In the relationship between the sexes, should we be honest with each other, or should we have our own eyes?
Some people say that you must be honest with each other, if you can't be honest with each other, then how tired this love should be.
Some people also say that you can't be too honest, and people should have some of their own hearts, otherwise they will only be hurt.
I think the above two statements are true, but you should be honest in love, because if you are not honest, the other party can feel your insincerity, then each other will be full of calculations.
But I also think that people should have a little bit of heart, a woman without a heart is destined to be hurt in love, and in real life, a woman who has no heart and eyes at all is hurt the most.
Therefore, I think honesty should be had, but in addition to honesty, we must have a little bit of our own heart, which does not mean that we want to harm others, but that we should keep some eyes to protect ourselves.
In the relationship between the sexes, women must learn to let themselves have the following three hearts, otherwise it is difficult for men to really love you.
1. You can't love him 100 percent, you have to save some to love yourself
Women who are always hurt a lot in their relationships often pour all their love into men.
Since they have been dating each other, they have always habitually devoted their whole body and mind to each other, put all their attention on each other, and give priority to him in everything.
I always pay attention to him, and I send him a message and chat with him when I have time.
When he needs companionship, put down his work or some important things and run to accompany the other party.
will even give up his good job opportunities for him.
A man may enjoy this kind of 100% love at first, but believe me, as long as it takes a long time, he will definitely find you so annoying and will want to stay away from you.
This is human nature, the more you stick to him, the more he wants to stay away from you.
You can't give all your love to each other, you have to leave some love for yourself, you also need love, you have to pay attention to yourself, you have to care about yourself, when you learn to love yourself, he will love you more.
Second, we must learn to increase the cost of men
I once saw a very popular street photography, that is, the host asked the boys on the side of the road what are the love truths that they don't want women to know, and a boy said that the one that men love the most must be the one who spends the most money.
Perhaps you should have heard such a theory, where a man's money is, there is love.
If a man loves you, he is willing to spend money on you, as long as he can meet it, he will do his best to meet your requirements.
Some girls will unconsciously feel sorry for a man after falling in love, a man spends some money for himself, he feels sorry for him that it is not easy to make money, he feels sorry for him who works too hard, and then he is always reluctant to spend a man's money. Then men will be refused to spend money for themselves.
As everyone knows, this is a rejection of his love for you, at first he may be grateful to you for being sensible and considerate, but after a long time, he will not pay for you anymore, because he finds that he does not have to pay anything to get your love.
There is no cost to you, and he will not love you much. When he meets someone he likes, he will use the money you saved for him to spend on that girl, and the more he spends, the more reluctant he is to leave.
So girls, when you meet someone who is willing to pay for you and takes the initiative to pay for you, don't refuse his pay, learn to spend his money and increase the cost for him, so that he can be even more inseparable from you, because he has paid a lot for you.
3. Don't show your vulnerability in front of him
Everyone will definitely have a time when their hearts are fragile, there will be some small injuries that they have suffered, and when they meet their beloved man, they can't help but want to talk to each other, hoping to get his heartache.
But don't do that, because when you show your vulnerability, you also show your weakness to him love.
When he loves you, he will naturally feel sorry for you, will say sweet words to you, make you happy, and make you feel that you are not so hurt.
But can you guarantee that he will always love you, can you guarantee that there will be no conflict between you, can you guarantee that he will not attack you with your vulnerability?
Human nature is fickle, and you never know when the other person will say something that is vulnerable in your heart and then use it to attack you, especially when there is a conflict between you, when you quarrel.
You can express your unhappiness, if he asks you what's wrong, you don't have to say it, you can just make up one thing, or you can use everything else to cover it up.
In this way, you will be able to be comforted by Him without having to expose your inner vulnerability.
When girls are in love, they really don't have to show themselves 100% honestly, they must learn to keep a little bit of heart for themselves, these hearts and eyes will not cause harm to each other, but they can protect themselves.
Girls who have grown hearts and eyes can be more comfortable in love, and it is easier to avoid the harm of scumbags.
If you expose all of yourself, you can't get the other party's love for you, but only his uncherishment. But if you learn the above three minds, you will be more comfortable in the relationship between the sexes.
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Illustration of the article|Stills from "Love Notebook".