When we are young, we always think that today's busyness is for the sake of a better life in old age, but only when people reach their old age and experience it, they know that sometimes, life will also have troubles.
As long as there are people, there will be rivers and lakes, we remember that the sunset is infinitely good, but we forgot that there is a sentence in the back, if you want the beauty of the sunset, there are also prerequisites, such as a healthy body, enough pension, and accompany your wife.
Only with these can you live happily in your old age, but the last of these three seems to be easy, but in fact it is the most difficult to achieve.
No, Uncle Lu in the hospital, for some reason, he was single in his old age, he found a wife to live with, and just after 3 years of partnering, a partner that originally seemed to be a good partner was defeated by the hearts of the people, and eventually led to the breakup.
65-year-old Uncle Lu
Uncle Lu is just 65 years old this year, a retired worker, with a pension of 5,300 per month, and no other burden.
It stands to reason that there are so many pensions, which is enough for Uncle Lu to live well in his old age, but the reality is far behind.
Just because, three years ago, Uncle Lu made a wrong choice, so that his originally comfortable life was a chicken feather because of his partner, not only did not fall well, but he almost lost his pension.
Uncle Lu's wife left when he was 57 years old, and in the first few years of living alone, although Uncle Lu was not adaptable, he was fortunate to have a job, and his busy work filled his life, so that he would not be so lonely and uncomfortable.
After his wife passed away, someone also introduced Uncle Lu to him, but Uncle Lu didn't agree. On the one hand, because he actually blamed himself for the death of his wife.
When I was young, I was busy with my wife all my life, so I thought about retiring and going out for a walk together. But his wife didn't think of Fu yet, so she left, leaving her alone.
On the other hand, he was also worried that he would be gossiped about by others when he entered the marriage again not long after his wife left. As a result, the matter of remarriage was put on hold, and the turning point occurred after retirement.
In the days after retirement, to be honest, it is very boring and empty, and Uncle Lu, who is used to being busy every day, is very unaccustomed. Every day, I look at the empty room alone, and there is no one to talk to, and the days are very lonely.
Uncle Lu tried to cultivate a hobby for himself, or play with people in the community, but he was fine during the day, but he was still lonely at night.
At that time, there happened to be an incident in the neighborhood next door, an empty nester was sick at home, his children were out of town, and his wife was not around, and he was found out for several days.
This gave Uncle Lu a big blow, and it also made him think of finding a companion for himself again, so that even if someone accompanies him, he can take care of each other.
Through the introduction of the middleman, Uncle Lu met 56-year-old Aunt Du. Aunt Du has been divorced for many years and has been living with her son and taking care of her son's family.
After her son got married, Aunt Du helped with housework and watched the children until the children went to elementary school, and the daughter-in-law's attitude changed, and she wanted to drive Aunt Du away.
In order not to let the family have more conflicts, and in order to avoid being angry with her daughter-in-law, Aunt Du asked others to help and introduce herself to a wife, so that she could have a foothold in the future and rely on each other for warmth, and Aunt Du and Uncle Lu also met in this way.
After getting along for more than half a year, the two felt good about each other, so they discussed with each other, and Aunt Du moved to Uncle Lu's house to live with Uncle Lu.
The two live together, and the money before the partnership has nothing to do with the other, and they do not interfere with each other's children's affairs, nor can they ask each other to help their sons. After partnering, the two are responsible for the affairs of the family together, and they have always been responsible for the money, and the big expenses must be informed to both parties, and an agreement was signed with this.
When I first started to partner with us, life was quite comfortable, Aunt Du was very diligent, cleaned up the house very well, and took good care of Uncle Lu. In return, Uncle Lu would often give Aunt Du money to spend, and would also buy gifts for Aunt Du to surprise her.
During the New Year's holidays, Aunt Du's son's family came to visit Aunt Du, and Uncle Lu would also let Aunt Du entertain her, and Uncle Lu would also prepare red envelopes for Aunt Du's grandson.
It looks like his own grandchildren and relatives. Uncle Lu's behavior also made Aunt Du very happy, feeling that she had married the right person and was very happy.
But this happiness did not last long, a year after the partnership, Aunt Du's son found Aunt Du, saying that they were busy with work and had no time to take care of the children, so let the children live with Aunt Du, Aunt Du was responsible for picking up and dropping off the children to and from school every day, and they picked up the children on weekends.
At first, Uncle Lu didn't say anything about this matter, after all, it was his mother who was in trouble, not him, and he only picked him up every day.
But three months later, Uncle Lu felt that he couldn't stand it anymore. Because of the arrival of this child, there was a commotion at home, and Uncle Lu's life was also messed up because of this child.
Every day, when the child comes home from school, he is very energetic, jumping up and down at home, either getting this thing to the place, or bouncing on the sofa, and throwing things everywhere.
Every day at less than eleven o'clock, this child will not sleep, and Uncle Lu will not be at peace.
Originally, Uncle Lu was not a person who liked to be noisy, and he liked to be clean, so he couldn't see things thrown around. Seeing the child like this, he said to Aunt Du a few times that Aunt Du would take care of it and teach the child.
But Aunt Du always promised well, but in fact, she didn't hear it, Uncle Lu was very helpless about it, think about it if it wasn't his own grandson, bear with it first.
When he couldn't help it, Uncle Lu would also teach the children a lesson, but every time he just said a few words, he would be interrupted by Aunt Du. Sometimes Aunt Du will say that she is stingy, and she cares about a child when she is old.
Forget it, what makes Uncle Lu unbearable is that the child has been here for more than a year, and the child's parents have not given him a cent of living expenses. When he was still in school in the second year, he even wanted Uncle Lu to pay for his tuition.
In this regard, Uncle Lu refused, and he said to Aunt Du: This is your grandson, not mine, he also has parents, and the tuition fee is the business of the child's parents, not my step-grandfather.
It's okay if your son doesn't pay for living expenses, anyway, the child is small and can't eat much, and you are her own grandmother, so I will pretend not to know. But don't take people too seriously, I'm living with you, not with your family.
Uncle Lu thought that he said this, Aunt Du should understand what she meant, but she didn't know that Aunt Du took advantage of her lack of attention and quietly used the family's money to sign up for a cram school for her son, which made Uncle Lu angry.
I didn't find a partner, I found a bloodsucker. He thought that Aunt Du could quietly spend the money for her grandson today, and whether she would be able to quietly move her pension to her son's house one day.
Uncle Lu didn't want to bear this matter, he was worried that one day he would accidentally be kept in the dark again, or one day he would be hollowed out.
He had a big quarrel with Aunt Du, but Aunt Du didn't realize her mistake at all.
Helplessly, Uncle Lu proposed to Aunt Du to break up the gang, since his heart is not on his son's side, then go back to his son. I'm scared, I just want to find someone to accompany me, and I don't want to lose the future.
Write at the end
It's true that Aunt Du wants to help her son reduce her burden, but she can't treat the other party's money as her own, and she doesn't say hello, and she takes it to sign up for a cram school for her grandson, which will only make people feel disrespectful and insincere.
Her approach was very inappropriate, and she had no intention of repenting after that, and she didn't blame Uncle Lu for proposing to break up. After all, the agreement is well written, and Aunt Du unilaterally violates it, which shows that her selfishness is too heavy and it is not suitable to continue to partner up, otherwise there will be more contradictions in the future.
When the old man remarries, there are some things that must be complied with in advance, and the feelings of both parties must be considered. Whether it is remarriage or partnering, as long as one party is too selfish, the two will not have a good life, and life can only be chicken feathers.