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I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

Text | Mi Li's mother

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

A few days ago, in my eyes, I have always been a "central air conditioner" general warm male rice grain, and I actually blocked a classmate.

The reason is that this classmate asked Mi Li to go to their community to play in the snow, it was very cold that day, Mi Li was preparing to watch a documentary at home, I didn't want to go, I couldn't bear to grind and grind, and then I discussed finding a compromise community, and the two of them played.

As a result, Mi Li went to the appointment against the cold wind, waited for a long time and didn't see the figure of his classmate, and called the other party to find out that the classmate still felt that it was too cold and didn't want to come out to play with him.

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

Mi Li rushed home angrily, and after returning home, she blocked all the contact information of this classmate.

I asked him: Why are you so decisive?

He told me: People who don't keep their word and don't care about others at all are not worthy of being friends, and in the future, everyone will be classmates, and friends should not be friends.

He went on to say that this was the third time, the first time, he took the initiative to ask the whole class for a birthday present and pointed out what Mi Li bought for him; the second time, he was playing a game in the cinema, and after being stopped, he deliberately said loudly that Mi Li was playing, and afterwards said that he was joking; this is the third time, and he did not believe it.

It's just three things, it's not necessary.

After listening to his head-to-head narration, I was relieved that in terms of making friends, he knew where his principles and bottom line were.

Recently, I saw such a thing on the hot search, a girl posted that she had been a little hard to get along with her friend of ten years recently, because the other party was always like her own mother, nagging and managing her.

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

She also posted a lot of chat records between the two, asking everyone if they want to break off friends like this.

After reading the screenshot, Mi Li's mother just wanted to say, this "mother" friend runs quickly, don't run back to the ground!

Let's take a look at what happened between them.

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

The conflict was caused by the girl's friends who felt that she was unmotivated, immature, and did not think about her future.

It can be seen from the words of a friend that the girl who posted this post is about to graduate from college and wants to take the civil service exam, but she has not made any preparations.

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

I didn't pass the English test two or three times, and I didn't have much internship experience, so I couldn't add color to my resume.

Friends are very worried about her, they are all children of ordinary people, and they have to work their own after graduation, and if she doesn't work hard for her future, the road may not be easy in the future.

The girl explained that she was already studying the course of the provincial exam, and that she still had a chance to take the English 6 test again, and said to her friend: "Do you think I'm not anxious?"

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

My friend's words were more intense than before, and he said mercilessly: "If you are anxious, go to study! What are you anxious about playing games for seven or eight hours a day?!"

From the girl's following self-report, everyone knew that even the girl's graduation thesis was read and revised by this "mother" friend word by word, otherwise with her own format full of mistakes and punctuation, her thesis would not have passed smoothly.

Not only did the girl not feel grateful, but she also felt that her friend was nosy, because she just asked her to "help me see", "who knows that you have changed every word".

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

This tone is really uncomfortable to look at.

The most unbelievable thing is that the girl dislikes her friends for urging her to be motivated, disgusts her for interfering in her life, and asks her friends to give her a cover.

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 
I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

My friend went abroad to study and opened a company, so she said that when her friend gained a firm foothold abroad, she would go to her, and let her friend "casually introduce a job" and "just starve to death".

The friend was very angry with her indifferent attitude, and said hatefully: "It's not that I can't help you, but you must at least have your own goals."

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

As a result, the girl seemed to be poked in the sore spot, and began to accuse her friend of "didn't you just change my paper and write something", which means that there is something great about it.

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

also threw all the contradictions between the two of them on their friends, thinking that the other party made a lot of money because of studying abroad and opening a company, and looked down on himself.

It's really unreasonable and strong, just by looking at the words, you can feel her anger.

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

After reading this post, Mi Li's mother really felt a lot of emotion.

Looking at the girl's indignant appearance, I thought it was a friend interfering too much, but I didn't expect that this wave was really the girl who posted it to expose her shortcomings.

Seriously, if there is such a good friend who inspires people to forge ahead, he will really be taken away unconsciously.

Mi Li's mother once wrote in the article "I only know when I go to a good school, and the uselessness of reading is a lie", and old fans should also remember that I was lucky enough to enter a good school, and the classmates and school spirit of this school have benefited me for a lifetime.

At that time, my tablemate was an English master, and by the time I knew only about 26 letters, she was able to memorize many original children's literature classics, such as "Charlotte's Web" and "To Kill a Mockingbird".

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

And she doesn't use subtitles to watch English movies at all, and her spoken language is even better, fluent and pleasant, and she has become a year-old friend with our foreign teacher, and she often talks and laughs.

Mi Li's mother also has a classmate who is a top student and shares a dormitory with me. She can translate all the beautiful ancient poems she has learned into English, the key is that after translation, the artistic conception and charm are not reduced at all, and she can also rhyme, which is amazing!

I'm not afraid of everyone's jokes, before going to middle school, Mi Li's mother always thought that she was not bad, but when she entered a good school, she was crushed by the top students in all directions to know how big the gap was, and only then did she know how hard she should work to get good grades.

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

It is precisely because of the close and immersive experience of the learning atmosphere of the top students that I was also driven to work hard, reciting a new concept every day, and reading Friends almost 10 times during the winter and summer vacations.

Driven by this group of big bulls, I can't say that I am a scumbag counterattack, but I can be regarded as being promoted with my grades, and I have developed good study habits and benefited for life.

This girl's friend has always been trying his best to help her, drive her, and lead her with his own experience and experience, and also hope that the girl can clarify her future goals and avoid detours.

Unexpectedly, instead of appreciating the feelings, the girl also sent out the conversation between the two and said that the other party was like her own mother, nagging her to control her, and asking everyone if they wanted to break off their friends.

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

This operation really makes my head full of question marks.

Feel at ease when enjoying the convenience provided by the other party, and gladly accept the other party's efforts and support, but as long as the other party says a little bit of what he doesn't like to hear, even if he really thinks about her, that is, the other party doesn't know how to communicate with each other, and the management is too wide and crosses the line.

Where is there such a cheap good thing, even if it is a mother, you can't blindly ask for it without gratitude, right?

There is no need to say much about this girl, I believe everyone has their own judgment.

What Mi Li's mother wants to say more is to advise everyone to think more about themselves and not to live as this friend in the girl's mouth.

In other words, that is, between friends, don't be strong in the three views, let alone bear the cause and effect of others.

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

A friend of mine told me one thing, she has a small special love brain, as long as she talks about love, the whole person seems to have zero IQ.

Once she talked to a boyfriend, the man had a bad temper and gambled, and sometimes he would do something to her, and the girl complained to my friend several times.

At that time, my friend was also very important, every time I heard the girl's grievances and saw the scars on the girl's body, I was so angry that I scolded the boy, and persuaded the girl to break up countless times.

I can understand her, friends who have played together since childhood, how can they bear to watch her really jump into the fire pit.

But as we said before, this little girl is a love brain, every time the boy coaxes her back, she relays the words of my friend who scolded the boy and persuaded her to break up, in order to show how much she loves this boy and let the boy be kind to herself.

Over time, this boy hated my friend, once he drank too much, found my friend's house in the middle of the night and smashed the door frantically, scolding while smashing, and made trouble for a long time before leaving, my friend was so scared that he didn't sleep all night, and the next day he packed up his things and moved.

Of course, she also quickly blocked the little hair, and so far she refuses to even go to the class reunion.

Later, when she told me about this incident, I wanted to say that she was lucky, but if she ran into someone as extreme as Chen Shifeng, the consequences would be really unimaginable.

There is also Mi Li's mother who wrote about the tragedy of a rental house fire before.

A 19-year-old girl who works alone in Shanghai takes in a friend who is not having a good life, but the friend can't think about it and commits suicide by setting fire to her rental house.

After the girl committed suicide by arson, the upstairs and downstairs neighbors suffered, their houses suffered varying degrees of damage, and the gas pipes, electrical systems and housing structures of the entire building needed to be reassessed, so many residents had to move out of the community and live in other places temporarily.

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

The landlord is even more unlucky, the good house is rented out, and it is burned into ruins when it is recovered, and some people have estimated that the housing price of the area where the incident occurred is 6-80,000 yuan per square meter, and this fire will burn hundreds of thousands.

is also involved in a human life for no reason, and I feel like a big head when I think about it.

And this girl who kindly took in a friend has suffered an unjustified disaster, and is likely to face a lawsuit from the landlord and dozens or millions of compensation.

I treat you as a friend, but you want to be my mother? 

A girl who has just come of age and is about to face the world alone, because she has good intentions, she can't bear to let her friends live on the streets, and kindly takes in the other party, but she unexpectedly takes on a huge debt.

Such an ending really makes people sigh.

A real good friend will bring a lot of positive and positive influences to each other, and in the interaction, there should be a relationship, without a blind give, a blind asking and not knowing the reason of gratitude.

And, never try to meddle in changing someone else's fate.

If you are passionate about changing the fate of someone else and pay too much attention to him, the end result is likely to disappoint you.

Because not all kindness can be reciprocated, and not every kindness can be reciprocated.

We must recognize the terrible and unfathomable nature of human nature, and do not carry our own fate with him.

Let go of the plot of helping others, respect the fate of others, if you really want to help, the result is good.

Let's encourage each other.

Personal Profile: @米粒妈爱分享 Mi Li's mother, American returnee, Haidian parent. Focus on learning, educational experience and further education.

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