In order to apologize to her daughter, the mother and teacher are tough, and the parents who are not easy to mess with can protect the child

A mother shared her experience of firing head-on with her classmates, parents and teachers who bullied her daughter in the class group in order to help her daughter seek justice.

Her daughter was in the first grade, and once, when a classmate in the back row tried to copy her homework, her daughter refused, and the classmate knocked off her daughter's pencil and threatened: If you don't let me see it, I'll slap you twice.

After the daughter came home, she told her mother about the incident, and the mother directly told the other parent in the class group, informing the other parent of what happened, and asking the parent to confirm with her child.

As a result, this parent was very protective of the calf, arguing for his child and saying: The child said it, but in the end he didn't fight, he definitely didn't mean it, our child is very timid, never bullied people, he just said to play.

Later, the teacher also excused the child in the group and said: I know about this, the child did not carry out the action of beating people, he usually studies very well, but he is not serious about his homework.

The mother saw that the other parent did not apologize at all, and the teacher was also pulling the sidelines, very angry, neither humble nor arrogant in the group, Teacher Aite said:

Teacher, since you have seen it, why don't you stop the other party's wrong behavior of threatening and intimidating my daughter, can a child do whatever he wants as long as he studies well?

In the end, the child publicly apologized to the little girl in the class.

This mother will not back down, and she apologizes for her daughter who has done nothing wrong.

Let the child who studies well but has poor character know the fate of threatening and intimidating others.

Even more let the teacher with the mud kick the iron plate.

Some netizens left a message expressing their worries: This mother scolds the teacher like this in the class group, which will make the teacher feel that it is difficult and troublesome for the parents, and then transfer the dissatisfaction to the child and wear small shoes for the child.

This netizen's concern is not unreasonable, but if this mother endures it and persuades her daughter to endure it, don't care, if the trivial matter is nothing, the other party's child will no longer threaten her daughter?

That's not necessarily, maybe if you endure it this time, you'll really slap it twice next time.

Sometimes, being a difficult parent makes others dare not mess with their own children.

Parents who are not easy to mess with can support their children

A junior high school boy named Wang Nanhao shared why children are bullied at school from a student's point of view, which is very valuable to us parents because he is a student himself, and what he says is what he sees.

Wang Nanhao said that there are two types of students who are generally not easy to be bullied on campus:

One is a student with better academic performance, because the teacher will support him.

One is a classmate whose parents are more horizontal, because their parents will support him.

He also shared two contrasting stories:

One is his elementary school classmate, because he is weak and has a voice like a girl and is often bullied by a group of boys, giving him a nickname, this classmate's mother rushed to the school, determined to catch the classmate who gave him the nickname, after this unrelenting trouble, no one dares to give this classmate a nickname.

Another chubby classmate, whose family is very rich, is always bullied by his classmates, but his parents say every time: This is a trivial matter, and it is normal for children to fight and make trouble with each other.

As a result, the classmates in the class became even more unscrupulous and threw his books into the toilet tank.

These two stories truly verify Wang Nanhao's conclusion: bullies are afraid of parents who are not easy to mess with.

When many bullies bully their classmates, they will first test to see if there will be someone to support the classmate, and they will also be anxious for a short time, afraid that the classmate's parents will come to the door.

It turned out that the parents of this classmate did not come forward.

Now they were relieved, and they started a long-term bullying without any scruples, and by the way, they mocked: What about your parents? Why don't they come to help you?

To be a parent who is not easy to mess with is not to find fault with unreasonably, to find trouble with teachers, but to open your arms in front of your child to protect him/her when his child is not at fault, but is bullied and bullied.

Find the other parent to apologize for admitting mistakes, find the teacher for fairness and justice, and find the school to evaluate right and wrong.

Let those children who are always bullying people be afraid of the next time they want to be bad.

Let your child's heart be full of confidence, and this confidence will eventually become the child's courage to fight bullying.

The edge of parents is the light that protects their children

Most of our post-80s parents grew up under criticism and suppression.

We are accustomed to being obedient and obedient, more things are better than less things, finding reasons for everything from ourselves, and enduring the way of life.

In countless compromises and forbearances, I put away my edge and got used to it.

However, now that we are parents, we need to sharpen those edges again and become a light to protect our children.

Our edge should look like this:

1. Be able to do justice for children

In the movie "All About My Mother", Li Xiaomei was responsible for standing on the sidelines of the variety show recording site to hold the inscription board to the guests, and the inscription board was written in advance that the guests should speak, but this inscription board was a bit heavy, and Li Xiaomei lifted it for too long and began to shake a little.

The guest couldn't read the word board clearly, so he immediately went crazy and asked Li Xiaomei on the spot: Can you not shake it? How can you let me record the show like this? I can do it, but I can't get out!

Li Xiaomei stood there very cramped, with her head down, not daring to say a word.

The mother, who was sitting in the audience as an extra, stood up and asked rhetorically: Are you a star, do you need others to write the answers well to answer the questions of us audience?

Then he turned to Li Xiaomei and said: Girl, if you don't like it, throw it away, it doesn't matter.

At this moment, her mother should be sparkling in Li Xiaomei's eyes.

Many parents will not support their children, and in the face of right and wrong, it is always their children who are wrong.

The child was beaten, and the parents blamed the child for not being able to do it and not being able to fight back.

The child is being bullied, and the parents ask the child to self-reflect, why don't you bully others, just bully you.

The child was bullied at school, and when he went home and told his parents, he was scolded with his head and face scolded, and he was injured inside and out.

We have all been children, and when we are wronged, we especially want our parents to stand up and uphold justice for themselves.

Zhou Hongwei, founder of 360 Group, shared on social platforms:

If the child is bullied at school, the father must be bloody, you should go directly to the school, find this little villain who bullied your child, warn him, let him learn a lesson, and dare not bully his own children in the future.

What children need is the feeling of being supported and believed in by their parents.

2. Dare to stand up to authority for your children

I once received a message from a mother asking for help in the background, she said that her son loves to beat people in kindergarten, and there are always parents of children who come to her to judge, and the kindergarten teacher also said that it is her child's fault.

But the son said that it was the other children who did it first before he fought back.

The mother wants to believe in her child, but the teacher also says that it is her own child's fault, is it possible that the teacher can still talk nonsense? And she is a teacher, so let's not conflict with the teacher.

My reply to her was: If you know the daily work of a kindergarten teacher, you will know that the teacher cannot keep an eye on every child, often a child cries, and the teacher follows the sound.

We should at least know what happened in many ways, and everyone should trust their children more than they say, and if necessary, they can look at the surveillance.

Later, my mother left me a message, saying that I went directly to the kindergarten and communicated with the teacher, and there were indeed a few times when the other party did it first, and the child fought back, but the strength of the fight back was too great, and the other party cried, and the child did not do anything wrong.

In fact, I can understand this mother's concern about conflicts with teachers, I used to be a person who was afraid of teachers since I was a child, and I was afraid of leaders and all kinds of authorities after work.

But after raising a child, we should think about it in advance, if one day in the future, the child is bullied at school, the other parent has a little power, and the teacher is obviously biased towards the other party, what should we do?

We dare not argue with the teacher, neither humble nor arrogant, whether we can compete with each other, and we are not afraid.

Because every child is a parent's weakness.

If parents are afraid of teachers, afraid of school, and swallow their anger because of authority, then their children will be greeted with more ridicule and bullying.

In a bad incident such as school bullying, every parent needs to have the courage to protect their children without fear of authority and dare to work hard.

You can't choose to calm down because you are afraid of the teacher wearing small shoes for your child, and finally push the child into the dark abyss.

[Written at the end]

Life has worn out the edges and corners of many adults, I think many people are like me, they are a little wronged, but only in children, everyone's bottom line is: don't bully my child.