#记录我的2024#
As long as it comes to eating wine bowls, the two girls are very excited, and they want to join in the fun, I have a headache and have to take the money out to spend, I don't know if you have ever given gifts and lost money?
Today is just the fourth day of the first lunar month, and I received the news in the group that two families are going to hold a banquet, one is the eighth day of the first month, and the other is twelve, all of whom have to go.
This news for me is first of all my own ticket to fly, and then there are good things to eat, to be honest, the living standards of every family during the New Year have improved compared to usual, there is really no gluttony, but the wine bowl should be eaten and eaten.
When it comes to human contacts, everyone may have encountered it, you went to his family, and it was your turn to hold a banquet, and people pretended to ignore it.
My mother and aunt had no money and were still saving face at their parents' house, and as a result, without exception, all the gifts they gave were lost
When I was only a few years old, my aunt and grandmother went back to their parents' house and met a neighbor who married their daughter-in-law.
My aunt and grandmother gave birth to a total of five children, all of whom were half-grown when they ate the poor old man, and the grain produced in the fields every year was not enough for my cousins and aunts to make except for the public grain, and the food was in short supply for two or three months every year.
Every time my aunt and grandmother go back to their parents' house, they have to take a bag and pick up some food at my house or my aunt's house to eat.
My aunt and grandmother met our neighbor who married her daughter-in-law, and she had no money to borrow five yuan from my mother to pay it back, and it took a few months to pay it back.
After two years, my eldest cousin got married, and my mother brought a letter to the family, and the woman who received the favor money actually shamelessly said to my mother: "Please go and tell her, I don't have any money now, I can't afford to pay her back, I can't afford to marry her daughter-in-law, and I will pay it back when I marry my granddaughter-in-law." ”
It's simply blatant and shameless! Directly eat for nothing, five yuan was worth more than five yuan at that time! I could buy a few catties of meat or dozens of eggs, my aunt's family didn't have enough food to eat, and it was not a problem to buy food for a family to eat for ten days, so I fed the dog for nothing!
Later, my two cousins didn't go to her when they got married, but they still insisted on their own statement and waited for her to marry their granddaughter-in-law, but they didn't wait for my aunt to marry their granddaughter-in-law, and she had braided her hair! Even if she hadn't, I don't think she would have paid it back.
The same thing happened to my mother, and she lost her gift at her mother's house, and I was about ten years old when she gave the ceremony, and at that time, we were generally ten or twenty yuan. Because my father's cousin married into her mother's house, thinking about giving her family a long face, my mother took thirty yuan, and then the old man in my family died and didn't come, and the other family owed me twenty didn't come, saying that he couldn't go for nothing, anyway, I'm so old, and I'll come back when I get married.
But I got married to my ex-husband just got a certificate, and people said that they would not do wedding wine, and when they gave birth to a child, they would kill pigs at home, and his family would slaughter his legs, entertain his guests in the morning, and bring his guests to my house for dinner at noon.
When the time comes, set up two gift books, his family's gift will be accepted by his family, and my family's gift will be received by my family, I don't know, why there are people in this world who only think about beautiful things?
And he thought about it above board and as a matter of course, but fortunately his seed could not germinate, and he did not expect such a good thing in the end.
Endless human affection with endless etiquette, fortunately, most people are still more polite, shameless ones are in the minority, otherwise a family like ours really can't afford to lose
This led to the fact that my family had not held a banquet for a long time, and over time, the ten, twenty, and thirty yuan that were quite valuable added up, at least more than 200 yuan, were completely lost.
In the end, my mother got angry, and she didn't go to the neighbors on her mother's side to hold the banquet, but only went to the relatives who were close to her.
In her words, instead of going so far away, it is better to go to the nearest one, it's okay to go a little more, as soon as the cannon sounds, people will always come when they hear it, and they don't come if they owe me, so it's embarrassing to look up and look down at him!
I didn't expect my mother's words to be in vain! I didn't have any children and was not treated by my ex-husband's family, so I found a new husband, who is my current deceased husband and the father of two children. My eldest girl was born in Chengdu, and she has never held a banquet to receive gifts, and when she was more than nine months old, my neighbor's tea factory and new house were completed to hold a banquet.
At that time, most of the white guests (that is, the relationship in general) came with 200, and my family also followed 200, and a few years later, I gave birth to a little girl and his family was more powerful, with 1000, because my child's father was a worker in his family, and he was helping his family process tea, and there was such a relationship in it.
Then his family married his daughter-in-law, I deducted the original 200 yuan and returned the remaining 800 to him, and then 500, in order not to be confused, I deliberately wrote two names, and the one was written by my father, and the one was written on mine.
About a year later, his daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, and my family went up to 500 yuan, and his family was a total of 1,000 yuan short of me.
In May 2010, my eldest girl had a car accident, and many people who owed me family favors returned the money. But his family only paid me back 500 yuan and bought something for more than 100 yuan, did the 500 give me food?!
Last year, my husband had an accident, and no matter how many people in a production team, many people donated money, and his family never donated money.
Don't say this, our production team had an unwritten rule a few years ago, don't take care of the Taoist priest to buy flowers, a bouquet of chrysanthemums and a stack of paper money will cost 50 yuan, it is better to put together the 50 yuan and hand it over to the master's house to make up for some small dishes, why let the Taoist make money?
Therefore, Mr. Taoist priest can't sell flowers in our production team, at most relatives and friends buy a bunch, and put together a few bunches, so as not to make the tomb empty.
His grandmother died in the old house here, and the gift was confiscated at that time, but my family made up the money, and his family didn't even pay back the 50 yuan to spend money!
No matter how rich you are, some people just don't do things authentically, I can't pull my face and ask you to ask, I don't believe that you can use that money for a lifetime
Their family has a table and the people who can move in my family have gone to help, a gang is two days, my husband died and his family came to hang around, I understand that people are busy doing business, but you have to pay it back, right?
went out and quietly inquired, his family was not the only one who paid back, and the other family was rough, and asked his family directly in person, when did your family hold a banquet for me, how much did you pay back, 1510 back to him, he couldn't pull his face and had to pay back.
If I can't open my mouth to ask him, is it just a loss to be dumb? The key is so close!
To be honest, 500 yuan is not even a dime a dozen for people like them who have assets of hundreds of Ws, but for a poor orphan and widow family like me, I can still do something, I don't want to take advantage of anyone, I just want to get my money back, why is it so difficult?#农村寡妇的日常心声#
Now that others hold banquets, if I owe others, I will only pay back, and I will not be courteous for the time being, and if I don't owe others and have to go, how much depends on the situation. To be honest, the annual exchange of favors is really a big expense, especially when there is no income and I feel more stressed. But fortunately, the spring flowers are blooming, and the day when I have income is coming soon, hope is ahead, come on, come on!