background. Therefore, at the beginning of 2012, Luo Hongling and Cheng Jiansheng decided to enter the palace of marriage hand in hand, vowing to face all the challenges in life together.
However, married life was not as sweet and harmonious as Luo Hongling expected. Cheng Jiansheng still kept his distance from her, and the married life between them was extremely cold, even to the point of sleeping in separate rooms.
Luo Hongling's heart was full of doubts and disappointments, and she began to blame herself, thinking that her own problems caused her husband's estrangement.
In order to try to save her marriage, Luo Hongling not only tried to change herself, but even handed over all her salary to Cheng Jiansheng, hoping to gain his recognition and love in this way.
On May 20, 2012, an extremely important day for couples and couples, Luo Hongling asked Cheng Jiansheng with great anticipation to go home to accompany her.
Cheng Jiansheng also agreed to her request, which made Luo Hongling feel unprecedented joy and expectation.
However, she never imagined that behind this agreement, there was a storm that was about to erupt, and this day would become an important turning point in her life......
Sadness "520"
On the night of 520, which was sanctified by love, Cheng Jiansheng and Luo Hongling spent a calm and embarrassing time together.
The next morning, when Cheng Jiansheng quietly left the bed, he was left with not only the silhouette of his sleeping wife, but also the tribe's mobile phone on the bed sheet, a Pandora's box that had been inadvertently opened.
Luo Hongling didn't want to disturb her husband's private space that morning, but the doubts in her heart were like spreading vines, and she couldn't help herself to drive her to look at her husband's mobile phone.
The "I love you, baby" text message that jumped into her eyes on the phone screen was like a sharp knife, instantly cutting through all her illusions of happiness.
Behind this text message, there is another side of Cheng Jiansheng that is hidden - his secret connection with another world.
Luo Hongling's heart was full of shock and incomprehension, her fingers trembled and continued to flip through the phone, every discovery was like a cold raindrop, hitting her fragile heart.
When she was confronted with an interface full of gay dating apps, as well as unsightly videos, images, and chats, she felt her world collapse in an instant.
In the face of Luo Hongling's questioning, Cheng Jiansheng's admittion, straightforward without any embellishment, hit Luo Hongling's last hope like a hammer.
His plea - not to make it public, more like the last hurt to her. Luo Hongling was silent, her heart seemed to be hollowed out, and she couldn't find any words in the face of the person she once loved.
In the end, the two divorced by agreement on June 14, 2012. This marriage completely broke Luo Hongling's illusions about marriage, and even had strong doubts about herself and human nature.
And just when Luo Hongling was disheartened, on the evening of June 14, Cheng Jiansheng publicly released a Weibo message regardless of Luo Hongling's identity as a university teacher: "Teacher Luo, I'm sorry, I'm just a gay, I lied to you, and the purpose of lying to you is to cover yourself."
Later, he also sent a very insulting message to Luo Hongling through a private message, all of which hit Luo Hongling in the dark night.
That night, Luo Hongling stood on the balcony on the 13th floor, looking at the deep night sky, her heart was full of despair. The Weibo she left behind was like a silent goodbye, and as her figure disappeared into the night, her pain also disappeared with the wind.
Luo Hongling's parents, facing the death of their daughter, were like knives. Subsequently, they began to sue their former son-in-law Cheng Jiansheng, demanding compensation of 630,000 yuan for mental damages.
However, the court held that Luo Hongling, as a person with full capacity for civil conduct, committed suicide completely out of her own volition and had no direct relationship with Cheng Jiansheng, so it did not support the old couple's claim.
And this undoubtedly made the elderly parents suffer a strong blow again.
"Same-wife" is an unavoidable special phenomenon in modern society, and Luo Hongling's story is the epitome of this phenomenon.
Her tragedy highlights the double suffering faced by the "same-wife" community: on the one hand, they are kept in the dark and enter into a marriage based on lies, and on the other hand, when the truth is revealed, they are neither explicitly protected by the law nor can they find social understanding and support.
What is even more distressing is that their suffering often exceeds that of the so-called "discriminated against" homosexuals.
In modern social ethics, although the acceptance of homosexuality is gradually increasing, there are still certain prejudices and misunderstandings.
However, this cannot be an excuse to hurt others. Concealing one's sexual orientation at the expense of another innocent person's happiness is not only a personal disservice, but also a challenge to social ethics.
We only hope that Luo Hongling's tragedy will never be repeated in another person!