With the progress of society and the change of people's concepts, more and more couples choose to become Dinks and pursue a free and independent lifestyle. However, over time, some Dink couples' perceptions have changed, and the promises and decisions they once made pale in the face of reality.
Li Li and Wang Xue are typical Dink husband and wife. Twenty years ago, they met and fell in love when they were in college, and finally entered the palace of marriage. At the beginning of their marriage, the two reached a tacit understanding and decided not to have children and live the fashionable and free Dink life at that time.
Over time, Li Li and Wang Xue's lives have also changed. As Li Li's career developed better and better, he began to feel that it was a very important thing to have a child who could inherit his career and continue his bloodline.
And Wang Xue, although she doesn't have much resistance to having children, years of Dink life have made her accustomed to freedom and feel at a loss for the sudden change.
Li Li began to frequently mention the matter of having children, and he even threatened Wang Xue and said: "If you don't have children, you will divorce!" This made Wang Xue very shocked, she didn't expect that her husband, who had promised to spend his life with her, would file for divorce because of this problem, and Dink was a decision they made together before.
Wang Xue felt very helpless and angry in the face of her husband's insistence, and she was already forty years old, and she tried to communicate with Li Li, hoping that he would understand her worries and fears, but Li Li seemed to have made up his mind not to change.
Wang Xue had to start thinking about whether to give up the lifestyle she had always insisted on for the sake of this marriage, or give up this marriage.
Wang Xue realized that the promises in the original marriage were not set in stone. She began to reflect on whether she was really ready for the arrival of a child, and whether the decision was really good for both of them, and even now, whether she could have a child is unknown.
In the end, Wang Xue made a difficult decision, she was willing to try to have a baby, and began to actively prepare for pregnancy. But her heart is getting heavier and heavier, she finds that she is not looking forward to the arrival of the child like Li Li, and she begins to worry about whether she can be a good mother and adapt to this new role.
Although Li Li was satisfied with Wang Xue's compromise, he did not realize how much courage and sacrifice this decision required for Wang Xue.
Finally, in a fierce quarrel, Wang Xue broke out. She told Li Li that she regretted it, that she didn't want to have children, and that she didn't want to sacrifice her happiness and health in order to cater to his wishes. Li Li was shocked by Wang Xue's decision, and he couldn't understand why Wang Xue would change his mind at the last minute.
The crisis of marriage is approaching like a blizzard, and it is a precarious moment.
As bystanders, we also need to think deeply about the predicament of Li Li and Wang Xue. And why I don't approve of young couples making Dink decisions lightly.
First, people's perceptions and values may change over time. At a young age, many couples pursue a free, independent lifestyle, believing that they can enjoy life better without the ties of children. As they get older, some people may begin to desire to have a family and children, believing that it is an important part of a full life.
Second, public opinion and family pressure cannot be ignored in Chinese society. Despite society's increasingly tolerant attitude towards the Dinks, there are still some who believe that families without children are incomplete and even put pressure on couples to change their decisions. This pressure may cause some couples to reconsider their choices.
Let's go back to Li Li and Wang Xue. Eventually, they reached a new agreement, they decided not to have children for a while, to give each other half a year to think, and during this time to try to improve their relationship with each other and rebuild trust and understanding.
Commitment in marriage can sometimes be as fickle as the weather. Everyone has the right to decide their own path in life
Before making any decisions, couples should fully understand each other's thoughts and values and be well prepared for the future.