He Chaolian: My mother's sense of ritual for the New Year is that the house is full of flowers.
didn't expect He Chaolian to go back to her parents' home Macao for the New Year in the first year of marriage.
This year's Spring Festival is a very special year for He Chaolian, her first year as a new wife. After 10 months of marriage, He Chaolian is still not pregnant, and she is still like a girl.
If you want to talk about what marriage brings to a woman? It really depends on the family of origin.
As the daughter of a rich family, He Chaolian's life after marriage has really not changed much. First of all, she does not have the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that ordinary people are worried about.
Dou Xiao's parents are currently living in Canada, and his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law did not live together after marriage, and He Chaolian settled in Shanghai.
Secondly, He Chaolian still works hard after marriage, she has not stopped working hard in her career, she enjoys a married life alone, often goes to concerts with her sister, and lives herself as unmarried.
After getting married, He Chaolian didn't put pregnancy on the agenda. At the age of 32, she was not spawned, and no one dared to give birth.
She has the right to decide when it comes to having children.
It is said that the mother's family is a woman's strong backing and safe haven. What is it like to have a strong mother's family?
He Chaolian can still live a free life after marriage. No matter when, there is a mother's family to cover for her.
After He Chaolian and Dou Xiao got married, she shouldn't have any troubles. If you want money and money, you want love and love, you want a career and a career, and now their troubles are most likely to be pregnant with children.
According to traditional customs, couples should celebrate the New Year at their in-laws' house in the first year of marriage. The customs of many places believe that the girl who marries out is the water that is spilled, and it is not appropriate to go back to her parents' house for the New Year.
If the maiden family has an older brother and younger brother, it may affect their luck.
Of course, He Chaolian did not have such troubles and worries. She is the youngest daughter of the third wife, and she also has an older sister He Chaoyun and a dragon and phoenix brother He Youqi.
The third wife dotes on her youngest daughter He Chaolian very much, and she naturally does not have any taboos. Now there is not a popular saying: all taboos are because of not loving enough.
Parents don't love their daughters enough, so there are many taboos about not being able to go back to their parents' home.
The third wife must hope that her children can return to their parents' home in Macau to accompany her. He Chaolian also posted the third wife's mansion, which is a big villa, which is very luxurious. During the Spring Festival, a bat flew from the third wife's villa.
As a daughter-in-law, go back to your parents' house or go back to your in-laws' house for the New Year?
He Chaolian didn't have this problem at all, she chose to go back to Macau to accompany her mother for the New Year, and did not accompany Dou Xiao back to her mother-in-law's house for the New Year. Dou Xiao skied alone in Anhui, and the two were not in the same frame during the Chinese New Year.
This is the confidence of the mother's family.
Dou Xiao's parents are a pair of very simple elders, and at the wedding ceremony of the two, Dou Xiao's mother didn't even wear jewelry on her body.
She knows very well that in front of her mother-in-law, the third wife Chen Wanzhen, no matter how expensive the jewelry she wears, she is not as good as others. She also knew that in this marriage, it was her son who climbed the He family.
As a mother-in-law, she naturally did not dare to ask her rich daughter-in-law to go back to her mother-in-law's house for the New Year.
This is the disadvantage of men climbing high. In marriage, the man has no say.
From the current point of view, the marriage between Dou Xiao and He Chaolian must be that the woman has the initiative. Of course, He Chaolian also loves Dou Xiao very much, and she was not absent on Dou Xiao's birthday.
After marriage, He Chaolian and Dou Xiao are basically in a state of gathering less and leaving more, and they are both struggling in different fields and growing together.
This may also be a truly good marriage in the new era.
Although the door is not the right one, they are mentally compatible.
It's like "To the Oak Tree": I must be a kapok near you, standing with you as the image of a tree. Roots, clinging to the ground, leaves, touching in the clouds. They greeted each other with every gust of wind, but no one understood their language. You have your safflower fruit, and I have my copper branches and iron stems.
Yang Lan said: A good marriage, in addition to the love between two people, also has the righteousness of treating each other with all sincerity, the tacit understanding of never giving up, and the growth of common breeding, as well as unforgettable kindness.