Graphic Editor丨Qi talks about the world
I went to my aunt's house to pay a New Year's greeting and met my aunt's neighbor, my childhood playmate Haiyan.
The Haiyan sisters are about the same age as me, and when I was a child, I always played with them when I lived at my aunt's house during the summer vacation. When she became an adult, her parents recruited a son-in-law for Haiyan.
Seeing her sitting leisurely at the door chatting with others, I asked her, "Aren't you going out to pay New Year's greetings?"
She replied: "I don't pay New Year's greetings this year, it's my turn to entertain guests, and I will go directly to the hotel later." ”
After listening to her detailed explanation, I realized that their family has changed the New Year's greeting pattern in the past two years.
Haiyan has seven brothers and sisters in her father, seven sisters and brothers in her mother, more than a dozen cousins and cousins, plus relatives of the older generation, she can't count them herself.
The juniors pay New Year's greetings to the elders, and the elders send lamps to the juniors, which will not end until the fourteenth day of the first lunar month. In her words, the wholesale gifts before the year had to be pulled by three wheels.
Almost every year, there will be conflicts between relatives because of New Year's greetings, whose children did not pay New Year's greetings this year, whose gifts are too poor, and whose family has less New Year's money......
Later, I learned from other people's families and changed the pattern of New Year's greetings:
Every year, the guests are served in turns, and this arranges the restaurant, and all the relatives of the maternal and paternal lines have dinner on the same day.
In the case of a family, each family is paid 300 yuan by young people, and parents and children can participate together. Don't bring gifts, go straight to the hotel.
This year, Haiyan booked 7 tables, and she prepared 100 yuan red envelopes for each of the minor children, which were distributed before the banquet.
Other relatives no longer visit each other's homes to pay New Year's greetings, nor do they give each other red envelopes to their children.
Haiyan said that last year they had been doing this for a year, and it was very lively, and many relatives have done it this year.
I only go to one family every year, and the rest of the time can be arranged to go out to play, or spend time with my parents and children, so that I don't have to run on the way to pay New Year's greetings every day.
When I got home, I talked to my mother, who immediately called my aunt and uncle and agreed to do the same next year.
There are several reasons why my mother is so active.
I married far away, and it was too hard to pay New Year's greetings
Every year, it is relatively late to return to my parents' house from my husband's hometown to pay New Year's greetings.
More than once, some people have said that my New Year's greetings are like delivery, because I have to rush to several stores a day, and it is difficult to say a few words.
Those who understand, know that I am in a hurry, and those who do not understand will feel that they are not valued.
Gifts received every year will cause waste
At the end of the New Year's greetings every year, the mother has to worry about the gifts.
Most of the gifts are milk, wine, beverages, pastries, fruits.
A lot of sweets, my mother doesn't like sweets, my father doesn't dare to eat sweets, and it's not easy to give away, so there is no shortage in every family.
There are also people who are more pragmatic and send rice and oil.
Last year, I brought home three bags of rice from my parents' house, and now I still have two bags left unopened. Rice is our staple food, but the rice we receive doesn't taste good and doesn't dry up.
The distribution of New Year's money makes people feel depressed
My mother is depressed every year for the New Year's money, and my children only went to a relative's house with me to worship once when they were young.
And the mother has to give many relatives and children every year, and many of them have a second child.
If you give less, you can't take it, and if you give more, you will feel distressed, and you will inevitably nag a few words every year.
It's rare for brothers and sisters to get together
Grandparents and grandparents are no longer alive, and it is difficult for parents and their siblings to have a chance to get together.
Cousins, cousins are harder to get together, the last time I saw my cousin was when he got married, and now his kids are about to go to college.
My cousin works in other places, and although he comes to visit my parents every few years, he never meets me.
Many of the children of the next generation have never met.
The New Year's expenses are large, and there is no leisure
This is also the reason why many people are worried about the New Year.
A busy year should have taken a break to accompany parents and children.
But in fact, the family couldn't eat a few meals, and since the second year of junior high school, I have been running back and forth to my relatives' houses.
Even if the daughters-in-law do not touch the spring water in their own homes, they have to show their virtues in their in-laws' houses during the New Year, which is also the reason why many daughters-in-law are afraid to go home for the New Year.
After the New Year, the parents received a bunch of gifts, the children received a number of red envelopes, and their bank card balances shrank a lot.
Haiyan's New Year's greeting model can solve all these problems.
Payment for participation in the dinner, and the party receiving the payment arranges the dinner.
If you don't give gifts to each other, you won't waste any more food.
No longer pay annual New Year's money to reduce the financial burden of the elderly.
Relatives gathered together, reflecting the meaning of the Chinese New Year reunion.
You don't have to always run for New Year's greetings, and you don't have to send it every day.
It is foreseeable that this New Year's greeting model, which is more in line with modern thinking, will definitely be adopted by many families in the future.
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