Text: Jing Ma
The reason why Qingming has a day off is mainly to give everyone time to go back and worship their ancestors.
And a father and son on the Internet, when discussing the topic of whether Qingming's son should go home to sweep the tomb, also uploaded the chat record to the Internet and became popular, and netizens discussed it.
Some say that they must go home to sweep the tomb, and there is no ancestor who has his own, which is filial piety.
And some netizens are standing on this young man, after all, young people live under such pressure, and Qingming has to ask for leave for a few days off, and it costs money, which is indeed a bit overwhelming, and there is no need to care about these trivial things.
The psychologist Adler once said that a happy childhood can heal a lifetime, and an unhappy childhood should be healed by a lifetime.
Each of us grew up from a croaking baby, when we were very fragile when we were young, in fact, we not only need to be fed and clothed, but also need our own blood and parents to give us unconditional love, according to their own psychological needs to understand themselves in order to make themselves rich in their hearts, a child with a rich heart is actually a rich child. #清明节游玩日记#
But if a child with a lack of heart, no matter how much money he earns, he is also very inferior in his heart, and it is difficult for him to be happy.
And when this child chatted with his father, he deeply realized that he was a poor child, and his heart was full of his powerlessness and vicissitudes, and this chat also made many young netizens empathize.
There are three manifestations of "poor children", all of which are closely related to the usual education of their parents
Poor child manifestation 1: threatening
Every child is an independent individual, he has his own thoughts, he has his own consciousness, so if parents ask their children to listen to him, it is like raising a robot or raising a puppet.
Some parents are even more hateful, when the child is disobedient, they will think of threatening the child, for example, this child said that he would not go home to sweep the grave during Qingming, and the father would scold him for being a white-eyed wolf, and threaten him that your son would not sweep the grave for you in the future......
And many parents will use this trick "I don't love you if you don't behave, I don't want you if you don't leave, I don't want you anymore, I'll ignore you if you're in what's wrong", these are all a threat, if you don't do it, I don't want you or don't love you, which is a catastrophe for children, which will make children feel that their parents don't love themselves at all, without parental love, children are very poor in their hearts.
Poor children's performance 2: Parents just feed themselves and clothe themselves
The post-60s, post-70s, post-80s generations can be said to have something to eat when they were young, because there was a lack of material at that time, when we were children, our parents beat us, as long as we were given two pieces of sugar, we could be happy for a long time, but today's children are not short of food and clothing, and what they need more is the respect and love of their parents.
If you want to raise your child well, in addition to feeding and cloning him, you must also understand him, only if the child is rich in heart, he can be strong, otherwise the child is a "poor child".
Poor children's performance three: Parents say yes, children can't have their own will
For example, parents feel that tomb sweeping is very important, tomb sweeping is indeed very important for the elderly, and for young people who understand the six relatives, tomb sweeping means that they have roots, which belongs to their own system and identity.
And when educating children, when children are disobedient, they will use threats or cursing, which will hurt the child's heart, and feel that their parents don't love themselves at all, love the obedient self, and love the self who has no will.
Every parent should check himself, whether you have a lot of requirements for your child, whether you have to be obedient to the child, or whether you are threatening the child, if so, your child is easy to grow into a "poor child", such a child is very unstable, it is easy to feel inferior, because he does not feel the love of his parents.
And since he was a child, he has had the abundant love of his parents and has become a "rich child".
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