The Spring Festival is a good opportunity to take children to feel the power of the family.
Before eating Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, I laid the groundwork on the "sleeping meeting" for several days.
But today's family reunion made me realize a huge gap and a cruel truth:
Behind the solidification of class is actually a huge difference in the development of families.
At the dinner table, there was no substantive communication between the whole family.
Several children who go to college look down at their mobile phones throughout the whole process, and the old man looks at the children's faces and speaks.
If it weren't for the fact that there were two children about three years old who still "said some "jokes" "without taboo",
Let the audience have a little bit of topic,
The whole party gave a strong feeling: want to escape!
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For a person to achieve great things, he must rely on the strength of his family
Maybe you will give me a bar, then, you are right and I am wrong.
Straight to the point!
China is a family society, and we need no denying that.
In a society made up of families, if a person wants to achieve something, he must rely on the strength of the family.
When the family strength is strong, the starting point is high, and the family strength is weak, and there is a ceiling for achievements.
Without the support of the power of the family, most ordinary people, you earn hundreds, thousands of Ws may be capped, and then up, to the top of the fierce competition and cruelty, all the fight is the strength of the family, otherwise whoever wants to step on you can step on you, step on you, see that you are not capable of fighting back, and will directly scrap you.
When I went back to my hometown, my teammates suddenly told me: I may not be able to make a lot of money in my life!
At that time, I still felt that he was looking for a reason, fighting with him along the way, the international situation to the domestic situation to the future development trend and then to the real case, trying to overturn his point of view, but after eating this meal, I thought: maybe he is right!
Whether it's Li Jiaqi or Dong Yuhui, people can create a god or destroy him in an instant.
But if you want to destroy Huo Qigang, I'm afraid you don't count what you said, you have to look at the strength behind others.
Otherwise, just like Dong Yu will say: "No matter how much money you make, you will still have an inferiority complex from the bottom of your bones."
It's not so much low self-esteem as it is the development of a certain level of insecurity.
The era of individuals going it alone didn't exist five to 10 years ago.
What can be done in this day and age,
or with the help of the power of the family to go to the next level,
Or start from scratch and bring out a family.
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How does a family rise?
If a family wants to rise, it must first be born in a good place, or move to a good place.
When I say "good places", I don't mean big cities like "Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou", but places with better cultural environments.
Because each place has special attributes, which are formed by the accumulation of many years of history, and are not transferred by personal will at all.
For example, in ancient times, Yulin, Datong, and Liaodong were all places with abundant martial virtues, because they were close to the Mongolian steppe, and life was imperfect without experiencing several wars, so these places were fertile ground for high-quality soldiers.
If you like to read, or want to make a career by reading, then there is basically no drama in these places, and it is likely that you will not even meet "excellent teachers at the county level".
However, the south of the Yangtze River is a wealthy, comfortable and peaceful environment, but it is a place where scholars have been born for thousands of years.
So when you look at celebrity biographies or genealogies, you can always find a fixed routine: XX Gong moved here at XX time.
Like Meng's mother and the three moves, they all choose good places with the best resources within the scope of their ability.
The ancestor of Zeng Guofan's family is Zeng Mengxue, in the early years of the Qing Dynasty, he settled down in Xiangxiang County, and it was passed to Zeng Guofan is the 9th generation, and 200 years have passed.
This brings us to the second key issue: family legacy.
I don't know if you have observed this phenomenon, there are many rich people who have risen in this generation, but when they made a fortune, they wanted to bring their relatives out to do it together, but they found that they were all pig teammates.
Either they hollowed out the company in partnership, or they did evil because the boss was a relative.
In the end, not only did these rich people not have relatives and brothers, but they could only fight alone.
Therefore, in the history of the future family, these people are not the ones who carry forward the family, but the founders of the family.
There is no family inheritance.
However, like a mature family in Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai, there are people in each generation of a family who are officials, scientific researchers, and businessmen, so the children cultivated must be of high quality, after all, they have high-quality resources, and they can also smash their abilities with resources.
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The solidification of the class has intensified, and it is difficult for the poor to produce a noble son
In recent years, there has been a popular saying: It is difficult to produce a noble son from a poor family.
In fact, the truth is very cruel, and it has been difficult for a poor family to produce a noble son since ancient times.
Because since it is a poor family, there must be a lack of resource inheritance, where is the noble son without inheritance?
What we call the poor family is actually the ancient middle class,
Ordinary people like us can't be called poor, and they don't even have a door.
Therefore, a family has the accumulation of several generations and the inheritance of various resources, and it is a high probability event to seize the opportunity to produce a noble son, while without accumulation and resource inheritance, it is an accidental event to try luck.
Now when most ordinary families have no conditions or do not want to have children,
The families I see are all crazy about having children.
The upper strata are expanded, and the bottom is atomized.
This will lead to more and more class solidification, and there will be fewer and fewer opportunities for ordinary people.
There are no far-sighted elders in ordinary people's families.
There is no middle-aged person who can provoke the beam,
There are no young talents with a promising future.
The whole looks like a plate of scattered sand, the older people themselves lie flat first, lie on the former merit book, look at the younger generation is not pleasing to the eye, and comfort the young people "contentment" and "better than the bottom", this feeling is like, I want to score 99 points, but only by my own efforts to score 60 points, I am very sad, I want to let the adults guide me, but they comfort me and say: "It doesn't matter if you do badly"......
Even as soon as they get together during the Chinese New Year, they quarrel and have conflicts over a big fart, and they worry about giving more and less than dozens of dollars of New Year's money.
In mature families, young people don't hate parties, everyone is a leader in various industries, everyone talks about the New Year's dry method, whether there is any possibility of cooperation, a touch of a wine glass, and the business is finalized.
Therefore, compared with mature families, ordinary families have no combat effectiveness at all, and they are weak chickens!
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There is no absolute fairness in the world, and fairness is obtained in relative fairness
It has been said, "Children and grandchildren have their own blessings." ”
This sentence is true, no one can control the affairs of their children and grandchildren, their blessings and misfortunes are all self-inflicted, but a generation has a generation's responsibility.
If you don't fulfill your responsibilities, you are pushing the responsibility to the next generation, and what you have not done in your life, the children will repeat the path you have walked.
This world is a relay race, never a 100-meter sprint.
If every generation thinks that "children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren", then when the next era changes, your children and grandchildren still can't seize the opportunity, and what can they say to change their fate.
Otherwise, why do you think that your 10-year cold window can compare to our three generations of business?
On a moral level, this phrase is anti-human, and it touches the greatest hope of ordinary people: knowledge changes destiny.
On a practical level, this statement is true.
Many people think it's unfair, but it's not necessary.
There is never absolute fairness in this world, only relative fairness.
All we can do is get fairness in relative fairness.
If you have to say that there is no hope now, then I don't say anything.
Huang Shilang, who everyone hates, is a family force, but after personal development, it will inevitably bring up family power.