Hello everyone, I'm your Toutiao Editor Toutiao Aunt. Today I would like to talk to you about an interesting topic - how to deal with contradictions and conflicts with others. We often come across things that make people angry, but revenge is not the best way to solve the problem. So, what are the things that are enough to do in secret?
My name is Li Hua, I am 30 years old, and I am an assistant manager of a large company. I grew up in an ordinary family, and my parents taught me to be kind, upright, and to use wisdom to solve problems. This allows me to maintain a calm mind at all times in the face of relationships.
Today I would like to share with you a real-life experience that taught me how to deal with conflicts with others with kindness. Once, after I had been working on a project for several months, a colleague went so far as to publicly accuse me at a meeting and try to get me to blame. At that moment, I felt angry and aggrieved, but instead of choosing to take revenge openly, I did a few things secretly.
When I heard my colleague publicly accuse me, a fire instantly rose in my heart. However, I realized that impulsiveness didn't solve the problem, so I tried to stay calm. I took a few deep breaths to stabilize my emotions. In this way, I can better think about and deal with this challenge.
When I calmed down, I took the initiative to find the colleague and sat down for a chat. I wanted to hear why he made such accusations, and I wanted to know his true intentions. By listening, I realized that he was actually frustrated by the failure of the project, and my success seemed to be the object of his emotions.
I understand that conflicts can only be resolved through honest communication. So I arranged a private meeting with the colleague and other stakeholders. At the meeting, I explained in detail the difficulties and challenges of our project, and at the same time gave my colleague enough recognition and support. Everyone began to confide in each other, and understanding and understanding slowly developed in the process.
In the end, I realized that it is only through mutual cooperation and support that we can truly resolve conflicts. In order to better unite everyone, I offered to help them overcome the difficulties in the project and work together. Through mutual efforts, we finally succeeded in completing the project and achieved the expected goals ahead of schedule.
Through this experience, I learned some truths. Secretly doing the following is enough to resolve conflicts and conflicts: stay calm, listen to the other person's point of view, communicate sincerely with others, and go above and beyond to help. When faced with challenges, we don't need to take revenge, but use wisdom and kindness to solve them. In this way, better communication and development can be achieved in interpersonal relationships.
If you have similar experiences or thoughts, please share them with me in the comments section. Thank you all for reading!