After the Spring Festival, 9 million children were ruthlessly "abandoned": their sensibility made people feel distressed
Author:Insight · Seven
The child's world is so small, so small that it can only fit mom and dad.
Today is the first day of the end of the Spring Festival holiday, and it is also the first day of the official start of work, and the people who return to work feel the pain.
However, there is such a group of children, and their pain is even greater.
Years ago, they looked forward to the stars and the moon, and finally looked forward to the return of their parents.
Now, they have not yet felt the warmth of family affection, and they are about to face the pain of parting.
According to the 2023 Rural Education Development Report released by the China Rural Development Foundation, the number of left-behind children in mainland China reached 9.02 million in 2013.
Behind the cold and huge numbers are the longings and longings of countless children for their parents.
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I've seen a video:
Ms. Gu of Zhoukou, Henan Province returned to work after the holiday.
The 5-year-old daughter returned to the empty home from school and tentatively called out to her mother.
Seeing that no one responded, she sat down in a chair to the side in disappointment.
She couldn't believe that her mother had really left, and she kept crying and shouting over and over again.
The mother, who was thousands of miles away, saw this scene and couldn't bear it anymore and drove 10 hours back to her daughter.
The girl in the video waited for her mother to return, but more children are still missing their parents and enduring boundless loneliness.
In Yunfu, Guangdong, a 4-year-old left-behind girl was accidentally scalded by boiling water.
She cried heartbreakingly, shaking her hands and stomping her feet.
She didn't tell the adults, she kept crying for more than an hour, and no one at home paid attention to her, probably thinking that she was losing her temper.
In that hour, she must have longed for her mother's appearance countless times: "If only my mother was here, if my mother was here, she would definitely hug me and comfort me." ”
But from beginning to end, my mother didn't show up.
The 3-year-old boy called out to his father over and over again and walked in through the door.
Suddenly, he accidentally fell on the ground, and he subconsciously shouted to the monitor, "Dad, I fell!"
But there was silence on the other side, and he had to struggle to get up from the ground alone.
At that moment, he must have had a lot of grievances in his heart.
When a left-behind child grew up, he once said:
Every time you leave the house, you leave the child crying in place, and the child cries so loudly, do you know why?
Not only is it reluctant, but most of them have decided on one thing in their hearts: I have been abandoned.
Even though I have said many times that "Mom and Dad don't want you anymore", the result left to the child is: you have left him.
Watching the figures of Mom and Dad get farther and farther away from him, the feeling of abandonment is like a huge net, wrapping young children in an airtight airtight wind.
You never know how helpless and desperate the child who was ruthlessly "abandoned" was.
This feeling of abandonment and alienation is like a seed of bad emotions that takes root, sprouts, and grows wildly in the child's heart.
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In the documentary "Dry River", there is a little girl named Shi Fengming, who grew up with her grandparents.
She wrote in her diary: "I envy those who have parents very much, I have envied a lot, and I have low self-esteem a lot. ”
She is withdrawn and sensitive, and usually has few friends at school.
The only friend is a little black dog.
Shi Fengming likes it very much: "It's not only cute, but also very well-behaved, as long as I whistle, it will come over." ”
As a result, a few weeks later, the director team found that the puppy was missing, so they asked her, "Where's your puppy?"
She said: "It's already divided, half of the teacher, half of the uncle." ”
Pretending to be a strong smile can't hide the helplessness and pathos in her heart.
With her parents not around, she can't even protect her best friend.
Someone asked: How can she control her emotions at such a young age?
Someone below replied: "Because she may have had many more sad moments than this." ”
The lack of family affection makes these children mature and sensible prematurely, but who can understand the sadness in their hearts.
Parents went out to work after the holiday, and their 10-year-old daughter loudly told them:
"Dad, slow down on the road!"
After receiving her father's affirmative answer, she silently returned to the house.
After her father's car drove away, she walked out of the house again, and could no longer hide her reluctance, so she hid behind the pillar and cried.
Next, she chased out, just wanting to see her parents' backs again...
Finally, she walked back in disappointment, leaning against the pillar for a long, long time.
Maybe in the future, she will only have a pillar to rely on.
Dad was going out to work, and the daughter stared at her dad reluctantly, not even noticing that the Spring Festival couplets fell on her head.
Facing her father, who was about to leave, she didn't cry, but said carefully: "Dad, when you are free, come back to see me." ”
Even if you are reluctant, you have to pretend to be strong, and you are sensible to make people feel distressed.
And they're teenagers at best.
In countless lonely and cold nights, they don't know how much sadness they swallowed and how many tears they shed.
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A father posted on the Internet about the changes in his left-behind daughter for a year.
At first, when the daughter saw her father returning to her hometown, she smiled happily and kept shouting "Daddy" in her mouth.
Then, as if she remembered something, the smiling daughter grabbed the corner of her father's clothes and urged: "Daddy hurry up and go to the house, there are mosquitoes." ”
After Dad entered the house, the daughter said sweetly, "Daddy, hurry up and change your shoes and wear the new shoes you bought for me!"
This series of actions simply melted Dad's heart.
However, when the daughter saw her father again after a year, her face had long since faded from the original excitement, and only strangeness and alienation remained in her eyes.
She didn't even recognize that the person in front of her was the father she had been thinking about for a long time.
This scene made my father's heart ache, and he wrote:
"I thought about it all night, I didn't want my child to continue to be a left-behind child, I was afraid that I wouldn't make any money in the end, and my child wouldn't be with me, so I accepted poverty and ordinariness and reconciled with myself. ”
The greatest sorrow of being a parent is that you work hard outside the home and want to earn a better future for your children.
In the end, he found that he had become a stranger in the eyes of his children.
We always feel that the coming day is long, and we always think that we will come back to spend time with our children when we have everything.
But I don't know that for children, gold and silver mountains are not as good as the current companionship.
Do you still remember the little girl Enya who studied hard under the braised vegetable board?
In front of the board, the smell of braised pork is emanating and noisy, while under the board, Xiao Enya is sitting reading books and taking online classes.
Despite the unsatisfactory environment, Keenya is still willing to study under the board because it allows her to be with her parents.
Enya's mother felt a little sorry for the child, but netizens praised it one after another:
Yes, as long as the family is together, it is the warmest.
and the little girl Fei'er, who followed her father to deliver food for about 6 months and was affectionately called "the youngest delivery person" by netizens.
Now, the family has finally taken out a loan to buy a small house of their own in the city.
Living together every day, they are happy, and their days are getting more and more hopeful.
The child's world is so small, so small that it can only fit mom and dad.
As long as they can be with their parents, children are not afraid of hardships and even more so of running around.
For them, as long as they can see the familiar figure of their parents every day when they come home, no matter how cold or hot, they have the care of their parents to ask for warmth, which is the greatest happiness.
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Yan Rujing, the debater of "Wonderful Sayings", said:
"A child's life is a serial, and parents are the only audience for the first half of the child's life.
If the serial drama is missed, it can be made up, but once the child's life is missed, it can no longer be made up. ”
Children are the concern of our life.
Many things can be done slowly, but the child's growth is only once, and if you miss it, you won't come again.
So, no matter how busy and tired you are, don't forget to accompany your children to grow up.
Hold his hand tightly and let him understand that no matter when, there is a pair of warm hands holding him, and he will never be alone on the way forward.
Give it a thumbs up and encourage parents all over the world.