"In the New Year, my daughter has offended all her relatives"
The first "most annoying" child in 2024 has appeared!
A mother shared on social platforms that her daughter offended her relatives during the Chinese New Year!
The specific reason is that when facing some relatives who have no sense of boundaries, she not only does not have stage fright, but also directly looks back to the past.
Put a text version of the dialogue to feel:
Relative: "Look at your mother, she eats so fat, don't let her eat, persuade her"
Girl: "Look at what you look like, fat, and talk about others"
Relative: "New Year's Day, what does your mother think of you, take injections and take medicine"
Girl: "Can't you keep your mouth shut"
Relative: "I don't like you"
Girl: "I like you"
Relative: "No big, no small"
Girl: "What are you talking about with a child?"
At present, the likes of this video have reached 30W+, and the comment area is full of praise for the girl:
"Dare to speak up about your feelings and not worry about what others think"
"No self-proof"
"The most powerful thing is that she can understand what the other party means, what the core is, whether it is good or something else"
Why does everyone now like children with excellent psychological quality, who dare to question, and who speak golden sentences?
Sober, flexible, and bloody! Frankly, some of these traits are something that even adults can't do!
It's not so much that everyone likes it, but that it's envious.
This high-pressure society is becoming more and more unfriendly to children with poor psychological quality and easy internal friction.
Just look at some data,
In mainland China, the detection rate of depression among adolescents in 2020 was 24.6%, which means that about 1 in 5 children suffered from depression.
Do you still remember the article "More than a month after the start of school, the children's psychiatric department is full" that was swiped at the end of last year?
The Department of Child Psychiatry at Peking University Sixth Hospital was full more than a month after the start of school.
Most of these children admitted to the hospital have psychological problems such as anxiety and depression, and some even have suicidal thoughts.
According to the doctor, the reason why children will have mental and psychological diseases comes from two reasons:
One is to learn involution and the pressure given by parents;
second, the inability to adapt to the new learning environment;
See?
A good attitude is the foundation of everything, no matter what time it is.
In the face of pressure, whether it is in life or study, those children with "big hearts" can resolve it for themselves;
Those children who are easily entangled will also hold back in their hearts and fall into deep internal friction.
My friend's child hasn't been to school for half a year.
At first, I wondered how many courses my child would have to miss if he didn't go to school for half a year.
Later, I heard from his parents that the child had mania because of too much pressure.
At that moment, the bucket parents can really understand that helpless feeling,
If your child is unhealthy and unhappy, what good is it to read more books and get higher grades?
It is undeniable that although the living conditions of children are better now, there are more and more channels for access to knowledge and information.
But there are also more and more unhappy children.
It is that there are more and more unhappy children, and those children who maintain high energy at all times and can resolve negative emotions are particularly eye-catching.
I don't know when it started,
To evaluate a child, you can't just make a conclusion from a report card, but can deal with negative emotions and difficulties in life, and it is a shining ability.
I swiped a video before,
There was a little boy who was ridiculed by his classmates for wearing unsightly clothes, and his mother comforted him at first.
But he made a new request: buy two more identical ones!
The mother was very curious about why the child did this, and the little boy replied:
"So I can wear it every day, why can't I wear it if they say it doesn't look good? I'm going to wear it every day and let him get used to it. ”
There is no internal friction, and there is no inferiority complex because of other people's doubts, this powerful mental state makes an adult feel envious.
At that time, I felt that if this child encountered difficulties in his later life, he would definitely be able to overcome them easily.
A father in Weifang, Shandong, whose son's academic performance is not very good, often makes him feel that he can't hold his head up in front of relatives and friends.
But after attending a school party, the father's attitude towards his children changed.
He found that although children are not good at "learning", they are very good at "interpersonal relationships".
The classmates love to play with him, and he is very good at taking care of people, handing out snacks and gifts to everyone at the party.
Looking at this enthusiastic and cheerful child who can speak well, he regrets that he once judged the quality of the child only by his grades:
"He's just getting it wrong, he's not doing it wrong. ”
Yes, it would be too narrow to define children's lives by only "good or bad grades, disobedient or disobedient".
Education is all-encompassing, and grades are definitely not the only criterion.
Every child has their own shining point, which is unique and incomparably precious.
As long as there is one more yardstick, there will be more good children in this world.
I don't want my child to become, but I sincerely hope that he can maintain a kind of purity and bravery when he runs away for half his life.
When faced with people you don't like in life, you can leave with courage,
When faced with things you don't like in life, you can decisively say no.
The formulas in the classroom may not necessarily accompany children for a lifetime, but knowing how to get along with others and regulating their mindset will continue throughout their lives.
After thinking about these things clearly, I found that my mind was much calmer in education:
He is not required to get the first place in the class or tutorial class. Mastering the ability to learn is more important than having good academic performance.
For example, learning Chinese is to practice your expression skills and knowledge reserves, and learning mathematics is to exercise your logical thinking ability.
Finally, I would like to say to my children,
The grade is just your KPI at a certain stage, you have a good grade, and I am happy for you. Even if you don't, it doesn't matter.
More than these, I hope you can truly be the master of your emotions,
You can see it and let it go! Don't cause trouble, but you're not afraid of it!
When the responsibility comes, it will be greeted, and when the trouble comes, it will be solved!
You go to see the ups and downs of this world, and your parents are behind you!