Seeing such a message, the 88-year-old mother said that her daughter-in-law was without her consent. Privately buried his deceased child at sea, and donated his corneas. In a fit of rage, the mother took her daughter-in-law to court.
I think that as a mother, I have the right to know, but the sea burial is not the daughter-in-law's idea, the original text is his son's last words, shouldn't the family members respect the deceased's last wishes? In addition, your sadness and pain have something to do with the 500,000 yuan, what's the matter, the daughter-in-law will pay you 500,000 yuan, can your son come back from the sea?
In addition, the old lady is in her 80s, the son is almost 50/6 years old, the son has a wife and his own children, as well as brothers and sisters, can the daughter-in-law secretly do such a big thing as a sea burial?
And after getting along for so long, the daughter-in-law must consider the age of this old lady, if it is fifty or sixty years old, it is not a daughter-in-law's problem, the old lady is in her 80s.
If the white-haired person sends the black-haired person to the black-haired person, he may die by himself if he is in a hurry, and besides, this old lady is not this son, and she also has children, why don't the other children tell her, aren't they afraid that she can't stand it? If the daughter-in-law has any bad intentions, she should immediately tell her, what does it have to do with the daughter-in-law if she cries to death?
It's not her daughter-in-law's own mother, and the sea burial and donation are her son's last wishes, shouldn't the living fulfill the wishes of the deceased?
Sea burial and donation are the son's last words, not the daughter-in-law alone, think about the old lady in her 80s, this man is at least in his 50s, and his wife is about the same age.
As a woman in her 50s, isn't it uncomfortable for her husband to die, why don't you choose sea burial and donation just for the wishes of the deceased, and can't you satisfy your husband's wishes as a wife? Besides, this man has brothers and sisters, why don't everyone say it, isn't it just that the old lady can't stand it or disagree?
The sea burial and donation are his son's last words, in fact, he blames this daughter-in-law for having a very good heart, she should have told the old woman at the beginning, let her white-haired people send black-haired people, why hide it from her, she should let the old woman choose whether to fulfill her son's last wish, the old lady did not agree to let her son go to her dream every day to settle accounts with her.
In fact, the old lady should know what's going on? It's not that her daughter-in-law and granddaughter are hiding it from her, it's the whole family that is hiding it from her, isn't it because she's old? People are dead, and suing them only hurts their feelings!
My grandmother's mother died when she was young, and my aunt and sister depended on each other, and everyone hid from my grandmother when she died.
Because I am over 80 years old and afraid of excessive sadness, my grandma understands very well, and she did not complain to anyone afterwards, she said that the children are not for my sake, in case I have something to do with the children!
But this daughter-in-law is also problematic, because the final decision is in the hands of the immediate family. The immediate family must agree to do so, which means that as long as one person disagrees, it can't be done, not that we 2:3 you have to obey.
No one can handle it all? Not to mention personal rights can't be handled. You are property, and he can't handle it all. Discretion, why did the court award him compensation?
Then there is no legal basis, and it is not a mediation settlement. If nothing else, live in the ICU alone. The wife has to be extubated. The son disagreed. Look at which doctor dares to pull it out for him, or if his wife runs over and extubates, you just see if he wants to be sentenced.
The right to dispose of personal rights is very limited even if he wants to donate a kidney. You also need to be weighty enough to be eligible to donate.
If he weighs 90 pounds, is 1.7 meters tall, and can't even donate his cornea, he himself has no right to dispose of his cornea. Not to mention his wife. Unless he himself donated by national volunteers during his lifetime, he did not change until his death.
Do you know how important the right to dispose of personal rights is? He is only his wife, and even a part of his property disposal rights is partial, so you can say that you have the right to dispose of your personal rights.
It's not like you can do whatever you want, you go and tell the doctor, I don't want this hand anymore, you help me see this hand. Do you think it's possible? You say you want to donate a kidney. As a result, you are 1.8 meters tall and weigh 90 pounds.
The doctor said that you do not have the right to dispose of your body at this moment, and we do not accept your organ donation. You said that it is not okay to donate a kidney, I will donate a cornea, and the doctor said sir, if you don't leave, I will call the security guard.
Unless he filled out a volunteer donation agreement before he died, and it was not changed by the time he died, if he did not, then all immediate family members needed to agree.
At present, the scope of immediate family members, parents, spouses, and children is limited to these three types. Children include adoptive children who form a relationship of support, and parents include stepfathers and stepmothers who form a relationship of support. What does it mean to form a relationship of dependence? That is, you have the obligation to support you, and you have the obligation to support you.
The old mother must have the right to know, and the body must be given to the mother! At least the mother's approval and consent!
If it weren't for the deceased's own will, the wife and daughter would have made such a decision, and the mother would have been angry, sad, and heartbroken! The mother is the person who each of us should love the most, more than the spouse and children!
To sum it up
1. Some people say :
A widow is the deceased spouse and has the right to make any decision without having to seek anyone's opinion.
It was also said that:
This is the right granted to the wife by the Marriage Act.
2. Actually, it's all wrong.
The mainland marriage law clearly stipulates that the death of one of the spouses will automatically dissolve the relationship from the moment the doctor announces it and the hospital issues a death certificate.
3. The right to dispose of the deceased is not only his children and his wife, but also his parents.
In other words, how to dispose of the remains and ashes of the deceased should be agreed upon by the deceased's children, former spouse, and parents.
In particular, the consent of the deceased's parents must be obtained for organ donation, because it was given to him by his parents, not by his wife.
But under normal circumstances, the children will hide it from the elderly, after all, the white-haired person sends the black-haired person to the old man may not be able to bear it, and the spouse can indeed decide these things at his discretion.
So in the end, the court asked the daughter-in-law to give the old lady 15,000 yuan based on humanitarianism, and there must be a reason why it did not support the claim of 500,000 yuan.