.
Treat yourself as an ordinary colleague and react as an ordinary person.
This is just a normal phenomenon in the workplace, and it is something that most colleagues will do.
Small shoes are more closely related to their own attitudes and ways of dealing with the world... It doesn't really matter what kind of person your colleague is.
Calm attitude, but also calm resort means. The other party tried again and again, and they naturally retreated.
.
.
First of all, it is a normal reaction of colleagues to be inconsistent with each other, and secretly giving shoes is only a means of struggle.
There's no reason why a colleague should be friendly... Of course, there is no reason to speak ill of each other for no reason.
As a social person, as a social person in the competitive field, maintaining a gentle attitude is the basic premise of safe survival.
Be gentle in your attitude, release kindness and kindness, and allow yourself to fit in as safely as possible, or at least safely, into the group.
So on the surface, it's friendly, but in fact, it's just, it's just a normal reaction to the role of a "colleague".
Most of the time, it doesn't make any special sense.
Most of the time, gentleness is a tool for survival, a mask that has to be put on, and has nothing to do with what you really think and feel. It's just a tool to achieve the purpose + maintain socialization.
I don't think that a smile is a true expression of feelings, and it is the basis of a social person.
.
And secretly giving shoes is more of a means of struggle.
It is not excluded that some colleagues will stretch out their hands against people for some reason because of jealousy.
But only a few.
Most of the time, they secretly give out ill-fitting shoes with one purpose - to make it difficult for colleagues to walk, and preferably never open their legs again.
If there are fewer competitors, or the energy of competitors is weakened, won't your road in the unit be smoother?
Maybe because of a colleague's fall, luck will hit your head in an instant.
..
.
Secondly, it is because of the attitude towards oneself and the means of dealing with the world that people find out the mistakes.
Colleagues don't throw small shoes at the beginning, first, they don't dare, and second, they don't master the size.
Colleagues always have to test back and forth, weigh left and right, plan a few times, and practice a few times before it is possible to make a small leather shoes that are almost inseparable and thrown on the body.
In the process, those who are difficult, treacherous, counter-aggressive, or unprofitable will be excluded.
My colleague doesn't want to waste my efforts, and my colleague is even more afraid of being slapped in the face... Unless there is a huge benefit, it is not cost-effective and not worth it.
Therefore, if you repeatedly receive a colleague's small shoes, and they are repeatedly repaired to the point that you can't make a sound when you cry, it is necessary to check yourself to see if you are too soft and kind enough to make everyone unscrupulous, or if you are not very cautious in your daily speech and behavior, and it is easy to be caught by others.
The examination should be objective, starting from the facts, starting from the true self... Instead of going crazy from the perspective of dissecting oneself and denying oneself.
Tests are also not immediate. It's a process of iteration and constant thinking.
.
And the reason why "repeatedly" is emphasized is that there is a process of throwing small shoes.
At first, it is generally a small cloth shoe, which is not very lethal and insulting, so as to observe the reaction.
If you react violently, or fight back strongly, then you can rein in the precipice, and you can be good colleagues on the surface of each other in the future.
If there is no reaction and you suffer silently, then continue to throw.
The material of the shoes can also be upgraded to iron shoes, steel shoes, barbed leather shoes... In short, tailor-made, keep increasing the size, until the feet are so rotten that they can no longer wear them, and the temptation of small shoes will stop.
Of course, at that stage, temptation is no longer necessary.
In the next stage, it can only be a bright flash on the face, a left face, a right face, and a left face......
.
.
Finally, calm attitude, but also calmly send out means.
The unit is a civilized place, so act here, no matter what, with civilization as the foundation.
For example: secretly giving away small shoes, instead of holding a stick to the point (forcing a colleague into a corner).
Rough and straightforward means will only carve 3 big characters on themselves - people can't.
The same rule applies to oneself in small shoes – even though he is a victim, even though the other party is a moral debtor.
Calm attitude.
In any case, don't put anger on your face, let alone direct violence in the palm of your hand.
If you can, try to laugh as much as you can, at least with a blank face.
As long as the emotions are not stirred, half the win.
.
The remaining half is left to the means.
For example, secretly counterattacking, stabbing the little shoes and sending them back, putting barbed soles on the little shoes, and then sending them back around a bend, and so on.
In short, there are many ways.
As soon as the shoes do not work, or even react, the other party will stop the temptation and turn the target elsewhere.
There are also some small shoes that are pure chicken feathers, so there is no need to pay attention to them at all.
.
But until you are completely sure, it is recommended not to throw small shoes rashly.
Mastering the means is also a process that requires a lot of practice and thought, and it cannot be supported by anger.
If you haven't experienced practice and thinking, you haven't practiced silky methods, and you don't have a ruthless heart, throwing small shoes will become a secondary injury.
At least give yourself some time to think and plan again before you fight back.
.
。
In short, a colleague who was still smiling gently at the last moment, and the next second, through unexpected channels, sent tailor-made small shoes, which can only be said to be a normal means in the unit.
This is more of a "colleague" - that natural competitor, consciously or unconsciously sent a competitive signal.
As for whether the small shoes can be successfully delivered, in addition to the force of the environment, it depends more on the specific reaction and specific methods of the person who is shoeed.
The reaction is in place, or the method is in place, and the little shoes come to an abrupt end, and they simply become the spice for colleagues to get along with.
The reaction is not in place, and the reverse pumping is weak, so the small shoes will be changed to a different material and continue to be on.
This is the unit, this is the competitive means called "eliminating the opponent" by colleagues, and there is nothing special about it.
.
As for the smile on his face, but he gave small shoes behind his back?
Of course, you have to laugh on your face, so it's obviously more paralyzing, coaxing, and teasing people, isn't it?
You can't put a bad purpose on your face, isn't that clearly looking for revenge?
No one is so stupid, no matter how smart they are.
.
This is not a moral issue.
Where there is competition, many of the means to an end can only be called a means even if they are not ethical.
It's like the cosmetics advertisement, dare to say anything, dare to draw anything.
People know that this is not true, and spending a lot of money to buy it to wipe their faces is more of a comforting effect.
But it is also believed that it is only a propaganda method called "exaggeration", and it is never recognized as a moral issue.
.
Leaders always promote unreliable people, and repeatedly suppress capable people, how is it a brain circuit?