The second day of the Lunar New Year is the day of "routine" for sons-in-law, and they go back to their mother-in-law's house to pay New Year's greetings. But I don't know when it started, this trip back to my parents' home seems to have become a fixed pattern of "plugging in my pocket, looking at the dog, and staying for a day and we'll go". This phenomenon has aroused heated discussions among netizens, and many people have shared their experience of returning to their mother-in-law's house, and they have expressed "sympathy".
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Why are sons-in-law always so relaxed when they go to their mother-in-law's house? In fact, there is a subtle psychological state hidden behind this. For many sons-in-law, the mother-in-law's home is a special place. There is neither the freedom of the husband and wife's world, nor the casualness of being in their parents' house. In the mother-in-law's mother's house, the sons-in-law can neither be too lazy nor too presumptuous, and this "golden mean" makes them have a certain "unity" in action.
First of all, the pocket has become a self-protection mechanism for sons-in-law. In the mother-in-law's house, every move may become part of the "assessment", and the action of inserting the pocket seems to be relaxed and casual, but it actually gives people the feeling of "comfortable but not rude". This seemingly casual action is actually to avoid too much attention and unnecessary tension.
And the interaction with the dog is an ingenious way for the sons-in-law to get closer to their mother-in-law's family. As man's most loyal friend, dogs are able to quickly break the strangeness between people. Many sons-in-law easily establish contact with members of their mother-in-law's family by playing with dogs and feeding them, thus making themselves more comfortable in this unfamiliar environment.
Of course, there are also sons-in-law who choose to spend their time at their mother-in-law's house in other ways. They may choose to help with household chores, play with their children, or chat with their husbands. These interactions are all about letting the people of the mother-in-law's family see their qualities and abilities in other aspects besides their relationship with their wife.
But then again, although the state of the sons-in-law in the mother-in-law's house seems to be relaxed and casual, behind it is their respect and intentions for the family. In their own way, they are trying to integrate into this new family environment and hope to find their place here. And for the people in the mother-in-law's mother's family, seeing the daughter's husband treat this family so attentively, their hearts are naturally happy.
Lao Qian's views and customs analyze this matter
On the second day of the Lunar New Year, the custom of sons-in-law returning to their mother-in-law's house to pay New Year's greetings has always been a unique landscape in traditional Chinese culture. However, in recent years, this traditional custom has gradually evolved into a fixed model of "inserting a pocket, looking at the dog, and staying for a day before we leave", which has aroused heated discussions among many netizens. As a person who is well versed in traditional Chinese customs, I think there are many questions worth thinking about behind this phenomenon.
First of all, from the perspective of Lao Qian's view, the relaxed state of the sons-in-law in the mother-in-law's house is actually a sign of respect and politeness. In traditional Chinese culture, respect for elders and courtesy are very important values. The sons-in-law show a relaxed state at their mother-in-law's house, which not only reflects their respect for their mother-in-law's family, but also reflects their desire to establish a harmonious relationship with the family.
Secondly, this fixed pattern also reflects the fast pace and pressure of modern life. In today's society, people's life is getting faster and faster, and the work pressure is getting more and more intense. Therefore, for many sons-in-law, going back to their mother-in-law's home can be a way to relax and decompress. They use this light-hearted way to regulate their emotions and relieve stress.
However, this fixed pattern can also have some negative effects. On the one hand, it can lead to the mother-in-law's mother-in-law's expectations of her son-in-law, who are considered to be disrespectful and irresponsible. On the other hand, it can also make the son-in-law feel an invisible pressure as they need to appear perfect in their mother-in-law's home.
To sum up, although the custom of sons-in-law returning to their mother-in-law's house to pay New Year's greetings on the second day of the Lunar New Year has gradually evolved into a fixed pattern, the old money views and the characteristics of modern life reflected behind it are worth pondering. We should respect everyone's choices and feelings, and at the same time, we should understand and tolerate the challenges and changes that this traditional practice faces in modern society.