A nephew of his own family has reached the age of talking about marriage, and yesterday the family party chatted, and the topic naturally turned to him.
The standard for nephews to find a partner, height above 165, weight not more than 55 kg, and beautiful appearance, a proper appearance control. It doesn't matter otherwise.
Some elders said that he was too picky, but the nephew said that he would rather not get married, and the standard could not be lowered.
I told that nephew that young people have their own ideas and their own standards for doing things, which is very good. If you want to find the object you want, you must learn one skill:
I've got a crush on you, you have to take a crush on me!
What I mean by this is that you can only ask for harsh conditions if you are good enough. There is a plane tree at home, and there is a phoenix at home.
In an exclusive interview with Phoenix Satellite TV, Liang Yongan, a professor at Fudan University, pointed out that when today's outstanding women are looking for a partner, they look up and see nothing as much as they look up.
I told my nephew that you have to break through that nothingness, to become the dazzling light in the nothingness, to be the sun they look up to.
When I say this, I don't mean that my nephew is the best young man in the world, nor that you have to be the best young man in the world to find the ideal daughter-in-law, but in fact this is a relative concept.
After all, the social environment in which a person lives is limited by time and space, as long as he becomes the best among the people around him, he can find the object he is looking for.
One of my high school classmates is a typical representative.
After graduating from 211 University, he entered a state-owned enterprise, stood out in his work in less than two years, was appreciated by the leadership, and was promoted to a middle-level position.
At the same time, he has a wide range of personal hobbies, poetry and singing, blowing, playing and singing, swimming and playing ball, and can pick up almost everything. Such a young person must be picky when looking for a partner, and he will definitely be able to compare according to the standards in his heart.
In fact, that classmate did the same. He set his own standards for his future daughter-in-law, and then compared them one by one, and repeatedly compared them among several people who met the standards, and finally found his ideal daughter-in-law.
I told my nephew that the most important thing to do when looking for a daughter-in-law is to work hard to improve yourself. The appearance was given by my parents, but the ability is my own. I have learned a skill, I can find any kind of daughter-in-law, and I don't need to spend bride price.
In recent years, the topic of sky-high bride price has often rushed to the hot search. What is a bride price? It is actually a compensation mechanism in the marriage market.
Competition among men is at the root of the bride price. If you are that good, competitive man, then you can completely ignore the bride price, and you can even ask the woman to post it upside down.
If you are not good enough to occupy an advantageous position in the competition, you can only compensate for your own shortcomings through a relatively easy to quantify bride price.
In fact, to exaggerate the bride price, you can use this analogy: a rich second generation, even if his IQ is less than eighty, and he is crooked and cracked, he can also find a daughter-in-law who is as beautiful as a fairy.
I said to my nephew that the improvement of your own ability will not only allow you to occupy an advantageous position in the matter of finding a daughter-in-law, but also allow you to take a step ahead in the overall competition in the society, and spend the bride price money on the cultivation of personal ability, even if you spend the same money, the effect is completely different, and you will benefit for life.
In fact, whether male or female, if you want to find your favorite partner, the first thing to do, and the most important thing, is to cultivate and improve your own ability.
Iron also needs its own hardness, to find the ideal object, you must shine, then dare to say:
I've got a crush on you, you have to take a crush on me!